Being bullied by others, many people will swallow their anger.
However, in our lives, we will inevitably encounter people who bully us, and even in our families or work, we may suffer injustice.
How to deal with being bullied is a compulsory lesson in life, and blindly tolerating it will not work.
There is a saying that "". .People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. ”
Blindly tolerating will only encourage bullying.
In some cases, we may choose to be tolerant, believing it to be a sign of tolerance and kindness.
However, if you keep putting up with it, not only will it not solve the problem, but it may make the bully more arrogant.
is like Lin Chong in "Water Margin", he repeatedly endured Gao Yu's oppression, but was forced to go to Liangshan.
Forbearance does not mean that we should become weak, but that we should firmly defend our rights and dignity at the right time.
As the ancients said, "If you can't bear it, you don't need to endure it anymore." ”
When our bottom line is touched, we must step up and speak up for ourselves.
Learn to resist and protect yourself.
Horses are docile animals, but if they are too docile, they can easily be ridden on their backs.
Therefore, when we are bullied, we must not just suffer in silence, but learn to resist.
This kind of resistance does not mean countering violence with violence, but protecting oneself in a reasonable way.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei has always been treated unfairly in her family, but she finally chose to resist and won the respect and rights she deserves.
Only by learning to protect yourself can you avoid being bullied endlessly.
Set boundaries and stick to principles.
In life, there are people who constantly test our bottom line.
Faced with this situation, some people choose to remain silent, but silence only makes inappropriate behavior more rampant.
There is a heroine in the drama "Every Self", who is a working woman with strong work ability and independent personality.
But she has repeatedly faced unreasonable assignments from her boss and cynicism from her colleagues.
At first, she chose to forbear, hoping to overcome rigidity with softness, but it backfired, and the behavior of her boss and colleagues intensified.
What followed was nightly insomnia and a declining sense of self-worth.
A wise man once said: "Principles are the beacons of life, without which life will be lost in the fog." ”
She finally woke up and realized that she needed to set clear boundaries for herself and protect her heart and dignity.
Later, she bravely said "no" and refused unreasonable demands, which not only did not make her lose her job, but won respect.
In reality, people compromise and lose themselves for various reasons.
We should stick to our borders and be brave enough to say "no", which is a defense of our principles and a commitment to our rights.
Life should be carried out with dignity and self-worth.
Strengthen and earn respect.
In addition to learning to rebel and set boundaries, we also need to constantly improve our own strength.
By learning new knowledge, upskilling and developing our abilities, we can face life's challenges with greater confidence.
When we become better and stronger, we naturally earn the respect of others and reduce the likelihood of being bullied.
Just like Han Shin, after suffering the humiliation of his crotch, he worked hard to learn the art of war and eventually became a famous general.
Strength is our best umbrella, which makes us more confident in the face of bullying.
In short, when we are bullied, we can't put up with it all the time.
We need to learn to resist when the time is right, set boundaries, stick to our principles, and at the same time keep improving our strength.
Only in this way can we earn respect in our lives and avoid being bullied.