I've heard such a saying: "The first is born, and the second is ripe." ”Falling in love is a step-by-step process, from unfamiliarity to familiarity, from familiarity to love and marriage.
But some people behave positively at the beginning, and turn their feelings into "emotional cards", and they don't plan to spend their lives with anyone. is often a play on the spot, deceiving feelings.
As a woman, you must learn some skills to recognize people and refuse to be deceived.
The host Lu Yu wrote in the book: "The question of whether to find a novice or a veteran in love is a matter of idleness. Whether it's a blank piece of paper or a **lake, it may be a passerby in your life, or the love of your life, or a scum who hurts you. ”Generally speaking, when encountering a veteran in love, the woman will be furious, immediately expose his true colors, refuse to associate with him, and warn all the sisters not to be fooled.
A smart woman knows how to wait and see what happens, and deal with it in the following four ways, whether it is fate or calamity, and will take the initiative into her own hands.
First, keep your distance and stick to a lukewarm attitude.
In the TV series "Homecoming**",Hong Shixian has been torn between Pinru and EllieWhile saying that he loves his wife, he betrays his family.
When he chooses to marry Pinru, Avery never breaks his relationship with him. After the scandal between him and Ellie, Pinru was so sad that he stumbled and fell into the sea.
Why, when Pinru couldn't see Hong Shixian's face clearly?
In fact, at the beginning, it was Hong Shixian who made a trick - looking for an opportunity to make Pinru drunk, and then say something swearing.
The routine is very simple, but a woman in love can't see through it, because she prefers to "love with her ears".
In the play, Hong Shixian said to Ellie: "If I choose you today because of love, then one day I will also abandon you because of love, love is the most unreliable thing." ”I think so.
Many women think that they are married to love, but they don't know that romance is just an illusion, and the trap is real.
When dealing with a very romantic man, you keep a lukewarm attitude so that he can't get close to you. The person who loves you will continue to pursue you, and the person who does not love you will leave with interest, and he clearly knows that the routine is no longer working.
Second, take the initiative to talk about money to test his loyalty to love.
Tu Lei said: "In terms of men, who you love, who money loves." If you don't give money, you don't have a heart. ”A veteran of the love field must understand that pursuing a woman costs money. Not to mention the house and car, at least the money for meals, supper, and entertainment always has to be spent.
Spend a little money, he won't feel distressed, and he will enjoy it. Especially for those who have money, even if they spend a thousand dollars a day, they won't blink.
If you want to see through a man's schemes, you have to find a way to talk to him about money, borrow money, and spend money. Afterwards, observe his attitude.
When you take the initiative to talk about money, he will think about it. Hypocritical people will reject you directly; Sincere people will discuss with you and find a way to make money.
It seems vulgar to measure a person by money, but if you are unwilling to tear this "fig leaf", a woman may be deceived.
Third, throw out your troubles and ask "reliable people" to help you analyze.
As the old saying goes: "Three stinkers, one Zhuge Liang." ”When a woman is confused, she should ask for help from the people around her. It's hard to say about love to your family, but it's okay to say it to your girlfriends. Or, in the name of a stranger, you turn to an emotion analyst for help. After interactive exchanges, things will become clearer and clearer, in case the other party's analysis is wrong, you can block him.
There is a female netizen who asked Lu Yu for help through email. She said that when she met a veteran in the love field, she deceived her in terms of feelings and experience, and she couldn't see any traces at all, so she catered stupidly.
Lu Yu supports, fall in love first, and then talk about it, instead of arming yourself with various theories and analyses, and then go to find people. Between rationality and "muddy", each of us has to take sides.
Obviously, when you are in love, don't doubt the other person at the beginning, but love bravely, and then stay rational and good at making judgments.
Every relationship is unique and has a personality. However, there are many commonalities, and with the help of other people's eyes, you can see through them.
Fourth, stall for time and let him reveal his true "purpose".
As the saying goes, "A fox's tail can't be hidden." "Time makes you grow old slowly, and at the same time, it also removes all the things that cover your shame.
Someone who really loves you can't guarantee that they will wait for you for a lifetime, but they will definitely wait for a long time.
A veteran in the love field, most likely will not wait for you, as soon as he turns around, he can fall in love with another person and quickly forget you. If he is willing to wait, let him wait, and we will see how it ends.
In the movie "A Dog's Mission", the male protagonist Ethan was depressed because of a leg injury, and stubbornly believed that he had no way to give his girlfriend a happy life and drove his girlfriend away.
Later, Ethan never fell in love again, kept that pure feeling, and slowly grew old.
A lot of love can be romantic to the limit, but there is no way to travel through the torrent of time. Only those who are willing to accompany you to the end can persevere in hard days and good days.
Tu Lei said: "Men are just such little tricks." To deceive a ten-year-old girl, use sugar, to deceive a twenty-year-old girl, to use flowers, and if you want to deceive a thirty-year-old, you can only use your heart. ”Women, no matter how much you love someone or how good a man you meet, you have to stay sane.
It's not your thing, don't stretch out your chopsticks to avoid emotional entanglement.
Being old is not a reason for you to find someone casually and marry yourself; is still young, which is not a reason for you to find a random person and grope for the doorway of love.
Generally speaking, veterans of the love scene have these obvious characteristics: quickly occupy the position of the protagonist and let you obediently; knows how to do what he likes, so that you can rely on him immediately; Take the initiative to intervene in your life and get a clear picture of your personality, family, work, etc.
Women, pretend to be confused, think through the other party's careful thoughts, but don't say it, but use some small tricks to uncover the fog.
If it's fate, cherish it, if it's a catastrophe, turn around and leave, don't drag the mud and water.
May the women of the world choose a city to grow old and meet a white head.