What is Focused Solution-Psychology
Focused solution, as the name suggests, is"Focus our attention on problem solving".It is called "solution-focused" in English. It is a psychological intervention method that emerged internationally in the 80s of the 20th century.
How to use it
Focus on solving psychology
First of all, we need to grasp the perspective of "positive construction". In other words, when encountering things, we must not only see the bad side of things, but also learn to see the good side of things. For example, some parents complained: "This child is guaranteed to be good every time, but after a few days he returns to his old self." Our response could be, "So, even though he's not exactly what you want him to be, he cares about what you say and can make a difference." Of course, there are many ways we can choose to respond, such as: How do you think you are "good"? What are your reasons for being "good"? Who has the most influence on you, and what do you care most about what others think of you? If you were a little better, how would you be different from what you are now? If you were willing, most likely to make a change first? What do we do to make you want to change more? It is not difficult to find that the above responses are all advocating the expansion of the positive side of children. If we take the yin and yang balance of the Chinese, according to the concept of focusing on the solution, it isWhen the white expands, the black naturally shrinks
Second, learn to respond to your child with appreciation and affirmation first. There are three types of appreciation affirmation techniques that are commonly used. 1.Straight for sure. For example: I really appreciate your courage. 2.Quote and explain what others have said about the person. For example, your friends approve of your idea. 3.Trigger self-affirmation of the person. For example: It's really not easy to do this, how do you do it? We must believe that even if the person is frustrated, there are still positive characteristics in what they are doing that deserve attention and recognition, which may be: actions and efforts; make wishes or commitments; Have certain personality traits; Have attitudes, ideas, and decisions. There is no limit to the use of appreciation and affirmation, and it can be used at any time during the whole process of communication and conversation with children. However, it should be noted that appreciation and affirmation must be based on facts, not false exaggeration. 
Finally, encourage your child to make greater progress. Operationally, we can use scaling technology. Graduated questions can be scaled on a scale of 1 10 or 1 100, and the person is asked to rate their current situation based on their best vision (usually 10 or 100). Then, ask what difference and what you would do if your score increased. When the person's confidence is low, the person can also be asked why the person is not rated lower. For more information, please refer to the following examples. Question 1:"If you use a 10 to mean you're in very good shape, and a 0 point means you're not in any form at all, how would you rate yourself where you are now? Then ask, "What are you going to do if you made a little more progress?" ”Question 2:"You give yourself a 3 out of stat, why is it a 3 instead of a 2 or 1? Then he asked, "What do you think you need to pay attention to right now to keep yourself from getting worse?" So far, we have mastered some of the basic concepts and methods of focusing on problem-solving psychology mentioned above. Of course, it is not so simple to really learn how to educate children wisely. But we can believe that there are ways to educate children that can be learned and appliedAs long as we are willing to be a "learning parent" or a "learning teacher". Author: Luo Hong, an expert of the National Health Science Popularization Expert Database and Chief Physician of the Mental Health Center Affiliated to Zhejiang University School of Medicine (Hangzhou Seventh People's Hospital).
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