She is 56 years old, her son quit his job at 5100, asked her for 4000 living expenses a month, and was kicked out of the house by her.
Li Xiaoying, over 50 years old, is a home-based nanny. I live comfortably, live in a villa, enjoy delicious food, and often have the opportunity to travel with my employer. Although she is a nanny, her life is more comfortable than that of many white-collar workers. At her employer's house, she was mainly responsible for hygiene and housework, a large three-storey villa with only a family of three. She has been working here for a full decade and earns 7,500 yuan a month.
One night, she had just cleaned up, returned to her room, sat down with a plate of fruit, and enjoyed a moment of silence while scrolling through her phone. She tasted a piece of dragon fruit, and then said to her husband Zhao Gang, "Zhao, come and eat some fruit." ”
Zhao Gang glanced at her and said, "You have to remember to respect the rules of the master, and don't always eat by yourself." ”
Xiaoying smiled and said, "Don't worry, I've been working here for ten years, and I know what I have to do." I have just given the fruit to the lord and the lady, and they have told us to eat more. ”
Zhao Gang knew that his wife was a responsible person, but he often reminded her to be careful not to forget her identity because of habit.
The two of them ate fruit while watching TV. Suddenly, their son called*** Xiaoying happily connected: "Son, are you off work?" Have you had dinner? ”
His son Zhao Liping said with a bitter face: "Mom, I resigned." I'm going to go home and prepare for the civil service exam. ”
Xiaoying was stunned and said, "Liping, what's wrong?" Why the sudden resignation? Haven't you been preparing for graduate school? ”
The son sighed: "Mom, I made a mistake at work, and my supervisor criticized me in public, so that I could not continue to work there." ”
Zhao Gang said angrily: "Why are you always like this? It's inevitable to get angry when you go out to work, and you're not a special case. ”
The son replied lightly: "I only earn 5,000 a month, why should I be angry?" He didn't send me 20,000. ”
Zhao Gang said impatiently: "You are 27 years old, you have changed so many jobs, what do you want?" ”
The son sighed: "Mom and Dad, I have graduated from college, and my income is not as good as yours, your living standard is much higher than mine, why should I be angry?" I quit my job and was ready to go back to my hometown. ”
Li Xiaoying suddenly interjected: "What can I do when I go home?" ”
The son said firmly: "I plan to study hard and take the civil service exam." ”
Xiaoying asked suspiciously, "Do you have enough living expenses?" ”
Zhao Gang laughed sarcastically: "He often asks us for money, where does the deposit come from?" ”
The son proposed: "Mom, you can get 15,000 a month, just give me 4,000." ”
Zhao Gang was so angry that he couldn't speak, and Xiaoying said helplessly: "You are 27 years old, and you still want us to raise you?" ”
The son explained: "Civil servants are iron rice bowls, so I don't have to worry if I get admitted." ”
Xiaoying finally said: "I respect your choice for the time being, but we can only give you 3,000, and we still have to pay the mortgage." ”
Zhao Gang stared at ** angrily, and said dissatisfiedly: "You always indulge him, he is so old, and he has to be supported by us, it has been five years since he graduated, did he give you a penny?" ”
Xiaoying felt a little aggrieved and responded softly: "Then what do you say to do?" As long as he is really willing to study hard and be admitted to the civil service, he will be able to stabilize. ”
Zhao Gang snorted: "Hmph, if you can really study hard, the graduate students are about to graduate." You see that he has been taking the exam for two years, and his grades are not as good as one year, do you think he is really learning? ”
Xiaoying tried to defend her son: "Lao Zhao, let's give him another chance this time." If he is still like that, I promise, just let him face it himself, and no longer cover him up. ”
Zhao Gang nodded: "Well, but don't be soft-hearted, let me tell you, if you indulge him like this again, he will be finished." As the saying goes, a loving mother has many defeats, you have to think about it. ”
Zhao Gang was originally an excellent mason, skilled on the construction site, often with two apprentices. Later, Xiaoying became the family's nanny, and needed someone who could take care of the garden and do chores, so he took over. Although the salary is not as high as that of a big worker, the job is stable, easy, and he can be with his wife, which he accepts without hesitation.
