In the movie "Hot and Hot", Li Xueqin played a junior who stole her best friend's boyfriend behind her back.
After watching the movie, I heard some netizens comment: "Other juniors are so annoying, but Li Xueqin's mistress is not disgusting." ”
I rolled my eyes, but I couldn't help but ask "why".
Why? Because Li Xueqin slapped the scumbag after making out in the movie? Or is it because Li Xueqin is a talk show actor?
When it comes to talk shows, I can't help but say something like this:
Li Xueqin, who is on the big screen, is completely popular, and the talk show industry that helped her get out of the circle is gradually cooling.
Li Dan hid, the pool hadn't been seen for a long time, Cam was arrested for taking drugs, the house was found by the police uncle to talk, and even Yang Bo, who was careless and flirting with his sister on the beach of Xiamen University, was almost over.
In the words of talk show actor Tong Monan:
"As soon as I turned around, the industry was gone. ”
In the first two years, because of the mask problem and inner conflict, I was somewhat emo.
When people are mourning, it is easier to pursue simple happiness in order to hide the solid pain, so I watched talk shows a lot during that time.
It is also because "the end of the universe is Tieling, and the end of the establishment is civil servants", "Someone asked if you regret leaving Beijing?" It's like I've been to Beijing" these funny and heart-piercing sentences, and I met Li Xueqin - of course, Li Xueqin didn't know me.
The moment I met Li Xueqin, I felt thisChubby, mournful, flabby enough to be defenseless, real enough to want to protectThe girl is not simple.
I said that Li Xueqin is not simple, definitely not only because she graduated from Peking University with a major in journalism and went to the United States to study, and once confessed to Wu Yifan, who had worn silver handcuffs to step on the sewing machine in order to become famous.
I said that Li Xueqin is not simple, mainly to sayShe took a weak attitude, stubbornly grasped the weakness of human nature, and found the most awesome self in the seemingly lying flat but actually progressive growth.
My conclusion, as far as the Classics are concerned, is supported by the following three arguments:
First, there is no aggressive imperfection, which makes people naturally feel good.
Li Xueqin is actually very good-looking, but she is a little fat, and she revealed that she suffers from depression, and she ran back to China without finishing her studies.
In addition, when she is on variety shows, she always exposes her inner struggle and fragility in a way that is not bitter and hateful, and it is easy for people to accept her, identify with her, and like her without defense.
It is precisely the intimacy of self-deprecation and self-deprecation in her body that obscures her sense of perfection when she was admitted to Peking University and attended the Ivy League, which makes people feel infinitely tolerant of her.
There is a human weakness involved, in Camus's words:
We seldom trust people who are better than us, and prefer to avoid associating with them.
Instead, we often confide in others who are similar to us and share our weaknesses.
We don't want to get rid of our weaknesses, we just want to be pityd and encouraged.
The weakness of human nature is to like people who are incomplete and imperfect, because it comforts oneself.
Li Xueqin is such an existence:
There are many people who graduated from Peking University and studied in the United States, but Li Xueqin, who is sad and angry, is unique.
Second, true empathy is actually a kind of support.
The anger of this era is very heavy, and at every turn, they will go online to crusade against this and destroy that, in this context, people with strong empathy will be popular.
What is empathy?
It is willing to use one's kindness to understand the vulnerability of others, to use one's own gentleness to resolve the embarrassment of others, and to use one's compassion to accept the plight of others.
To put it simply:It is to be willing to open oneself and let out a little bit of light to let others out of the darkness.
Li Xueqin is a person with strong empathy ability, and in many shows, she can catch her partner's words and use the support of kindness to settle the other party.
Not only is she empathetic, but she also thinks about both sides of this ability.
She said that when she was a child, because of family changes and her parents divorced, she stifled her rebellious period and became a very likable child, and even made it her task to please others.
She confesses that being good at making others happy and being really happy are actually two different things.
Or maybe it's just being too good at making others happy, so you're not happy.
Alas, oh mom, this kind of speculation has once again triggered a wave of empathy:
That's right, that's right, I'm talking about the people-pleasing personality. Oops, Li Xueqin's empathy ability is too strong. ”
That's pretty powerful.
True empathy is not narcissism of self-talk, nor sensational blind comfort, butA kind of support
Use the good and bad of "me" to support the good and bad of "you", and then let us be close to each other, each other.
Third, all those who go the long way have the blessing of talent.
Li Xueqin has been on many hot searches because of her "super good memory" and "very fast adaptability".
Because of these two abilities, another person who is hotly searched is Sa Beining, who also graduated from Peking University.
It's not that we worship famous schools, but to be honest, those who can be admitted to a famous school or are particularly good in a certain field must have her (his) excellence.
I read a poem written by Li Xueqin, and the poem goes like this:
I just accidentally agreed
For the sleeping wheat
The moon that keeps watch all night
From then on, he went to the wasteland every night
The night is cloudless
No one knows what's in my heart
I love the stars
Just, I tasted it again and again, and I still felt very talented.
When she participates in the show, she often says particularly poetic words:
I'm not afraid of parting, because parting is the second most romantic thing in the world, and every goodbye after parting is a reunion, and reunion is the first romantic thing. ”
Although most of the shows Li Xueqin participated in were entertaining and funny, and the movies she participated in were all supporting roles, you can see her potential talent and romance from her relaxed state.
There are some things that can't be hidden, such as the books you have read, the people you have met, the roads you have walked, the things you have done, and the scenery you have enjoyed.
They seem to be silent, but they have long since turned into your flesh and blood, and in your casual words and deeds, they are exposed, turned into rainbows, lighting up you and tendering me.
In this impetuous era, there are many people who say that reading is useless and that there is no way to learn.
But, I still have to say one thing:
The more crazy the era, the more we must study with devotion, study with peace of mind, and be a down-to-earth person.
Because, madness will always pass, and you will always fall in love with your solid self.