When you find yourself chatting with a girl and don't know what to say, congratulations, it's the beginning of growth, not an embarrassing end.
Everyone has moments like this, especially when we connect with others.
It's not just an article, it's an expedition to find the secrets that can rekindle the spark of conversation**.
A lot of times, we don't have a topic to talk about with girls, not because we're not interesting enough, but because we care too much about our performance, which causes our brains to go blank.
In other words, we need to get rid of excessive self-awareness and focus on the other person.
An easy way to do this is to try to be genuinely interested in the other person.
Instead of trying to get the other person interested in you. Curiosity can open up a lot of conversations, and it's naturally not pretentious.
This is the first rule of chatting.
Pay attention to and remember the preferences and interests mentioned by the other person during the chat, and next time, you can use this information to go deeper**.
For example, if she mentions that she likes to watch a certain TV show, you can ask her which character she likes the most and why, or discuss the recent plot development.
In the process, you not only show that you care about her, but also have more common topics to talk about.
Sometimes, sharing a little bit of your life can be a good topic for a conversation, as they not only show you how your life is going, but also make the conversation easier and more natural.
For example, you can share an anecdote that happened today or a moment that stands out to you.
These stories will make the other person feel that you are real and lovable, which will inspire the enthusiasm of the chat.
Learn about some of the latest, interesting news or pop culture that can be a good conversation point.
For example, recent technological innovations, popular movies or **, or even interesting social phenomena.
Through these topics, you can share your views and feelings, which in turn leads to greater understanding and closeness.
Asking questions is a great way to make the other person feel that you are interested and caring.
However, ask questions in moderation as well. Too many questions can make the conversation feel like an interview and make people feel uncomfortable.
Try to use open-ended questions to guide the other person to share more, not just a simple "yes" or "no".
The art of chatting isn't just about speaking, it's about listening. Giving enough attention and feedback when the other person is speaking will make the conversation flow more smoothly.
At the same time, by listening, you can also capture more clues for discussion and opportunities to delve into the topic.
Finally, remember: every conversation is a unique experience. Don't worry about the "right" topic or the "perfect" opening line, what really matters is sincerity and naturalness.
By practicing these techniques, you'll find that chatting with girls is no longer a challenge, but a pleasure.
In short, it's not terrible to chat with girls without a topic, the key is how to adjust your attitude and use some skills and methods flexibly.
With consistent practice and hard work, this is definitely a skill that can be improved.
I wish you more and more comfort in this process, and I hope you will find new fun in every chat.