Plato said, "Falling in love is a feeling, and when this feeling is no longer there, I am still pushing myself, and this is called responsibility." ”
It is true that many couples have been together for a lifetime, not because they feel right, but because they are driven by responsibility. Couples who can truly love each other, their feelings to hold hands and go through ups and downs.
I.M. PeiBorn at the beginning of the last century, he designed the expansion of the Louvre in Paris and the new Suzhou Museum, which have become landmarks. He received the 1979 American Institute of Architects Gold Medal, the 1981 French Architectural Gold Medal, and the Medal of Freedom from Ronald Reagan.
When it comes to his life, people pay more attention to what is behind himWife Lu Ailing。Europe** said: "They are fairy couples." ”
A celebrity who is familiar with them commented: "The couple is a match made in heaven, they have been and will be." ”
From them, it is not difficult to find that the love that feels right is mutually nourishing and heart-to-heart.
A sense of security will protect you for a lifetime.
In the summer of 1938, I.M. Pei went to pick up friends at the New York train station, and accidentally found the Chinese girl Lu Ailing in the crowd that made him charming.
Originally, it was just a passing by, but the hurricane forced the train to be delayed, and Lu Ailing, who was going to Wesley College, could only wait quietly for the train to start. I.M. Pei decisively decided to go to the train to chat with her to drive away the loneliness of the journey and the fear of accidents.
Stepping on a strange land and encountering unexpected situations, a woman will inevitably be afraid, but at this moment, there is a person who cares about her, it is very different.
Men use strong arms to support a period of fate, even if it falls every day, they will withstand it. If the woman meets him and holds hands, she will be safe for the rest of her life.
No one knows, tomorrow or accident, which one will come first. But when someone around you tells you, "Don't be afraid, I'm here," don't worry.
As Haruki Murakami said, "For people who love each other, the other person's heart is the best house." ”
Observe and care more carefully, which is more down-to-earth than a house made of reinforced concrete. The fixed, protected area of the house is limited; The atria are fluid and can be protected at all times.
A sense of complementarity, mutual achievement.
I.M. Pei has suffered several setbacks in the construction industry, and has a manly "direct, rough". Lu Ailing is more delicate, more tactful in dealing with problems, good at maneuvering, and tireless.
For example, when she was trying to design the John F. Kennedy Library, Eileen Lou asked Kennedy's wife, Jacqueline, what hobbies and flowers she liked. From Jacqueline's point of view, she dressed up I.M. Pei's architectural design studio and cast her favorite way, and it worked.
For example, in 1943, the design of a temple was maliciously evaluated, causing I.M. Pei to drink alcohol. Lu Ailing found the relevant professor and theorized while holding the child to seek justice. The professor said with a smileI.M. Pei's success is due to that afternoon with Eileen Lou. ”
Actor Yuan Li once said: "If two people love each other, they should not care about gains and losses, devote themselves wholeheartedly to it, and burn themselves and each other." ”Many couples overemphasize the "right match", so they become "-for-tat", and they all hope that each other is as rich as themselves; It also attaches great importance to the "consistency of the three views", which has slowly evolved into the "strong integration of the three views", and does not allow any friction between each other.
There is a big difference between two people who really love each other - your shortcomings are my strengths; Your mistakes need me to correct them; There are always differences in the three views of two people, but they can accommodate each other.
When two identical people live together, they become you and the shadow. And the person who can help you is not a shadow, but an assertive person.
Relaxed, comfortable life.
After Lu Ailing got married, she concentrated on running the family, and the outside world was very exciting, which was her husband's world.
When her husband was stuck, she stepped forward, and when her husband succeeded, she actively retreated.
In the United States, they have three meals a day, a lot of Chinese elements, and the window flowers of their hometown. The house is decorated, very Chinese-style, and someone specially mailed four books and five scriptures for study.
A good family will make people "feel at home". Back home, able to relax yourself; The communication between the husband and wife is also smooth.
As the saying goes: "Being a man is like water, if you are low, I will come to you, and if you are high, I will retreat." ”When husband and wife are accompanied, there must always be one person, like water. If two stones are leaning against each other, they will hurt each other.
Many people are tired of living, not because they are tired from work, but when they come home, they hear the nagging words, see the cold stove, and ask how much they earn.
The person who makes you feel relaxed must love you very much, he accommodates everything about you, and carries you up and down.
A sense of direction, thinking in one place.
What is life going to go to?
Both I.M. Pei and Eileen Lou know very well that no matter how far they go, they must love their country. Therefore, their children's names all have a "medium" character.
They are particularly concerned about the changes in China.
In 1974, they officially returned to China, saying, "In my lifetime, it's good to come back." At that moment, tears rolled in his eyes.
Also, they insist on a low-key life, and when a magazine wants to introduce I.M. Pei, Lu Ailing refuses to provide **.
In life, what are you going to do? Someone gets lost, so they meet a third person and think that true love has attacked; Some people will be confused, lose themselves, and be immersed in desires; Someone will stop, starting at the age of forty or fifty, and wait for death.
Husband and wife are together, and if both of them are confused, they will lose hope of the family, just like entering a dark place.
What the future will hold is like waiting for a ray of light. What is truly happy is not the moment when the dawn comes, but "relying on each other and waiting quietly".
The most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you, collect bits and pieces of laughter along the way, and save it for later to sit in a rocking chair and talk slowly", this lyric, we are particularly envious, it is simply "waiting for the picture of getting old".
If you wait for a miracle with your loved one, wait for your child to grow up, wait for your old age to travel. Then hold hands, every step will be determined, and you will look at each other with affection.
To love or not to love, you can't do without real feelings.
If you don't love it, even if he is in front of you, you can't feel it.
If you love deeply, at the ends of the earth, it is as close as it is at hand.
Throughout our lives, it is wisest to meet someone who makes you happy and sorrowful, and decisively holds hands.
The best love is probably: you make my heart move, I make you feel at ease.