The poem says: "Once the door of Artemisia is closed, you don't hear about the day." ”
As soon as the door is closed, the day's events are gone; As soon as you close your eyes, a lifetime of things is over.
Think about it, there are so many times in life, more times to get angry, and fewer times to enjoy happiness; Troubles are endless, and there is no place for happiness.
The ancients invented the word "anger", which is "slave" and "heart" in appearance. When people are angry, their hearts are slaves.
Correspondingly, there is also the word "forgiveness", which is disassembled, that is, "such as" and "heart". People who are not angry live to their heart's content.
Don't get angry and ask yourself how many years you have to live. "To be forgiving and forgiving", to let others go is to live your own life.
Angry, whether it is self-inflicted cleverness, or a joke in the eyes of others.
The Ming Dynasty writer Feng Menglong wrote a story about "Wang Anshi's Three Difficulties Su Bachelor".
Su Dongpo's official worship of Hanlin is a bachelor, and the export is admirable.
One day, Su Dongpo went to visit Prime Minister Wang Anshi and wrote a line of words: "Autumn flowers are not better than spring flowers, and I said that I chanted carefully with the poet." It means to criticize Wang Anshi, he is too confused, he doesn't know that the chrysanthemums in autumn will not fly in the wind, and they can't be compared with the peach blossoms and cherry blossoms in spring.
Wang Anshi took out the poem manuscript and looked at it, and felt that Su Dongpo was proud of his talent, so he demoted him to Huangzhou.
On the day he got the order, Su Dongpo was very angry - he knew in his heart that Wang Anshi had offended by changing the poem, and he had a personal vendetta.
Autumn came, Su Dongpo walked into the courtyard and found that the chrysanthemums in Huangzhou were flying in the wind, and his face was red.
You think you're amazing, but you don't know that in the shadows, there are a lot of people who see you laughing. You are angry, but the onlookers know it, but they are too lazy to talk to you.
People who are stronger than you will take the opportunity to crush you, and people who are weaker than you will avoid you. When you see through the real situation, you can also repent, but the consequences of anger are difficult to remedy.
The saddest thing is that some people, in the wrong direction, go farther and farther, and give others the pleasure of "waiting and seeing".
Angry, is it to add fuel to the fire, or to clean up the mess yourself.
Maybe you, like me, have had the experience of messing up your job, but you are not convinced in your heart and want to defend yourself. After being criticized, he slapped the computer keyboard at will and threw away his mobile phone. As a result, I broke my own things.
Everyone pays for their mistakes. If you don't want to, you're going to be wrong again and again.
In the thirty-fourth volume of Xingshi Hengyan, there is a man named Qiu Yida, who lives in Jingdezhen and makes a living by burning kilns.
One day, when he came home after finishing his work, he heard his neighbor Aunt Sun scolding. It turned out that his son made a bet with Aunt Sun's son and lost a penny, and his wife Yang was angry and asked for the money back.
Aunt Sun took out the posture of a shrew scolding the street, saying that the Yang family had betrayed the family and lacked morality.
There is a good saying: "We always give our bad faces to our family members and good faces to outsiders." ”Qiu Yida believed and listened to it, thinking that what Aunt Sun said was right. Therefore, he drove his wife away. Later, he became a "loner", and because he lost his wife, he got into a lawsuit.
The matter of a penny is not big, but it is small or small. But there are always people who have to pay a huge price for it.
In ordinary life, we are not short of a dime, but we will be indignant because others have given us a dime less, and even scold others for this.
Calm down, do the math, if you lose a hundred dollars, but you have to spend two hundred dollars to make up for it, then don't make up for it. Learn the routine of "making up for the dead", and in the future, you can start again.
Angry, it's nothing to look for, and he got into the tip of the horns.
Seen a joke.
Someone asked the painter Picasso: "Why can't people understand your paintings?" ”
Picasso thought for a moment and asked rhetorically, "Does the thrush call nicely?" ”
The person who asked the question said, "That's good." ”
Picasso asked, "Do you understand?" ”
Suddenly, the person who asked the question was speechless.
There are some bad people and bad things, which are not "one thing" in the first place, but you are too serious, so you have walked into a dead end and messed up the good days.
In real life, there are often such people: early in the morning, they found that it was raining, but they did not bring an umbrella, so they angrily accused the weather forecast of being inaccurate; drove out and found that he had turned into a dirt path and scolded the navigator for being too pitiful. Everything is someone else's fault, but they never find the reason from themselves.
As the writer Liu Na said: "Emotions are a gun, when we pull the trigger of emotions, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves." ”Tell anything, forget it if it's wrong; If you don't understand it, don't read it, and if you don't understand it, you don't bother to listen. If you have to listen and see, enjoy the process and don't care about the outcome.
As long as you are happy, you can see flowers in the fog, clouds in the wind, umbrellas in the rain, and tea in the snow. No matter how high the wall is, you can see the moon as soon as you look up.
Sometimes, learn Picasso in jokes, I paint, I am happy, and I talk to amuse myself.
Learn not to get angry, and you win.
There is a Zen master, when he goes out, he asks Xiao ** to help take care of the orchids.
* Absent-mindedly, smashed the orchid pot.
After the Zen master returned, he lowered his head and waited for the hair to fall. Unexpectedly, the Zen master said with a smile"Raising flowers, it's supposed to be fun, if I'm angry, then what kind of flowers are I raising?" ”
And so on, and you'll find -This person is alive, he is looking for happiness, if not, then why is he still alive?
Finally, send you some wisdom not to be angry.
Before the car reaches the mountain, there is no road, open the car door and go for a walk, just exercise.
Others are angry, you are not angry, go a little farther to breathe, just watch a joke.
Anything, if you're angry, think in the opposite direction.
One day of anger, one day of loss; Don't get angry anymore and win the day.
For the rest of his life, he has no heart or lungs, and he is not tired of being a man.