If youIf you are not strong enough, it is useless to know anyoneThe so-called "connections" are also just a joke. In the circle of friends, 80% of people are not connected; People who have not been in contact for a long time suddenly become very enthusiastic about you, either because they want to see your jokes, or they just don't have money; In a relationship, whoever is active will be passive; No matter how big someone else's eaves are, it is not as good as having an umbrella yourself...You may not understand the essence of socializing until you are old: it is the exchange of values, including money, ability, emotions, status, and so on. The world of adults,The most stable relationship is the relationship of interests, followed by the blood relationship。Don't overestimate relationships, don't underestimate the rules of human nature. What kind of person you want to have a long-term relationship with is often up to you. If you want not to be manipulated, you must learn to see through the nature of socialization. 01 Be ruthlessBe ruthless and be strongis the key to solving all problems. Our biggest connection is not others, but ourselves. Some hardships must be eaten, the hardships of resisting pressure to make money, the hardships of reducing the hardships of starvation and becoming beautiful, and the hardships of learning to stay up late. If you're not strong enough, it's useless to know anyone, and the so-called "connections" are just a joke. In this world,It doesn't matter who you know, what matters is who you are。The biggest noble person in life is yourself, you are good enough, and the noble person will appear. When you are worthless, when you are at the bottom, no one will help you, kindness is useless, you have to be excellent. Only by getting yourself done can you get rid of others, and only then can you get rid of the world. When you don't reach a certain level, your connections are unreliable, and you can only have connections if you are powerful or equivalent exchanged. You can only win if you are ruthless enoughIf you are not cruel to yourself, this society will be cruel to you. 
02 Don't be with peopleBetween people,What is needed most is actually boundaries and proportions。Getting too close to anyone is the beginning of loss. The most childish behavior of adults is to communicate with each other: how many secrets do you tell?There are as many dangers as there are to you: Always "talk deeply", honestly tell others what you really think when you are not familiar with it, and finally find yourself a laughing stock of others; After the adjustment went ashore, he was said behind his back by his former best friend: "A person like her who doesn't work hard is already thankful that she can be adjusted"; You are too kind, empathize with him and complain together, and he will add fuel to your unintentional or even unintentional words without your knowledge and pass them on to others. If you're going to be pinched a lot,That's only one reason why you're revealing too much information to others, making it easy for others to know what your weaknesses are. No matter what your friends are, never reveal 100% of yourself. The essence of life is to live alone, and not to expect from others. Getting too close to anyone is a disasterBecause the people who stab you in the back are the acquaintances who know you best03 It's not scary to have no friendsDo you work alone in a big city? Do you feel a little lonely sometimes? When people reach a certain age, they must learn to be alone. Not having friends is really not a big deal, loneliness is the norm in life。There is no need to be afraid to walk on the road by yourself, eat by yourself, and study by yourself; One goes to the hospital in the middle of the night, one goes to the cinema alone, travels alone; Office workers usually spend a day in the company, and when they come home from work, they just want to do what they like, they don't want to read WeChat, they don't want to chat. But in fact, it is also good to travel without discussing the time and destination with others, let alone considering other people's preferences. When you are alone,It is suitable to talk to your heart and live with your own thoughts。Good friends are not earned through hard work, but met by running on their own paths. The older I get, the more I understand that everyone has their own path to follow. There's really no need to take friendship too seriously, and it's lucky to be able to accompany each other for a while. Author: Yan Jiu, 99 years of Dachang naked resignation in the text, working life, healthy life, make money and save money, pay attention to me, grow together!
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