Enlightenment Project
In the trivialities of life, parents often look forward to the growth of their children, hoping that they can understand the hard work of their parents and learn to be independent and mature. However, when children enter adolescence, this good wish often turns into an unforeseen storm. Today, I'm going to tell you a story about the moment when an adolescent child drives his parents crazy.
Li Ting is a middle-aged mother who has a fifteen-year-old son, Xiao Ming. In Li Ting's view, Xiao Ming has always been an obedient and sensible child. However, as Xiao Ming enters puberty, his behavior becomes more and more difficult to understand. He became addicted to mobile games, often stayed up late, and his academic performance plummeted. Li Ting has tried to communicate with Xiao Ming many times, but each time it ended in a quarrel.
One night, Li Ting found Xiao Ming hiding in her room playing games again, and he hadn't taken a shower for several days. She couldn't bear it anymore and decided to teach Xiao Ming a lesson. She walked into Xiao Ming's room, snatched her mobile phone, and reprimanded loudly: "Look at yourself, what you look like!" I know how to play games all day long, my grades are a mess, and I don't pay attention to hygiene! How can you go on like this! ”
Xiao Ming was enraged by his mother's reprimand, his eyes widened, and he shouted at Li Ting: "Why do you care about me!" I've grown up and I have my own ideas and lifestyle! You don't understand me at all! With that, he snatched his phone back and slammed the door.
Li Ting was stunned, she never thought that Xiao Ming would speak to her with such an attitude. She felt heartache, anger and helplessness. She felt that she had done her best, why couldn't Xiao Ming understand her hard work? At that moment, Li Ting felt that she was about to collapse.
In the next few days, the relationship between Li Ting and Xiao Ming fell to a freezing point. They ignore each other, and the atmosphere in the house becomes extremely oppressive. Li Ting began to reflect on her education methods, was she too strict with Xiao Ming? Should she give Xiao Ming more freedom and space?
After a period of calm thinking, Li Ting decided to adopt a new way of education. She no longer forces Xiao Ming to live according to her own wishes, but tries to understand his inner world and respect his personality and choices. She began to have in-depth communication with Xiao Ming, listened to his ideas and opinions, and worked together to solve problems.
Gradually, Xiao Ming also began to realize his problems and took the initiative to seek change. He gradually reduced the amount of time he spent playing games and began to focus on his academic performance and personal hygiene. At the same time, he also learned how to communicate with his parents and express his emotional needs.
After a period of hard work and adjustment, the relationship between Li Ting and Xiao Ming has improved significantly. They have re-established a foundation of trust and respect, and the family atmosphere has become more harmonious.
This story teaches us that adolescence is a time of challenge and change. At this stage, children need more understanding, support, and guidance. As parents, we should learn to empathize, respect our children's individuality and choices, and grow and progress with them. Only in this way can we avoid being swept away by the storm of adolescence and work together to create a warm and harmonious family environment.