Hello, I'm Sugar.
There used to be a hot topic on Zhihu:
What should true love look like? ”
There was a high praise answer:
True love should be when I see all living beings are grass and trees, and only when I see you are green mountains. ”
Everyone's understanding of love is different, some people think that love should be vigorous, and some people think that love should be a long stream.
But I think that if you really fall in love with someone, these 3 details must be indispensable.
01 There is only you in my eyes.
is on the air in the TV series "South to North", putting aside Jia Jinlong's identity, he really loves Yao Er. Although Jia Jinlong was ruthless, he gave Yao Er the only tenderness in his heart.
Jia Jinlong fell in love with Yao Er at first sight and promised that Yao Er could come to him at any time if he had something. He took Yao'er to eat delicious food, buy beautiful clothes, live in a high-end community, give a brand-name bag, and finally gave a suite, and even hung the key to that suite on the "big gold chain" as a necklace for Yao'er.
Lin Huiyin once said: "If you embrace me in your arms, love me to the bones, and protect me thoroughly, I am willing to blindfold and not tell whether you are a human or a ghost, you treat me sincerely or perfunctory, my heart is like a mirror." ”
Although emotion cannot be a reason and excuse for not arguing right and wrong and being unreasonable, love is not absolutely rational.
Although Jia Jinlong is not a good person, from the perspective of love, he is a good husband. does not advocate Jia Jinlong's personality, but only expounds Jia Jinlong's love for women.
A man who always has a light in his eyes whenever he mentions you must love you very much.
02 Pay attention to your preferences.
It has been said that someone who is willing to pay attention to your preferences must care about you very much, and a person who remembers your tastes and taboos must have you in their hearts.
In the TV series "Falling in Love with Special Forces", Xia Chu once asked Liang Muze if there were any habits that lived in his life, and Liang Muze's answer was no.
But in a later confession, Liang Muze changed his answer to this question, and he said to Xia Chu that he was learning to eat durian, and he didn't put salt when he learned to make soup, and he was used to the taste of Xia Chu.
Anyone who has watched the TV series knows that the first time Liang Muze drank the soup made at the beginning of summer, he complained that the soup tasted very light, and Liang Muze never ate durian. But in the day and night with Xia Chu, he gradually fell in love with this girl, so he began to care about Xia Chu's preferences and tastes.
Only those who love you are willing to spend time with you; People who love you are willing to pay attention to your preferences in daily life; People who love you are willing to slowly approach your life.
03 Give you his preference.
I once watched a TV series, the drama is called "Dear, Loved".
When the heroine Tong Nian accompanied the male protagonist Han Shangyan to participate in the competition, Han Shangyan gave Tong Nian the uniform of the KK team, and even the captain Wu Bai said that this was the first time he saw Han Shangyan give the clothes representing the KK team to the girls.
Han Shangyan only gave the KK uniform to Tong Nian, which is the best interpretation of preference. At the same time, it also expresses a view of love, where true love is unique and exclusive.
Ni Yining wrote a sentence in a book: What can give people a sense of security is never love but preference.
In the encounter between two people, they are unique to each other, and all the vows and unchangeable creeds will disappear in front of the people they like.
Love is not liking, preference is, and it is also the best expression of love.
Conclusion. Yu Guangzhong said: "Your eyes are so beautiful, there are sunny and rainy, sun and moon, mountains, rivers, clouds, flowers and birds, but my eyes are even better, because I have you in my eyes." ”
Affection is not as good as companionship, and love does not need to be said.
When a man truly falls in love with you, he will be centered on you everywhere in his life, will be reflected in every detail, and love you more than himself.
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