Today, his salary has risen to 8,000 yuan, he has learned to drive, and often goes out with his old father, takes care of the garden together, and does some manual work. Although he is a little busy, he enjoys this life.
However, his son disappointed him. He and his wife are both new to Chinese, but they want their son to receive a better education and have a better future. Their son was admitted to the second book, which made them very happy. But after graduation, his son frequently changed jobs in the provincial capital, changing jobs every few days, not only unable to afford the mortgage, but also often asking them for money, which made him feel very angry.
When the son returned home, he moved into the small three-bedroom apartment they bought. They bought it two years ago when he graduated, and in another two years, the loan would be paid off. But since it is a commercial loan, the interest rate is quite high.
Xiaoying was overjoyed to find that the value of their family's property had risen several times. When they first bought the property, they didn't think there would be much development in the area, so the property was relatively cheap. However, with the rise of tourism, housing prices in the area have risen.
All thanks to the advice of the Lord's house. If it weren't for their advice, Xiaoying and her husband might have built a new house in their hometown village.
One day, when Xiaoying and Cai Cai were chatting, they mentioned that the couple had saved some money over the past few years and planned to go home after a period of vacation, planning to build a new two-story house to show the villagers.
Cai Cai made a different suggestion: "Xiaoying, if you listen to me, it is better to buy an apartment in your county." Building a new house doesn't have to be so luxurious. ”
Xiaoying was a little hesitant at the time. After all, in the rural culture she lives in, most people will return to their hometowns to build houses after earning money, otherwise they will be ridiculed by others.
However, Cai Cai is a well-educated person, and she and her husband run a large company and also have their own factory. Xiaoying felt that Cai Cai's suggestion must be more insightful.
Xiaoying raised the issue with her husband, who also consulted his father. The old man said at the time: "You guys, you think all day long, how many times a year do you go back to that country house?" Besides, your son is a college student, will he go back to farming after graduation? It's best to buy a house in the county or here, so that your son will have a place to live when he gets married, and it will be easier for him to go to school when he has grandchildren. ”
At that time, the old man had just retired, and he was a cadre with rich experience before, and Zhao Gang respected his opinion very much. So, instead of rushing home to build a new house, the couple bought a property eight years ago. Back then, the mortgage had not yet been issued, but the old man found someone to help.
Xiaoying, who was busy at home, while Zhao Gang drove to the park with the old man. There were a lot of old people his age playing chess, and he was one of them. Basically go every day.
On the way, the old man saw that Zhao Gang was in a bad mood, so he asked, "Xiao Zhao, what's wrong?" Is there something going on at home? ”
Zhao Gang replied with a wry smile: "Alas, Elder Xing, do you know what happened to the children now?" He doesn't want to endure hardships at all, and he doesn't understand anything. As for the boy in my family, he quit his job again, saying that he wanted to go home to concentrate on his studies and prepare for the civil service exam. ”
The old man said solemnly: "Xiao Zhao, I have to be honest with you, don't be angry." In fact, this is because the couple is too fond of him, so that he has not encountered any setbacks. ”
You see, you bought him a house, and now that neighborhood is pretty good, right? It's only four hours to drive to the provincial capital, and if he runs out of money, he will ask you for it, so what else is he worried about? Do you think it's a problem? ”
Zhao Gang sighed: "Elder Xing, then what do you say we should do?" We can't keep him for the rest of our lives. ”
The old man thought for a moment and said, "Since the situation is already like this, you have to see if he is really studying seriously." If he really wants to study and take the civil service examination, you will fully support him; But if he is just pretending to be studying, then you must decisively kick him out and give him not a penny. ”
Zhao Gang nodded: "Well, I listen to you, thank you, old man." ”
The old man said again: "Xiao Zhao, the key to this matter lies in your attitude. When your child needs you to decide, you must do it firmly, otherwise he will be a victim for the rest of his life. ”
Zhao Gang made up his mind and would definitely do what the old man suggested. Otherwise, it's too late to regret it.
