As the old saying goes: "If you don't stay at home, you will never end in wealth." ”According to the ancients, if a family wants to be rejuvenated, it must be simple and simple, and not stuffed everywhere, so that people can't find a place to stay.
By analogy, people are members of the family, and if they want to improve their quality of life, they must handle the relationship between family and personal interests, and clean up some dispensable things in time.
As a retired senior, everyone wants to live happily, but many times, it backfires, and I always feel that I am moving forward with a weight and panting for the rest of my life.
Today, I am with you on the topic of "walking and throwing", hoping that after retirement, we can live an easy life and let everything return to zero.
Throw away the "pride" in the workplace and go among the crowd.
Among the retired elderly, there are always some people who have served as leaders or have made achievements in some aspects. The people around you do not call their names, but "a certain director, a certain director, a certain section chief" and so on.
When you hear the name "workplace flavor", your value will immediately rise, and your body can be straighter. In fact, after retirement, the title and identity are no longer equal.
According to the formal parlance, after retirement, the director should be the "former director"; The section chief is the "former section chief". It's just that everyone is used to removing the word "original".
Once, the neighborhood committee convened a forum for some retired seniors, hoping to listen to everyone's opinions on the construction of the community. An old man who had served as the director of the bureau picked up the microphone and spoke for more than ten minutes, from self-introduction to policy interpretation.
The director of the neighborhood committee reminded softly: "We are mainly solving the problem of harmony in the community at the moment, and we need specific measures. ”
A certain director suddenly realized his gaffe, put down the microphone, and became silent.
Throw away the "official shelf", chat face-to-face with the masses, get used to "talking about things", and the people around you will be very enthusiastic with you, and it will really form an interactive situation.Many retired old people always complain that the people around them are unkind and prejudiced to them. The real situation is actually "high and low", raising yourself too high.
Be an approachable person, and people will become warm to each other.
Throw away the "superfluous things" in the family and live a thrifty life.
In some families, there are often some things that are not opened, there are some things that have only been used once or twice, and there are some things that are used once a year. For example, the abrasives used to make glutinous rice cakes are only used once during the Chinese New Year.
Some old people, after retirement, like to raise flowers and grasses, but they are not good at taking care of them, and withered flowers and plants often appear. The flower pot has no life, should it be thrown away or kept? Most people will choose to keep it, buy another plant, and plant it.
Some elderly people develop hobbies and hobbies, and they only have three minutes of heat, and over time, because of the hobby, there are more and more objects. Let's say I have a fishing rod because I am hot-headed, but I only use it once or twice.
There is a good saying: "A clean home is a blessed man." ”In my hometown, there is a rule: after the age of seventy, there are few new clothes; After the age of sixty, don't build a new house. That is, to advocate that the elderly should change their consumption attitudes and adjust their requirements for food, clothing, housing and transportation according to the changes in age.
When you are frugal, your retirement will be more valuable. If the elderly live a life of surplus every year, their sense of happiness will naturally increase.
Throw away the "high requirements" for your children and accept the ordinary life of your children.
Middle-aged people have high requirements for their children. They not only care about their children's grades, but also force their children to learn art and experience life.
"Xunzi Persuasion" wrote: "Green, taken from the blue and green from the blue; Ice, water for which it is cold and cold. ”Most parents want their children to mix better than they do. But the actual situation of the children makes the parents worried.
When the parents retire, the children are already in their twenties and thirties, and the development trend of life is becoming more and more obvious. In fact, parents should accept their children's status quo and respect their choices, rather than exposing an attitude of "not being used to seeing and looking down on".
An old colleague of mine gave birth to only one daughter. When my daughter was in elementary school, her grades were very good, but when she was in junior high school, she plummeted and was not even admitted to high school.
Now, when an old colleague retires, he says, "She, she went to vocational school and learned cooking, and she is really on the right path." "My daughter has opened a restaurant and has a happy little family, what else is there to worry about in the past?
Blessed people often praise their children instead of complaining.
Throw away the "prejudices" against society and look for the best in society.
Wen Yiduo said: "The individual is equal to the cells of the body to the society, and for a person to be healthy, it goes without saying that every cell must be sound." ”In society, not everything will be fair and reasonable, and not all people are high-quality people. If you pay attention, you will definitely find some petty theft, picking flowers and stepping on grass.
There are always some elderly people who have a pension, but feel that their income is too small; Living in the city and feeling that the traffic is congested; Staying in the countryside, I lack the love of my children. In fact, what makes a person unbalanced is not external forces, but his own heart.
A happy person is not flawless, but accepts everything that is imperfect in the world.
For example, when you see that your gym equipment is broken, you have found an opportunity to fix it and done a good deed. If you complain that the management is too lazy, you are in a bad mood, and you lose the opportunity to show yourself.
Whether society is good or not is actually a matter of perspective. Throw away prejudice, and when you look up, it's all the fragrance of flowers and herbs.
What songs to sing on what mountain, what to do at what age.
Throwing away is not about wanting nothing, but a realm, a kind of wisdom of choice.
Life is like a boat, when I was a teenager, I threw away the safe harbor and went into the deep sea to catch fish and shrimp; In old age, he threw away the ** of the deep sea and returned to a safe harbor.
Everyone wants to be well, but life is not static, there are always ups and downs.
Therefore, we must understand that in this life, it is impossible to get everything, so we must learn to "throw".
Charles Dickens said, "Life is never as good as you think it is, and it's not as bad as you think it is." ”Throw away the "bad", the rest, is "good".