Couples over 50 years old, if they still toss these things now, it is the beginning of life suffering
The ancients once said: "Where the double egrets fly, it seems to be affectionate, yearning for a shadow." ”
Looking at the sky, the egrets are in pairs, perching together, constituting a beautiful scene.
Husband and wife are birds of the same forest, flying together through thick and thin", which is the beauty that countless families look forward to.
It's a pity that the years have passed and experienced wind and frost, but they may not be able to enjoy the happiness of their old age.
At the age of fifty, if you are still confused, you will find that the life of husband and wife together is becoming more and more difficult, deviating from the law of life first bitter and then sweet.
Preparing wedding possessions for children shows that children are incompetent.
Zengguang Xianwen said: "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't be horses and cattle for your children and grandchildren." ”
Each generation has its own unique way of life and needs to rely on its own struggle. It is difficult for parents to replace them.
However, some parents interfere in their children's affairs and take care of everything. Even when the children were young, they arranged the wedding room.
In a hurry, we are in our fifties, and so are our children. Originally, the whole family should work together and work quickly.
Unfortunately, we work hard while our children sit back and enjoy it. If parents do not give too much, their children will continue to complain, resent, and be ungrateful.
There are also children who blame their parents for their inability to find a partner. Because their parents did not buy a house and did not find a good job, young people disliked it.
Running for their children's lives, parents blame themselves.
When their children get married, their parents become debt-ridden people. Life's tribulations begin again.
In fact, children who depend on their parents for everything are useless.
When parents are old, their children are not capable of filial piety, or even abandon filial piety.
It must be clear that the independence of children is the most beautiful filial piety of parents.
The quarrels caused by frequent reversing old accounts have exposed the fragility of marriage.
Between husband and wife, there is nothing more taboo than turning over old accounts.
And one of the most painful old accounts is the various things that have involved third parties in the past. This kind of topic is like a needle, once touched, it will prick one's heart.
Even at the age of 50, there are still people who cannot rest on their laurels and are still looking for a new third party.
When children are young, we swallow our anger for the sake of their development. This forbearance is essentially to avoid greater contradictions.
However, once the child reaches adulthood, parents stop being patient for their sake, and they may show resentment in their hearts.
After the children's college entrance examination and after graduating from college, cases of parents divorce abound.
On Zhihu, some netizens "Wishing Girl" shared her mother's complaints, saying that her mother wanted a divorce.
The mother said, "When your father is not at home, I bear the burden of the family alone, and I have to do what I need a man to do, so why should I continue to live with him?" ”
For a long time, her mother's living expenses were solved by her mother herself, and her father started a business outside, but he didn't bring a penny home.
At first, she thought she would be able to accept her parents' divorce and be able to persuade her mother. But when faced with this possibility, she found that she didn't quite want this kind of thing to happen. My mother was close by, but she didn't feel safe.
The instability of the marriage will not only hurt the children, but also the adult children, and even the happiness of their own life.
However, it is a dilemma to either endure the pain of marriage or to face an unmarried old age alone.
has a marriage, but lacks warmth; Without marriage, I faced the desolation of my old age alone.
The breakdown of family relationships is often an indication of the corruption of family customs.
It is not until the death of their parents that many people begin to think deeply: "The wind blows the trees, and the children want to be filial but their relatives are not there." ”
Others wait until their parents die to realize that there is only one way to return in life.
But why do we have to wait until after the death of our parents to regret our mistakes? Where were we when our parents were alive?
When we are 50 years old, our parents are still alive and old, and they need our care. If parents are no longer there, siblings will become closest partners.
If we do not understand the way of filial piety, but only compare ourselves with our brothers and sisters, and blame whoever has not fulfilled our filial piety and who gets more inheritance, it will definitely hurt the hearts of our parents.
If we have conflicts with our siblings and find ourselves with no friends or relatives to go to during the Chinese New Year, our hearts will ache.
The most terrible thing is that what we do will affect our children, and the family style will be decadent because of it.
Deep down, isn't it ridiculous that you have a bad attitude towards your elders and expect your children to honor you?
Isn't it acting when you quarrel with your siblings and expect your children to live in harmony?
Don't deceive yourself, teaching by example is better than words. No matter what happens, cherish your extended family, live in harmony with your siblings, and take care of your elderly parents.
Our filial parents today will also be "us" in the future.
When we worry about our livelihoods, it means that we are not ready to retire.
Everyone likes luck to come to us, but luck is built on money.
If you don't work hard when you're young, you'll be sad when you're old", from your twenties to your forties, you've been addicted to entertainment, emotionally distressed, and careless at work, what can you do after you're fifty?
Growing old is a natural thing, and the most terrible thing is not being ready to grow old.
How many people realize that they no longer fit in after the age of sixty and begin to envy their peers who have retired.
But all wise people will prepare for retirement and at least save some money so that they will not lack old age.
In today's society, self-reliance is the only way out, don't rely on your children to support you, don't rely on society to take care of you.
If you worry about your livelihood every day after the age of 50, it means that your life is struggling and you are not prepared for retirement.
The thought of working hard even as his physical strength is declining is worrying.
Sima Xiangru expounded in "Words of Advice": "A wise man can foresee future dangers, and wise people will avoid crises when they are lurking; Disasters are often hidden in small ways, but they erupt when people ignore them. ”
Personal destiny is not entirely determined by oneself, but is also closely related to the companionship of one's partner.
If you want to avoid misfortune, you should have the foresight to start running a family from middle age, cherish your emotions, nurture your children, and improve your moral cultivation.
If you are still in trouble at the age of 50, you should work with your partner to earn money, live frugally, and urge your children to work hard until they are 60 years old and turn their fortunes around. At the same time, we must start from ourselves and solve problems.
Husband and wife spend their lives together, experience ups and downs, and enjoy the happiness of their old age. Pay attention to the correct order and don't get it wrong.