No one knows, tomorrow or the accident, which one will come first.
It seems that for the future, we can only wait and go with the flow, but we can't take the initiative to grasp it.
There is a folk proverb: "If you foresee danger, you will avoid half it." ”It can be seen from this that there are always some things that we can prepare for in advance, and through thinking, we can see the ins and outs of things and all kinds of unexpected situations thoroughly.
We all know the point of view of "good fortune and misfortune", but many people only remember that the blessing is in the ** after the disaster comes, and then quickly adjust the direction and strive to get the blessing back.
In fact, by the time disaster comes, the blessings will have been almost exhausted. People who are truly lucky are able to foresee disasters and nip vicious things in the bud.
First, be aware of everything and have nowhere to hide from disasters.
There is such a sentence in the Book of Summer"One person has three losses, how can the grievances be clear, and the picture is not seen." ”
This means that if a person has made many mistakes, the grudge he has formed will not be in the open, but in the dark, and he should be careful to guard against the resentment before it is exposed.
At the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, Zhixiangzi, one of the four secretaries of the Jin State, was very unfriendly to the ministers Han Kangzi and Wei Huanzi around him at the banquet, and also said some insulting words.
Afterwards, he did not repent, and said: "According to my position, whether there is a disaster or not, I have the final say, but what can my subordinates do?" ”
After some time, Han Kangzi and Wei Huanzi united against Zhixiangzi, causing the Jin Kingdom to fall apart.
Ants can destroy the embankment, and at first we didn't care about the scourge of ants, and we joked that ants couldn't do anything about themselves. It's only when it's irreversible that I sigh for a long time.
On the road of life, we will inevitably meet villains and quarrel with others, and the power of nature will also follow us. If you can't find the clues in time, it is likely to lead to disasters in the shadows and slowly grow stronger.Therefore, people who are lucky will always lower their posture, observe everything around them, resolve conflicts in a timely manner, repair relationships, sort out some factors that may cause trouble in time, and do a good job of dynamic management.
Second, caring for others at all times can promote the living environment.
People often complain that the people around them are very unkind to them, and the community they live in is very sloppy. If you have money, you must move.
In fact, in any community, there are unfriendly people, and there is also a dark side.
No matter how small a family is or as big as a country, it can't be flawless. As long as you are good enough to take the initiative to care about others, your family, community, and country will become better, and the people around you will come to help you.
In the spring and autumn, Qi Jinggong wore a fox fur coat and walked into the snow and said, "It has been snowing for several days in a row, but I don't feel cold." ”
Minister Yanzi said: "A wise person, when he is full and clothed, he still thinks about whether others are full and clothed. ”
Qi Jinggong immediately realized his mistake and distributed the clothes and food in the warehouse to the poor.
Confucius commented: "Yan Zi can know what he wants, and Jing Gong can do what he can." ”
The country of Qi can develop and grow, not by itself, but by the people at the top who care about the people at the bottom, and the people at the bottom support the people at the top, so it is done.
If we take history as a mirror, we will find that many monarchs have been overthrown, but they are actually not good enough, not because they have too many people.If you respect the people around you, the people around you will naturally respect you. Over time, a harmonious environment is formed, where everyone can work together to tide over the difficulties, so that disasters do not have a chance to take root.
Third, learn to listen to opinions and correct mistakes in a timely manner.
There is a French proverb: "Truth likes to criticize, and after criticism, truth will win; Fallacy is afraid of criticism, because after criticism, falsehood fails. ”There are many disasters that you don't see, but the people around you see them and point them out. It's just that you don't think so, or you are used to listening to hypocritical words and taking critical words as a "thorn in the side". Thus, the calamity came.
With the eyes of the masses, you can see everything.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan Zi, the minister of the Qi State, lived on the edge of the market. He often went to the market and found that many people had lost their paws after being tortured, so the number of merchants selling fake paws increased and the number of merchants selling shoes decreased. He immediately suggested to Qi Jinggong that the rules of punishment should be changed.
The ancients said: "The great is hidden in the city." "In a crowded place, if you observe quietly and talk to everyone calmly, then you will be able to see the real situation in society at a glance, and you will be able to improve yourself quietly.
If you have developed the habit of humbly listening to opinions, then the calamity that arises from you will be stopped at the outset. On the other hand, it is to keep the good luck.
Fourth, insisting on independent thinking can enhance the foresight of being a person.
Bacon said, "Let us always be mindful that courage is often blind, because it does not see the dangers and difficulties that lurk in the shadows, and therefore courage is not good for thinking, but it is good for doing." ”Many people, with the courage of their husbands, will gain benefits for a while and a half, or become powerful. But it won't be long before it goes downhill.
Let's say a person who has been in the workplace for a long time is very irritable and quits in a fit of rage. Because he did not find a good way out, he was unemployed for several years in a row; If you want to start a business, you don't have the capital.
There are some things that you have to think about before and after. After thinking about it, straightening out the inextricable relationships, and then doing it, you have a discipline, and you can also accurately deal with mistakes halfway.
Think about the dangers that can be foreseen, and plan to save them in advance. The more a person can think, the more he can grasp the outcome of things, even if he encounters disasters along the way, it is just an episode.
As the old saying goes, "When the magpie is at the head, good luck is coming." ”The magpie comes, it's unintentional, but if you think about it, the mood will improve, so the motivation to do things will increase, and good luck will come.
Those who consistently walk with good fortune, they will not only observe magpies, but also plant sycamore trees, which attract magpies.
The process of "planting trees" is the process of benefiting: borrowing external forces to achieve oneself; Be yourself and attract external forces.
May you and I, but do good deeds and always have good luck.