Guiguzi
Text: Emotional expert Yan Yu Yi Butterfly.
Honest people are often too simple, lack the ability to discern people's hearts, are often confused by superficial phenomena, are played with by others, and finally end up losing both personal and financial resources. Therefore, mastering the art of recognizing people is particularly important in life.
Guiguzi, as the ancestor of the Zongheng family, was called a saint by later generations. He is well versed in the way of understanding people, and by observing their behavior, he can gain insight into their character.
Share Guiguzi's five major skills to help you easily identify the villains around you.
Things gather by like, people are divided by groups, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black.Observing who he usually hangs with gives insight into his character and values.
If he is often close to good people, then his knowledge and character are likely to be trustworthy, and such people are usually worthy of reuse and association. On the contrary, if he is always messing with villains, then his character and behavior are worthy of vigilance.
A person's social circle often has an impact on his growth and development.
If he regularly associates with a gentleman, then he will also be positively influenced in terms of learning and morality. On the contrary, if he is always hanging out with his fox friends, then he may gradually degenerate and achieve nothing.
Therefore, by observing a person's circle, you can make a certain judgment about his character and future development.
Money is the thing that tests a person the most.
As the old saying goes, "a gentleman has a way to make money".In fact, there should be a way to scatter wealth.
Some people, when they have money, their hearts drift.
When some people gain wealth, their choices become a litmus test for the level of their lives.
Some people mainly use their money to pursue celebrities and Internet celebrities in the entertainment industry, while others invest in actual industrial development and public welfare.
Especially the kind of person who became rich overnight due to demolition, how he used this sudden wealth can best reflect his humanity.
Some people have broken up their families, strained their loved ones, or even indulged in the world of flowers, while others have been able to use this wealth wisely to further their social status.
However, these choices are not accidental, they are all reflections of his inner realm.
A person's attitude towards wealth, whether it is excessive profligacy or wise investment, will be a key factor in shaping his achievements in life.
When a person climbs to the top and holds a lot of power, his true character is often revealed.
Power, the alluring fruit, once tried, is easy to indulge in and difficult to extricate itself.
There are those who are complacent once they are in high positions, who just want to maintain the status quo and enjoy the pleasure of power, who may be able to occupy high positions temporarily, but are destined to be difficult to achieve great things.
And a truly intelligent and virtuous person will carefully choose the assistants around him, and he understands that only virtuous people can help him go further.
Wang Anshi of the Northern Song Dynasty, when implementing the reforms, held heavy power and had the absolute power to choose talents.
However, in employing people, he followed the principle of "those who follow me prosper, and those who oppose me perish", rejecting those who oppose him, and reusing those who obey orders and flatter.
Such an employment strategy eventually led to the marginalization of outstanding talents like Sima Guang and Su Shi, while traitorous villains like Zhang Dian and Cai Jing gained power.
These people not only failed to bring prosperity to the country, but instead became a scourge to the country, and Wang Anshi's reform fell short.
When a person is in poverty, his attitude towards wealth is often the best reflection of his character and bottom line.
A true gentleman, even if he is poor, can stick to morality and not take ill-gotten gains. On the contrary, those villains who disregard morality for their own selfish interests are often prone to lose themselves in the face of money, and even take risks.
Such a person is not only difficult to resist the ** of money, but is more likely to involve the people around him and become a victim of his improper behavior.
Instead of becoming a wronged leader in vain, it is better to identify and stay away from such people in advance.
There is a question on Zhihu: How to judge a person's character?
One of the highly praised answers was: "There is no definite essence of man that can be grasped. So what does it mean to be a good character? Many times, it is useless for you to look at anything, and only to see a little usefulness is to look at how he looks at the low places in life. ”
Confucius praised Yan Hui in the "Analects": "A spoonful of food, a scoop of drink, and Hui will not change his pleasure." ”
No matter how difficult Yan Hui's life is, he can stick to his heart. This kind of realm is really commendable.
In life, when things are going well, someone feels that everything is going well, and once he encounters a setback, he feels that the whole world owes him and is cynical.
However, the real strong still stick to their principles in the midst of ups and downs, do something and do nothing.
The low point of life is really a cruel trial.
Only those who bravely face and reinvent themselves in difficulties can overcome all difficulties and obstacles, and such people are suitable for treating them with heart.
Understanding others is undoubtedly the most challenging task in the world. Life is short and fleeting.
Before interacting with people, you need to use the sharp sword of Guiguzi's "Five Techniques of Knowing People" to gain insight into the character and cultivation of the other party. In this way, you can find a true confidant in this troubled world.
Staying away from people of bad character and getting close to people of high moral character can not only save oneself from many disturbances, but also improve oneself invisibly.
I hope that you and I can have a pair of "fiery eyes" that perceive people's hearts through continuous cultivation and tempering. In this way, we can leave the rest of our lives to those who truly deserve it.