When my son came home, he sent them a **. There is a pile of books next to him, and the teacher is lecturing on the computer. The son said, "Mom and Dad, I studied hard. ”
Xiaoying was very relieved and said to Zhao Gang: "Old Zhao, it seems that Liping is really sensible this time." If he can really be admitted to the civil service, we can rest assured. ”
Zhao Gang glanced at her, thinking that she was too naïve, and had a plan in her heart, but did not reveal it to her.
That night, my son contacted me again and asked, "Mom, can you give me some more money?" I bought a lot of study materials and signed up for online training courses, but now I can't afford to eat. ”
Li Ying was ecstatic, thinking that as long as her son could study hard, she was willing to give everything for him.
No hesitation. Li Ying said, "How much you need, Mom will transfer it to you." ”
My mother is the best, the so-called mother is like a treasure. The son was full of emotion, "Mom, it's not much, 5,000 is enough." ”
Li Ying did not hesitate to give her son 5,000 on WeChat and advised: "Son, the money has been remitted." Although your studies are important, you should take care of your body and buy yourself some delicious food tomorrow. ”
The son happily ended the ** call, Zhao Gang looked at Li Ying and questioned: "You will believe whatever he says, and you actually gave him 5000 directly." Is it so easy for you to make money? ”
Li Ying replied with a smile: "Lao Zhao, you have been with the old man for a long time, and your tone has changed. But our son should study hard, and we should encourage him. ”
Maybe he will use the money to drink and eat with some unemployed vagrants. Zhao Gang worried.
No way, I know my son well, he won't cheat on me. Li Ying said firmly.
Zhao Gang saw that the persuasion was ineffective, so he didn't say anything more, just shook his head and proposed: "Xiaoying, give me all our money, I will manage it in the future, and he will come to me again if he asks for money." ”
Li Ying looked at him and said hesitantly: "The money is all on that card, I can't give it to you." ”
Zhao Gang took Xiaoying's mobile phone, unbound WeChat, and took the card, he said: "I'll keep this card first, don't bind it in the future." ”
Xiaoying was helpless, although Zhao Gang was usually very talkative, but once he made a decision, she didn't dare to say much.
For dinner, Xiaoying prepared lobster, hairy crab, and the old man's favorite sour soup fat beef and colorful mushroom chicken soup, accompanied by organic small green vegetables.
Cai Cai came home from work and saw all this, and said very happily: "Sister Li, you did it so fast, you have already taken care of the shrimp and crabs I asked me to send at noon." ”
Xiaoying replied with a smile: "Yes, I think it's better to eat the freshest, and I asked, these crabs are very clean and don't need to be cleaned again." ”
Cai Cai nodded yes, and then went to eat with her family, leaving a sentence: "Sister Li, you and Uncle Zhao can also eat together, the shrimp and crabs are ready." ”
Xiaoying replied: "Okay, we will come, you can enjoy it first, we are ready here." ”
While tasting the lobster, Xiaoying asked Zhao Gang: "Uncle Zhao, how much does such a big lobster cost?" I have to work hard, the family is so good to me. ”
Zhao Gang replied: "I'm relieved if you have this kind of thought, I'm just worried that people's hearts are unpredictable, some people seem to be kind, but in fact they are scheming and easy to be deceived." ”
Xiaoying glared at him: "What are you talking about, how can I be that kind of person?" Let me tell you, when I go grocery shopping, I don't say much when other nannies ask me, and I don't intervene if they say bad things about the host. ”
Zhao Gang smiled and said: "I like you very much, although there is also a bit of gossip, but at most I only talk about TV series, and I never say much about other private matters, I believe that the old man also takes a fancy to you, so he has always trusted you."
