Dale Carnegie wrote in The Weakness of Human Nature: "Rest is not to do absolutely nothing, but to make up for certain physical losses." ”Most people, by the age of 60, are truly retired and have a comfortable life. It's really good to quit the workplace, take a good rest, and be a free man.
In fact, rest is not to be idle and do nothing, but to combine work and rest, to be suitable for movement and stillness, to enrich and please yourself in daily life.
When you are free, do the following 8 little things to improve the happiness of life, and get back the beauty you have lost and the happy things you don't have time to do.
First, make a reunion dinner on the weekend and let the family have fireworks.
The painter Lin Dihuan said: "Happiness is an evening with wind and rain, wine and meat, you and me." ”During the day, everyone is busy going to work. After work in the afternoon, I can finally stop and have a good meal with my family. As an old man, taking on the role of cooking, although it is a little tiring, will be very happy.
The daily meals will be sloppy, but the weekend meals should be more serious. There is something "special" every weekend and the family atmosphere is different. Especially for those elderly people who do not live with their children, inviting their children to come to their homes as "guests" has the joy of several generations being in the same house, and also brings the relationship between family members closer.
Fireworks, three meals a day, two people sit opposite each other, but also a few sips, drink a glass of wine. Don't be too dull.
Second, tidy up the old ** and keep the beautiful moments.
In Zhihu, an anonymous netizen said that he accidentally threw away the ** book at home as garbage, and then turned back to the garbage station to look for it, but found nothing.
On the way home from the garbage dump, he wanted to cry so much, it was really uncomfortable to death.
Many times, what is lost is not a **, but a feeling, a period of time.
When you are sixty years old, if you take out the old **, you will definitely find a lot of memories, and you will also interact with your family in the process of tidying up, and recall certain moments together.
Third, go out for a walk with your wife and pursue poetry and distance.
When you leave the workplace, you suddenly feel like a bird in a cage, finally flying out. But if you stay at home all the time, "home" will become a cage and make you feel very uncomfortable.
The Shawshank Redemption"."Some birds are not destined to be locked in cages, and every feather of them shines with the brilliance of freedom. ”
I often go out with my wife, go shopping, see the scenery, travel, and wander around. Along the way, you will find that the relationship between husband and wife has become harmonious. Because the outside world has attracted the attention of two people, the way they get along is no longer "big eyes and small eyes".
Companionship is not only about sitting next to each other, but also about holding hands and appreciating each other.
Fourth, read a few pages a day to quiet the mind.
One day, the mother said mysteriously: There is a suspenseful story in "Huhai News Yijian Continuation".
During the Yuan Dynasty, outside the city of Wenzhou, there was a midwife, and suddenly heard a knock on the door at night. The midwife opened the door and saw a sedan chair at the door. Obviously, there is a child to be born, and the midwife's business is coming.
Amazingly, the speed of the sedan chair is amazing; After the delivery, the midwife was quickly and overnight sent home. Then, there was an extra pork leg and a cow leg at the door of the house, and there were traces of tiger bites on them.
Mother's story made us happy all day. What's more, my mother actually became extravagant at that moment, and she no longer said vulgar jokes and nagging about life.
People, live to learn all the time, and you can't stop studying just because you're old. When a person's mental outlook improves, a sense of happiness will naturally spring up from within.
Fifth, look for the good in your children and encourage them.
Many old people like to say demeaning things about their children, and at the same time talk about how good the children of neighbors and relatives are. This is the strange circle of "people are more angry than people".
A wise old man will look at his children and be pleasing to the eye. Every day, we discover the progress of our children and see the good in them. The eyes of the old man will be softened, and there will be no harsh words at family gatherings.
As long as there are flowers in the eye, then everywhere, there will be a fragrance of flowers.
When you are fine, give your children a thumbs up, although they will not have a great reaction, but their hearts are happy. Encouragement is always more powerful than reproach.
Sixth, give your neighbors a smile to show your sincerity and friendliness.
Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors", if you take your neighbor as a thorn in your side, don't complain about the poor living environment. Maybe the neighbors have overdone it, but you need to be accommodating, not noisy.
Let's say a garbage bag is thrown at the door and it smells great. You can alert your neighbors and take the trash away. In doing so, the neighbor is truly edified.
Your laughter is the best antidote to neighborhood conflicts. If you take the initiative to show favor, it will be much easier when you need help from your neighbors in the future. A happy environment is, in the final analysis, self-created.
Seventh, get together with old friends and talk about your troubles.
When people are old, they will inevitably have resentment in their hearts, and in the family, there will also be troubles. Therefore, it is necessary to find someone to talk to.
Find a few old friends, talk about what is in your heart, and don't vomit or be unhappy.
When I was young, I was worried that outsiders would know "my ugly things". But the communication of the elderly is not the same. Everyone is very mature, and some bad information will naturally be filtered out. As long as you open your heart and speak, you will feel comfortable and relaxed inside.
Don't worry too much about anything, but trust old friends. A cup of tea, a glass of wine, and a casual chat will definitely make you happy.
Eighth, a message with positive energy leads to beauty.
In the Internet era, many elderly people are chatting online, and the information is sent to the circle of friends, relatives, etc. However, negative energy information often enters our lives.
Some elderly people, because of the negative energy information, were criticized or blocked by friends, causing themselves to be very troubled.
Smart old people, ** have positive energy information, and they will naturally receive more likes. Moreover, his words and deeds give everyone a feeling of warmth like spring.
There is more sunshine in the Internet, and there will always be some that will pour into life.
Dale Carnegie once said, "Where your interests are, where your abilities are." ”As you get older, many of the things you like to do become dispensable, or covered up by trivial things.
Therefore, we need to get back the "like and beautiful" and let ourselves have a positive attitude.
When you make it a habit to find happiness, life will naturally be like spring all year round.
Human life is finite, but the width is unlimited.
May you and I work the breadth of life.