The ancients said: "The jade test must be burned for seven days, and the identification of people must wait for ten years." ”No matter how good you mix at the moment, how much money you make, and how high your position is, you will eventually have to pay for "character".
Some people desperately put gold on their faces, thinking that life will burn and shine, but they don't know that there is light on their faces, but their hearts are dim, and nothing can be accomplished.
Therefore, if you want to achieve a lifetime, you must pass the character test and take care of it persistently.
There is a problem with his character, and there is no hope for promotion.
There is such a story in Zizhi Tongjian: During the Warring States Period, Zi Si, a descendant of Confucius, proposed to the monarch who defended the country to promote Gou Chang.
Gou Bian can be good at civil and martial arts, can lead the army, and is a rare talent.
The monarch said"This person, I know and appreciate it, but when he was collecting taxes at the local level, he actually ate two eggs from the common people. ”
Then, Zisi continued to make suggestions, and based on his understanding of Gou Bian, he said a lot of opinions. The monarch nodded in agreement.
"Two eggs", whether in ancient times or now, is a very small thing, but a person's character is exposed. A person's future, as a result, is hindered.
There is a way to say, don't take a stitch from the masses.People in the workplace, your work attitude, and your approach to the masses will be perceived by your superiors. Moreover, the eyes of the masses are bright, and they will not only see your actions, but also reveal them to people at the top.
No matter how outstanding your abilities are, if you like to do shady things, you won't rise up because everyone is worried about having villains around you. Unless it's a group of villains, touting each other and working together to bring down the unit. But doing so will not do you any good, nor will it last long.
There is a problem with character, and there is no confidence in socializing.
People mix in society and hope to be appreciated and promoted by others.
But you have to understand that if you don't fight for yourself, it will be useless for anyone to promote you. If you give you a good opportunity, you can't take it.
During the Tang Dynasty, Pang Xiangshou, the assassin of Puzhou, was once a capable general under Tang Taizong. When Tang Taizong was still the king of Qin, he had a deep friendship.
Pang Xiangshou was removed because of **. After a while, he wanted to be activated, so he sent a message to Tang Taizong, hoping to "give some face and remember the old feelings".
Minister Wei Zheng said: "There are many Chinese and foreign kings around the king of Qin, and I am afraid that everyone is jealous of kindness, which is enough to make those who are good fearful." ”
Back then, there was a large group of people around King Qin, and if they all had to think about the old feelings, there would be no way to deal with national affairs. "Nepotism" is a worrying thing.
Obviously, a tainted person, even if he is a relative or friend of the "king", is useless.
The confidence of social interaction is to be frank and open-minded, and to do things openly. Etiquette is the usual emotional contact, eating and drinking is to pass the free time, and when it comes to the critical time, it depends on the character.
If you have a bad character, whoever you are with is a thief, so don't expect someone to pull you away.
If you have a problem with your character, you are not comfortable talking about money.
During the Song Dynasty, Ding Wei was a person who was difficult to characterize. On the one hand, he has done a lot of good things for the people, and his literary style is also outstanding; On the one hand, he and Kou Zhun went toe-for-tat, and they also did some things to slap horses and shield eunuchs to disrupt the government.
Judging from the process of his development, he was deeply loved by the people during the Dazhong auspicious year. At that time, he was doing assassination in Suzhou, trying to find a way to reduce the tax burden for the masses. Historical records:For the township, please Yu Chao, special free money.
During his tenure as the third envoy, he insisted on collecting taxes based on Xianping's six-year household registration and financial income.
Judging from the above two things, it is not surprising that Ding Wei was promoted. Anywhere, he can say frankly that he has a clear conscience for the benefit of everyone.
After Ding Wei became a celebrity around the emperor, he tried to build a palace and squeeze out the people around him, so he made a lot of money. His home-The Quartet bribes the legacy, and it is invincible.
In this life, you can't help but talk about money. Especially middle-aged people, if they don't have money, they can't move an inch, and their livelihood is not secured.
However, when talking about money, you should keep it "clean," because if you have ill-gotten gains, you will be laughed at if you talk about money.
Let's say a greedy person, who cooperates with a friend in business, and he secretly puts dividends in his pocket. When a friend finds out, he will be angry and break off the relationship. Thus, the way to do business was cut off.
A person with high morals should always be a clean person and do not want ill-gotten gains. So he can talk about money at any time and can make money happily.
If there is a problem with character, husband and wife are also calculating.
Ming Dynasty writer Feng Menglong wrote about a man named Liang Shangbin, after getting married, he was idle, and he also went on a blind date in the name of his cousin and cheated other people's money.
After his wife Tian learned about Liang Shangbin's evil deeds, she insisted on divorce.
The writer sighed: "It's a pity that the Tian family is a virtuous and wise woman, and they will be separated after a scolding." ”Around us, we often encounter such things: husbands and wives go their separate ways, hide their money, and plan for their future; No one wants to take care of the big things in the family; The work of husband and wife is mysterious, and they can't communicate with each other about how much they pay, what their status is, and what they will do in the future.
Selfishness, wanting to divorce from the beginning, not being filial to parents, and being suspicious of each other, no one can guarantee that husband and wife will accompany each other until they grow old.
A good husband and wife start with good looks, become a good family, and finally have a good character. Nothing less. Don't think that if you have a luxury house and a luxury car and a mine at home, you can keep a marriage.
The ancestor left two sentences: "Just because of a mistake, the plate is empty; The weeds overgrow the corn. ”
The previous sentence is to warn us not to make mistakes, otherwise it will be difficult to recover, prevent the slightest problem, and know the way back, which is the right way.
The latter sentence is to tell us that no matter how capable you are, you will not be the first person in the world, if you lose your character, a more powerful character than you will crush you and leave you with nowhere to hide.
A person, if there is a problem with his character, everything is busy, and he is cautious.
Don't take the good as small, don't take the evil as small, and the rest of your life will be fine.