Xiaoying picked up her mobile phone and took a picture of the lobster and big crab on the table, she sighed: "These are all things you don't let me eat, otherwise I really want to show off on a circle of friends." ”
Zhao Gang frowned and persuaded: "Don't be like this, just live in peace, why show off everywhere." ”
Cai Cai and his wife invited them to participate in foreign exhibitions together, Zhao Gang originally wanted to accompany his old father, but Xiaoying agreed to cook for his old father at home.
However, Zhao Gang has been thinking about his son's affairs, and finally decided to ask for leave to go back to deal with it.
When the old father heard about it, he decided to cancel the trip. He was reluctant to go far away, feeling that foreign countries were not as comfortable as his hometown, and the food there was not suitable for him.
After Cai Cai and his wife left, the old father said to Zhao Gang: "Xiao Zhao, I know that you are anxious to go back to see the situation, you can take me back with you." You'd better keep an eye on Xiaoying, don't let her talk behind your back when we're away, it's all your son's benefit at that time. ”
Zhao Gang nodded: "Dad, don't worry, although Xiaoying usually looks easy-going, she is still very measured in her handling of critical moments." ”
The old father sighed: "I know that Xiaoying is a person with a bottom line, but don't forget, that is the son in her heart." For the sake of her son, she may be desperate and even betray your husband. ”
Zhao Gang smiled and began to pack his luggage. The old man's usual car had just been maintained, and he was relieved to prepare everything. The old man couldn't eat anything outside casually, so Zhao Gang specially asked Xiaoying to prepare the Xiaoice box on the car and the food in the freezer.
Xiaoying asked, "Where are we going, Lao Zhao?" I've got what the old man loves to eat. ”
Zhao Gang smiled and said, "It's good that you're ready, we'll just accompany the old man out for a walk and see the old friends again." ”
At four or five o'clock in the afternoon, they arrived at a small area. Xiaoying said in surprise: "Isn't this our home?" Is the old man going to live here too? ”
The old man smiled: "We have already booked a homestay, and we will not go to your house." Today's children don't like to be at home, so I don't want to be annoying with my old bones. ”
The three of them lived in a small separate courtyard with three rooms, a separate kitchen, and loungers under a large field of vines.
The old man wanted to take a break, so Zhao Gang went out. Xiaoying knew that he was looking for his son, so he didn't say anything, just took out his mobile phone and wanted to send a message to his son, but hesitated, and finally decided to forget it, picked up his phone and watched TV.
Zhao Gang sat quietly at the entrance of the community, did not walk in, but chose to sit down on a nearby bench and listen to the chatter of several elders. One of the old men sighed: "Alas, now these young people, they are really uneasy, I heard that the young man next door to us has been preparing for the graduate school entrance examination at home, but he has been mixed with a group of friends all day long, drinking and playing cards, playing games, and sometimes going out to play, and it is already midnight when he comes back." ”
Another aunt continued: "Yes, there are too many such children, and when I see girls, I want to add WeChat, but my granddaughter is afraid of them, so they all take a detour, which is really infuriating." ”
Another person sighed: "I heard that their parents are working outside to earn money, alas, it is really distressing to raise such an uncompetitive son." ”
Zhao Gang's heart sank when he heard this, and he began to worry about his son. He decided to let Xiaoying accompany the old man, and he walked to a nearby noodle restaurant.
In the noodle shop, he ordered a bowl of noodles with mixed sauce, looked at the time, and it was close to 9 o'clock in the evening. He thought to himself, maybe the old people were exaggerating, maybe his worries were unnecessary.
He wanted to go home and have a look, but hesitated. He decided to listen more and maybe find out.
When the exercisers came home one after another, he also decided to go back. He was looking forward to his son's return home and had already ordered dinner.
