If it were you, would you just flip the table and break up? During the Chinese New Year, Yijin and her boyfriend thoughtfully went to the man's hometown in the northeast for the New Year. As soon as she arrived at the door, Grandma Zhou asked Yijin to cross the brazier on the grounds that the two of them did not agree. In the north, the brazier is generally used for bad luck when released from prison after completing the sentence, which is somewhat unlucky. Yijin looked at her unrelenting grandmother, thinking about her relationship with her boyfriend, and she didn't want to disobey her elders, so she had to compromise. But Yijin's compromise did not bring any respect. When I entered the house, my grandmother brought another bowl of fresh chicken blood. Grandma has been "smiling" and persuading Yijin: "The great immortal said that when Xiao Li first entered our house, he drank it to ensure that everything will go smoothly in the coming year." ”Grandpa rushed out of the house and yelled, "If you two want to get going, drink it, or disperse." 
At this moment, Yijin didn't realize that her boyfriend's entire family saw herself as an ominous sign. has been with Zhou Yu for 8 years, and Yijin does not know the situation at Zhou Dao's home. The word "thoughtful mother" is like a bomb, crushing the little self-esteem she originally had into slag and letting others crush it. Grandpa threw down a sentence of ", you're not welcome in this house" and walked away. At this point in the story, some people may see that this is the plot of the TV series "Fireworks People". As a viewer, I feel the same way, and I feel a sense of suffocation that wants to rush into the screen, which makes me feel indignant. In the 21st century, how can there still be such feudal and superstitious old people? What is the superiority of thoughtful grandparents? Zhou Zhi's father died and his mother was in prison, why can't he look down on Yijin? Some people say, is this screenwriter making it up, her boyfriend's family is like that to Yijin, why didn't Yijin leave Zhou Dao's house directly, why didn't she break up with Zhou Zhi immediately? I think there are two reasons for this. First, Yijin wants to get married and get rid of her mother's control. From childhood to adulthood, my mother's control over Yijin is everywhere and all the time, from what I eat, what clothes I wear, what hairstyle I wear, to what friends I make and what work I do. is obviously concerned about the food, clothing, housing and transportation of clothes, but he speaks with knives. The beginning of the conversation between Mom and Yijin is always that,"Yo, you still know to come back", "Yo, you still know that there is a mother like me", "You still know to pick up **". Mom can make dozens of calls a day**, can confirm a boyfriend candidate for Yijin, can help Yijin resign privately, and can make a big fuss about Yijin's office ......
Did you say mom didn't love her? Yes and no. Because there is only one child, my mother puts all her energy on Yijin, wanting her to complete her unfinished studies, career, and happy familyThese are more than mother's love. The second is that I want my mother to experience disappointment. As we said earlier, my mother is extremely controlling over Yijin. Children growing up in a controlling familyOne of the main characteristics is that they are either extremely submissive or extremely rebellious. In the past ten years, Yijin has been living according to the trajectory given by her mother. Until I met thoughtful, it was like picking up a life-saving straw. Two children who also have problems with their original families have come together with mutual understanding. The more you don't like Thoughtful, the more I want to be with Thoughtful. Marrying Zhou Yu can make her mother feel frustrated, and it is also a pleasure for Yijin. In the play, cousins Tao Shuna and Yijin have completely different views on love. 
It is not an exaggeration to say that Tao Shuna is a love brain. Since she became obsessed with Zhang Xiaoyan, Tao Shuna has kept this scholarly man in her heart for many years. She aimed at Zhang Xiaoyan, and she was admitted to Zhang Xiaoyan's prestigious school. In order to get closer to him, she studied his majorShe became the only female doctor in their academy and successfully entered the aerospace research institute where he worked. Xueba, famous domestic schools, female doctors, research institutes, if it weren't for Zhang Xiaoyan, Tao Shuna might not have her current achievements. This kind of love brain is worth learning from our sisters. Netizens bluntly said that Tao Shuna, played by Sun Qian, is sincere and brave in "acting immediately if you love" and "love is going to be him", which is completely the ideal state pursued in her heart. On the other hand, cousin Yijin chose to be thoughtful because she was more miserable than her original family, and she was not inferior to her in thoughtfulness, even if she broke up in the middle, the TV series was still together at the end. 
Yijin and Nana show us exactly two cognitive situations:Low cognition:Yijin will not choose higher-level people, such as Liao Zhe, who appeared later, she said: "We are not the same kind of people". If people only choose to be in their own circle, then they will never achieve more, no matter how hard they work. High Cognition:Nana was determined to become him because she saw Zhang Xiaoyan on TV and thought he was very good. If there is no Zhang Xiaoyan, there may be someone else. Her life has been like a well-planned journey, filled with meaning and value at every stepIt seems that no matter what you do, you can easily achieve your goals and achieve success. Often, higher emotional cognition is to constantly seek inward and upward, rather than being content with the status quo and seeking downward. Rather than being mentally exhausted in an imperfect relationship, it is better to approach a person with a high level of cognition. Keep communicating with them, recharge your cognition, and reserve energy for future development.