Counselor's confession: I am willing to accompany you to correct your shortcomings, but please accept yourself first.
Dear friends, if you are reading this, then allow me, as a teacher, to have a heart-to-heart conversation with you.
In our lives, everyone will have some shortcomings that they don't like. These shortcomings may be a small flaw in our character, a habit in our behavior, or a pattern in our life. They are like a dark shadow in our minds, making us feel uncomfortable and even making us feel a little disgusted with ourselves.
So, if I have some flaws in me that you don't like, will I change it for you?
The answer is: I won't.
It's not because I'm selfish or unwilling to change for you, but because changing a person, especially their inner qualities, is a very difficult and complicated thing to do. And, more importantly, changing a person should be decided by himself, not by someone else's request.
As a counselor, my role is to help you know yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, and then on that basis, if you are willing, we can work together to find the possibility and the way to change. However, in this process, you need to understand that real change is driven by your own internal drive, not external pressures or expectations.
So, if you have some flaws in you that I don't like, I want you to first be able to accept yourself and understand that these flaws are part of your character, part of your experience, and a reflection of your uniqueness. Then, if you wish, we can explore the path of change together.
In this process, I will always be there for you, accompany you, support you, and help you. Because, I believe, everyone has the ability and possibility to change himself, as long as he is willing, as long as he has enough courage and determination.
Psychological counseling, self-acceptance, self-change