Suddenly, several young people came speeding up on small electric cars and were talking loudly. One of them said, "Liping, we're going to have a night tonight, have you prepared anything to eat?" Don't be hungry like last time. ”
Zhao Liping replied with a smile: "Don't worry, I just ordered two takeouts, which should be enough for us to eat." ”
A woman smiled and said to Liping: "Liping, you are going to ask for money again this time, look at you so generous." ”
Several people walked into the unit door with a smile, and Zhao Gang was so angry that he couldn't speak.
He didn't follow them in, but went back to the homestay. The old man had fallen asleep, and Xiaoying was still waiting for him.
Xiaoying smiled and said, "Lao Zhao, what did you eat with your son?" Did you take him to taste the good ones? ”
Zhao Gang replied, "Well, let's rest first, and we'll go and have a look tomorrow." ”
After lying down, he tossed and turned, feeling bitter and bitter in his mouth, which made him uncomfortable.
Xiaoying fell asleep peacefully on the side, and Zhao Gang thought to himself, she was so happy that she didn't know.
The next morning, Xiaoying made some small wontons, and after the three of them had breakfast together, she went to the kitchen to clean up.
Zhao Gang felt bitter at the old man and said, "Elder Xing, I didn't expect your prediction to come true. That loser really didn't study hard, but gathered a group of bad friends and did nothing all day, alas, ......”
The old man replied: "Xiao Zhao, I heard from my old friends that there are many such young people who quit their jobs when they don't go well at work, and anyway, they have their parents behind them. Are they right? Ah, yes, gnawing the old, is gnawing the old. ”
Zhao Gang sighed: "I haven't told Xiaoying yet, I plan to take her to see it later, so that she can see with her own eyes what his son is doing, maybe then she can die." ”
The old man thought for a moment and said, "Well, Xiao Zhao, maybe you are too indulgent to the child. It's been a few years since he graduated, but if you look at him, he still looks like a child. This time, you've got to think about it. ”
Zhao Gang nodded slightly, and the old man closed his eyes and said, "I'll rest on the deck chair for a while, you guys go quickly." ”
Zhao Gang set up the chessboard for the old man, made a pot of tea, and then left with Xiaoying.
Pushing open the door of the house, Xiaoying was still worried about whether her son had woken up and whether she would be blamed by her husband, but when they walked into the living room, her face instantly turned pale.
The living room was full of people, men and women, there was garbage everywhere, and the table was full of beer bottles.
All kinds of mixed smells filled the room, almost making Xiaoying feel sick, and she looked at Zhao Gang in shock, completely unable to understand the scene in front of her.
Their arrival didn't seem to alarm these people, they were still asleep, and Xiaoying almost couldn't help but want to scream.
Zhao Gang walked over and opened the window, a man opened his eyes, looked at the two extra people in the room, and asked with a straight face, "Who are you?" How did you get in? What do you want to do? ”
At this moment, Xiaoying had already understood what was happening, and Zhao Gang obviously understood.
She said to Zhao Gang: "Mr. Zhao, call a lock picker, and at the same time let him change a better lock." ”
Zhao Gang felt relieved that Xiaoying's reaction was as rational as his, which meant that she was still awake.
He nodded and immediately picked up the **.
And Xiaoying angrily went to the bathroom to get a broom, but she almost vomited, she was very annoyed with the house that she had renovated according to her heart, and now the toilet is simply intolerable, she was so angry that tears flowed.
She laboriously picked up the broom and slammed it on the floor again and again, and soon she began to curse loudly and angrily, and her mouth was so unstoppable that she could not bear it.
Zhao Liping walked out of the bedroom, followed by a woman. When he saw them, he shouted, "Mom, Dad, why are you here?" Why don't you notify me beforehand? ”
When the couple heard that it was their son, they yelled and left, leaving only the scene between the three members of the family.
