(This is a small insight I posted on WeChat Moments five years ago, and it still seems to be educational today, so I posted it on Baijiahao.) I hope you enjoy it).
Life is like a book of mistakes, and many of the truths we understand too late.
My father is 88 years old, and in my old memory, I have never seen him wear leather shoes. Because the whole family knows about him"I don't like to wear leather shoes.
For as long as I can remember, the shoes my whole family wore were made by my mother. Until the 80s, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. I can't make shoes anymore. I bought the first pair of three dollars in my life"Pure tweed shoes. Kept me happy for days. At the material exchange meeting in '82, I fell in love with a pair of brown three-joint leather shoes. 27 yuan, which is equivalent to a month's salary for me. My mother bought it for me without hesitation, I said buy a pair for you and my father too, and my mother smiled and said"Your father and I are very lonely, and we don't like to wear leather shoes, so you can just wear them......”
I didn't feel that my parents were reluctant to buy shoes for me. As a matter of course, I put on the new leather shoes I bought.
More than ten years ago, a colleague in the office told us angrily when he went to work in the afternoon that he was angry at noon today, because he ate chicken at home at noon, and a pair of children said in unison: leave the chicken butt to Dad, he loves to eat chicken butt the most. A colleague said aggrievedly: In the past, when the children were small, he always kept the best for the children, and kept the chicken skin and chicken butt for himself. Unexpectedly, the children got used to it and always left the chicken butt to him until he couldn't ......bear it anymore
That's it, after my wife and I got married, I kept telling her, our dad doesn't like to wear the shoes he bought, you can help my dad make a pair of shoes. The honest wife also believed it. I have been making shoes for my father. His father has also been silently wearing his daughter-in-law's handmade cloth shoes for him. It wasn't until 2006 that my nephew gave me a pair of ANTA sports leather shoes. The moment I tried on the shoes, I accidentally saw my father's envious eyes. My father whispered, "I can wear these shoes." I listened to it and gave it to my father without hesitation. My father still wears these shoes to this day.
As the years go by, so do the ages. I suddenly remembered the story of my colleague and understood: the port of love.
Always facing downward, the kind mother has been diligent and thrifty all her life, and has never bought leather shoes for herself. I actually believed it, ** because my father didn't like to wear leather shoes, obviously for our children, and he was reluctant to buy them for himself. All the parents said they didn't want to ......Don't love ......Can't ......In fact, it's all a pretext. Behind them are full of grievances they have suffered. It really fulfills the old saying: no matter how filial a child is, it is not as good as a husband and wife on the way. Those of us who are children are doing so badly.
Truth be told, life has left us with too many regrets. Some regrets are irreparable. I can barely remember seeing my mom wear leather shoes. When my mother was alive, she did not enjoy any of our blessings, and she did not be filial to her mother, which is the biggest regret ...... my lifeIf I burn more money for her, will she be able to spend it? As the saying goes, it is better to give a bouquet of flowers to the living than to a wreath to the dead. A bowl of soup before death is better than ten thousand pillars of incense after death. My parents were heartbroken for this family. Those who have made great contributions, no matter what they do, cannot repay the kindness of their parents. Let's try to do it as well as possible in the future.