As an emotional blogger for a large life service, I often run into a problem.
However, no matter how we talk about it, nothing seems to come of it.
Can the person you really love continue to be friends?
Some people say that forcing themselves to be friends with their loved ones will only make them uncomfortable.
Some people say that it is impossible to be a lover, let alone a friend.
It has been said that being friends with a loved one is mostly about self-control.
Truth be told, most people are not optimistic about whether their loved ones can become friends.
Of course, there are more rational people who believe that as long as the two of you are in the right mindset, you can continue to be friends after falling in love.
So how can you become friends with someone you truly love? Nothing more than these four results.
1.I barely restrained myself and continued to pull.
Some people may choose to go out of their way to stay friends.
However, this repression is difficult to maintain in the long term.
The more you try to suppress certain emotions, the deeper they will become.
If you can really treat it rationally, it's not true love.
So, those who barely continue their friendship after a breakup will only end up in entanglements.
This state of ups and downs of tension makes both sides exhausted and even increases the damage to each other.
2.I breathed a sigh of relief, but I still hesitated.
Some people think they can still be friends after letting go.
However, once you actually start dating, you'll realize that you can't let go yet.
Especially after you see your partner become more intimate with other members of the opposite sex or enter into a new relationship.
You still feel resentful, unhappy, and extremely jealous.
At the end of the day, it's just an explosion of possessiveness. 。
Being friends in this state is actually just a kind of self-deception. They think they've come out of the shadows, but they're still there.
3.Over time, you can really let go.
There's no denying that love does fade, especially under the influence of time.
However, the length of time it takes to lay down varies from person to person.
Some people may not be able to truly let go for the rest of their lives.
Of course, some people have no heart and lungs, and they may be completely ** in a few days.
Only by truly letting go can you become friends with each other with a new attitude.
In this case, it is possible for two people to become friends, but you must know that the real situation is more complicated, and it is even more difficult for two people to do something at the same time that ordinary people can't do.
4. One place is different, one is wide, and everyone is safe.
Once you've fallen in love with someone, it's best not to contact them again.
You can leave a place in your heart and treat the other person as an "old friend".
You can make good memories, but avoid life's crossroads.
This ending is probably best for both of them.
After all, if you truly love someone, there are many things you will never forget.
It's really hard to break up. Even the slightest worry can affect both of you psychologically.
Instead of asking for trouble, it is better to stop bothering others, congratulate others, and live your life well.
In fact, whether or not your loved one can be your friend, the answer is yes.
But I need to be clear. Do you want to be friends with someone just because you think it's a good thing to be friends, or do you really want to get back together?
Everyone has a different definition of love and different requirements for friends.
But remember one thing, don't deceive yourself.
The last thing I want to say is.
We were still able to be friends after the breakup.
However, please don't overdo it like everyone else.