Zhao Liping touched his head and said, "Mom and Dad, I want to relax because I have been under too much pressure to study recently, so I asked a few friends to play games." ”
He glanced around and frowned: "Oops, why did the house become so messy, Mom and Dad, can you help clean it up?" I went out to buy some breakfast. ”
With that, he quickly left the room. Xiaoying stood by the window, tears welling up: "Lao Zhao, what should I do about this situation?" How did our children become like this? ”
Zhao Gang pondered for a moment: "The old man said, it may be that we spoil him too much, causing him to lack a sense of responsibility." ”
Xiaoying asked worriedly, "Then what should we do?" ”
Zhao Gang said firmly: "We have to change the door lock and kick him out." Ignore him in the future, no matter what situation he encounters. ”
Xiaoying asked worriedly: "What if he gets into trouble because of this and does something wrong with the bad guys?" ”
Zhao Gang said in a deep voice: "With his character, it shouldn't be." But if it does happen, we can only accept our fate. Don't be soft-hearted, or you'll get into even more trouble. ”
When the lock-changing worker arrived, Zhao Gang watched the door lock change, while Xiaoying quickly began to clean up.
Xiaoying thought to herself, she had never seen such a messy situation in many years, and she didn't expect this bad habit to spread to her home. She was so sad that she couldn't help but burst into tears.
When Zhao Gang came over to help, he comforted: "Xiaoying, the old man said that the change of my son depends on whether we are decisive or not. So you must be firm in your determination and not soft-hearted, otherwise it will cause more trouble. ”
Xiaoying said with tears in her eyes: "Lao Zhao, don't worry, I will listen to you and the old man, and I will block my son's *** so that he can't find me." ”
There was a knock at the door, Zhao Gang opened the door with his duffel bag, handed it to the person outside the door, and said: "Liping, we are going to rent out this house, you can't live here anymore, you have to find a job by yourself and live independently." ”
Zhao Liping said in surprise: "Dad, I don't want to work, I want to prepare for the father-in-law."
Zhao Gang nodded: "Okay, you can do whatever you want, but you have to support yourself first." ”
By the way, your mother and I have already blocked you, and you won't be able to contact us in the future, so I transferred you 1,000 yuan, hoping that you can find a job before you run out. ”
Zhao Liping said angrily: "Dad, do you just ignore me? I am your only son. ”
Zhao Gang sighed: "It's because we care too much about you that we will make you like this, we can't hurt you anymore, come on yourself, I believe you can be admitted to the civil service." ”
He wanted to enter the house, but stopped again and said, "Liping, you are a man, don't let us down, don't come to this house again." ”
Zhao Liping stood at the door for a long time, no matter how he knocked on the door, there was no response, only attracting angry neighbors, and finally he could only leave with his bag.
Zhao Gang and Xiaoying returned to the homestay, and the old man was still playing chess. Xiaoying hurriedly prepared dinner, and the old man said: "You should be your son who goes out to make a living, although it is inconvenient to contact, but don't be soft-hearted, that will hurt him." ”
Xiaoying nodded, so heavy that she could barely eat. But she knew that she had to listen to the words of the old man and Zhao Gang, no matter how sad and anxious she was, she would never be able to contact her son. She believes that one day, her son will come back to her with good news.
They returned home, and life was still going on as usual. Cai Cai and his wife also returned, bringing a good news - Cai Cai was pregnant with twins, which made the family boil with joy.
In order to take better care of Cai Cai, Xiaoying was so busy that she didn't have time to take care of her son all day. It was only at night when she fell asleep that she had the opportunity to think of him quietly, sometimes shedding a few tears.
However, she firmly believes that her son will eventually become a good civil servant, and she strives for it. This belief sustains her and gives her the motivation to move forward.
Final words: As children grow up, they should take on their responsibilities. Parents need to let go at the right time and give them room to grow. While it is possible to give appropriate help when needed, it cannot be made to be dependent forever. Only by understanding the importance of responsibility can they continue to grow and move forward. This is crucial for both children and parents.