Dictation: Aunt Sun and Plum Finishing: Mints.
I am Aunt Sun 57 years old and was a cashier before I retired.
Due to the restrictions of the birth policy, I only had one child back then, and there were quite a lot of single-child families at that time.
Now I wonder if I did something wrong, and all the love and resources were given to her, which caused my daughter's domineering and selfish personality?
The reason for the incident was that I took my old father home and settled down, and my daughter was beaten and beaten in all kinds of ways, and I blamed me for not having her consent. Why do I need her permission to provide for my father's pension? I'm still the owner!
When I was young, I only had a daughter, so I was ridiculed, so I had to be strong and work hard to cultivate my children.
Fortunately, she studied well, studied a popular major in a key university, and stayed in the best unit in our city, which gave me a long face.
But we had a disagreement about my daughter's marriage, and she insisted on being with a rural guy who didn't have a stable job, and when I objected, they tried to elope. As a last resort, I made a compromise and agreed to their marriage, but only if the boy joined my family.
It's not that I'm old-fashioned, but I really don't want my daughter to marry and suffer in the mountains, at least we can take care of each other by my side.
When my grandson was born, I was the main force with the baby, and they didn't know what to do, and I personally did the washing and breastfeeding of the children and vaccinations; In order to let my son-in-law develop well, I asked someone to teach him to learn technology and support him to open a store.
I can't help it when I'm tired, my in-laws are far away, and my health is not good and I can't count on it, so I don't help her with this only daughter.
Especially after retirement, I spent all my body and soul at my daughter's house, taking my grandson to school and taking care of the housework. But my daughter and son-in-law want to divorce, and I can't persuade her, just in time for my grandson to be promoted to the beginning of my grandson's junior high school, our mother and daughter jointly funded the school district house where we live now, and my daughter had to let me be the owner of the house in order not to have entanglements with my son-in-law.
The decoration of the house is me, and the usual expenses are still mine. When my father was sick a few days ago, I took him home, thinking that my father and grandson would take care of him together. When my daughter came back from a business trip, she blamed me for making decisions and being angry.
I am Meizi, the unfilial daughter in the mouth of Lao Sun.
Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I had married instead of recruiting a son-in-law. Probably there won't be a mother who doesn't say anything, I'm just the head of the family who can do whatever he wants, so that I won't be able to divorce and be the master, and I will even be chewed up for a lazy sleep on the weekend.
To be honest, my grandfather and I didn't have any feelings, when I was a child, he disliked me as a girl and didn't want to see me, and we didn't have much in common after I studied and worked.
Giving some money for the New Year's visit is the only thing I can do. My mother didn't know what to say, so she directly took the old man over to care for the elderly. My grandfather is an old smoker, he doesn't like hygiene and spits, and he puts the TV loud all day long, and he can't say it, which makes my life very inconvenient!
Meizi felt that her private space was encroached upon, and Aunt Sun was even more aggrieved, scolding her daughter for being cold-blooded and ruthless. What's right and what's wrong?
Mints to one:
It was saidA parent's home is always a child's home, but a child's home does not belong to the parents. Even if it is a house shared by a mother and daughter, the fact that the mother takes her father to the house to care for the elderly is still too arbitrary, and the reason is that she thinks that the child's house is her own private property, and she does not treat her daughter as an independent individual, so how can you talk about respect and informed consent?!
The authority of the feudal family chief, Aunt Sun exists here. She did pay a lot for her daughter and loved her daughter, but it was still inappropriate to take the old man over to live permanently. Three generations are under one roof, and it is difficult to unify living habits and ideas. Moreover, it is my own responsibility to support my elders, but I can share my hands and feet equally, and indirectly pass it on to the next generation without discussion, so it's strange if my daughter doesn't jump.
When people are old, they must serve the old, don't think that no one will be offended if nothing is wrong, any choice has a price, think twice.
Meizi is also discouraged, you don't have the ability to buy a house and take a baby independently, so naturally you can't refuse or resist justifiably. Either endure or strengthen yourself, and when you have the strength, you can naturally be the master!