When you come across a locked door, should you go to ** to find the key?
It is obvious that one should not stare at the lock because the key will not be inserted into the lock, and if it is inserted in the lock, it will not be a problem. So the key must be somewhere else, right?
In the same way, when we encounter a problem, the problem seems to be the lock that locks, and the solution is the key, so if we keep staring at the problem, can we find a solution? Definitely not.
So you should take your attention off the problem itself and look elsewhere for a solution.
In many cases, such as falling in love, when a boy falls in love, there will always be moments when he thinks, why was it okay just now, but his girlfriend immediately changed her face? Why can't you just "just take things as they are"? If the boy constantly explains, persuades or even coaxes around this matter, the other party is often more angry. So where is the key? It is mentioned in psychology books that for a higher animal like humans, there are some emotions that are opposites and almost completely impossible to coexist. For example, you can hardly be happy and miserable, excited and low, or bored and ......funny at the same timeSo, the solution is fairly straightforward:
If you can make the other person feel extremely happy, they can't be miserable, angry, bored, or helpless......
It's about making the other person happy again, rather than ravaging the previous problem repeatedly.
Money is a problem, but the solution is not in the money itself, but in the fact that we should pay attention to our own ability training, and "personal ability" is the real "key".
You chase money, you can't catch up with money, money chases you, you can't run away from ......