Someone said: "There is too much helplessness in life, if it is not forced by life, who wants to wear other people's old clothes?" ”
It is true that in today's increasingly improving standard of living, wearing old clothes has become a helpless move. It seems that only the very poor will accept old clothes as gifts.
As a post-70s generation, I have a special affection for old clothes.
When I was a child, my family lived in a ravine, and when the harvest was scarce, my family would lack food. For clothes, don't pick and choose, it's good to be able to wear warm.
Some relatives in the city often send old clothes to my house. My mother washed her clothes and put them on my body. Sometimes, clothes with holes are patched and have to be worn again.
Three years of new, three years of old, and another three years of sewing and mending. This tradition has lasted in my family for many years."This time, that time", if you observe carefully, you will find that the tradition of wearing old clothes has changed a lot, if you are poor at the moment, do not wear other people's old clothes at will.
Wearing someone else's old clothes can make a person lose their self-confidence.
In Zhihu, someone asked: "What do you think about wearing other people's old clothes?" ”
The questioner described it this way: She has a beautiful cousin and is super fond of buying clothes. Every once in a while, some old clothes would be picked up for her.
Because she was still a student, she didn't have time to go shopping, so she accepted it calmly.
The people around him think that even ordinary families can't dress up so "cowardly". Therefore, she was confused.
Netizen "Yang Yang" replied that there are pros and cons to wearing old clothes. The good thing is that you don't go shopping around to buy clothes, saving time and money; The disadvantage is that when you look at the boys and girls around you, they are dressed up very fashionably, so there is a sense of disparity. After all, the style of old clothes is outdated, and there are even obvious scars, wrinkles, etc.
Sometimes, we will have this feeling: when we are interacting with peers, everyone is dressed up brightly, but we are very simple, and we have invisibly become "ugly ducklings, Cinderella", and we dare not look up at people or speak loudly.
Poverty will make a person very unconfident.
From a certain point of view, we are also influenced by the concept of "food that comes to us", thinking that if we accept old clothes, we will be inferior, and we will be ashamed of ourselves wherever we go.
Over time, the old clothes on the body wear out people's self-confidence.
Wearing someone else's old clothes may be labelled as a "poor life".
In society, many people will try to dress up when they go to apply for jobs. Buying a new dress is an important part.
Even people who don't have the money to buy new clothes will try to choose a relatively new one, wash it carefully, and wear it on their body.
The first cause effect "tells us that a person's first impression of others is important and that it is difficult to change in later interactions."
A cousin of mine has been living in the countryside. In previous years, she lived by raising pigs, so she did not have any requirements for clothing. Relatives and friends gave her old clothes, and it became a habit.
Sometimes, we often think like this: He is poor, we should take care of him; If you need old clothes, you should give them to her. Giving away old clothes as "a good thing" is the thinking of the rich; And the poor can only passively accept it.
When a person is labeled with some kind of label, it is very difficult to tear it off.
There's a good saying: "When you put faith in yourself, you will always be empowered." ”If you don't want to be looked down upon all the time, then reject someone else's old clothes and give yourself a backbone.
Wearing someone else's old clothes may lead to someone else's shadow.
In "Warning to the World", there is such a story: Lu Yu and Lu Bao are two brothers, living next to each other, and both married daughters-in-law.
Lu Yu has been out in business for many years and has not been heard from. Lu Bao thought that Lu Yu had an accident and was no longer alive, so he persuaded Lu Yu's daughter-in-law to remarry.
Because the relationship between the concubines is very good, Lu Bao's daughter-in-law and Lu Yu's daughter-in-law often change clothes. Therefore, on the day of the remarriage, the person who greeted the relatives recognized the wrong "daughter-in-law" in a panic and carried Lu Bao's daughter-in-law away.
A man depends on his clothes, and a horse depends on his saddle. If you always wear someone else's clothes, you will agree with someone else's aesthetic and have certain characteristics in someone else's body. Over time, you will find the shadow of "someone else" from you.Often, we will see a familiar back, and then walk forward, only to find that it is not an "acquaintance". This is the confusion that comes with "dressing up".
When you are very poor, if you don't know how to find your own way, always rely on someone, most of you will lose yourself, in case the other party no longer helps you, you will really be desperate.
A piece of clothing is a small thing, but if you rely too much on it, things are magnified. You have to have your own opinions about what color you like, what style you like, and how thick the clothes you need.
There are strings attached to wearing someone else's old clothes.
If the living conditions are good, can other people's old clothes be worn, and is it necessary to have a thrifty style?
The answer is that old clothes can definitely be worn, and at the same time, you should adjust your mindset and pay attention to social occasions.First, you must have enough self-confidence in life。For old clothes, they can be appropriately modified to give them a new look; Learn how to dress up and put old clothes in a new style.
There is a good saying: "You are not embarrassed, it is others who are embarrassed." "If you don't associate clothes with face, then old clothes will not make you feel inferior, and you will not always be inferior.
Second, we must inherit a good family style. "Zhu Zi's Family Motto" says: "A porridge and a meal are difficult to think of material resources, and every wisp of thought is not easy to come by." "When you take thrift as a habit of life, you will find that the people around you are giving you praise, not ridicule.
Third, establish correct life values。When a person regards "comparison" as the value of life, he will do a lot of things that "die to save face and suffer crimes", and no matter how much money there is, it won't take a few days. If you give up the comparison and focus on studying hard and working hard, you will excel in whatever you wear.
Fourth, learn to refuse。For some people who use "old clothes" to demean you, it should be rejected. His approach is obviously unkind and insincere. Refuse to be friends with extravagant people, and don't be fooled by their fallacies.
Haruki Murakami said: "No matter what everyone in the world says, I think my feelings are correct, no matter what others think, I will never disrupt my rhythm, I can naturally stick to what I like, and I can't last long if I don't like it." ”Obviously, the key to a person's personality charm is his own three views and understanding of life.
There are pros and cons to wearing someone else's old clothes, the choice is in your own hands.