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"I'm a ...... for the sake of the movie”

This is what Song Chunli, the "first mother in the world", once said in an interview.

For work, she has always been conscientious, putting herself all into it, and she has played countless mother figures, but she has always failed to have children.

However, at the age of 61, she made up for her regrets and finally became a mother.

In 1951, Song Chunli was born in Hebei, the conditions of her family were very difficult, and she lived a life of shrinking clothes and dieting since she was a child, and it was normal to not have enough to eat.

In her impression, her mother was a very simple and frugal person.

At the age of 13, she followed the local recruiting force and became a soldier.

After a while, she was recommended to become a literary soldier, and with this outstanding ability, she got many opportunities to perform.

During her days in the song and dance troupe, she and her colleagues also got along very well.

The girl in the same bedroom with her was a warm-hearted girl, and she was very loyal to introducing people to others, and she was old.

Whenever the other party enthusiastically mentioned this matter, Song Chunli would find various reasons to shirk it

In her heart, she doesn't want to get married very early, and she also feels that her life is very good and comfortable, and she doesn't want anyone to break in.

For a girl in her twenties, there was no need to get married in a hurry, but at that time, everyone got married very early, and her parents hoped that Song Chunli could have personal care as soon as possible.

At the urging of her parents, she had to agree to consider it.

So, when her roommate introduces her to someone again, she will try to meet her as much as possible.

To say that the people introduced to her by her roommate are also the best in the industry, whether it is in terms of appearance or knowledge, she is not bad, but she is stunned and does not match.

After going back and forth a few times, she ran out of patience, and since there was no suitable one, she just let it be.

After that, she stopped going on blind dates.

The so-called, unintentionally inserted willows and willows, fate can't stop it.

Whether it is from the language or from the expression, the friend reveals a state of admiration and respect, so Song Chunli is very curious about what kind of person the other party is?

In order to prove that what he said was true, his friend gave her Sun Weixi's receiving address and said:"When you get to know such a person, you will definitely fall in love with him! ”

Out of curiosity, Song Chunli boldly tried to write a letter to the other party.

After receiving Song Chunli's letter, Sun Weixi was surprised, but more because he felt that this girl was very brave.

When his friend said that maybe a girl would send him a letter, he didn't believe it.

Because he is a very introverted person who likes normalcy, he definitely does not have the courage to write letters to strangers anyway.

After reading the letter, Sun Weixi could feel the sincerity of the person who wrote the letter and the boldness of his personality through the lines.

Originally, he was still worried about whether to reply to the letter, so he picked up the pen and wrote the contents of 2 pieces of paper.

At first, the two of them only wrote letters every once in a while, but as time went on, the frequency became more and more frequent.

Gradually, Sun Weixi became Song Chunli's most trusted confidant, happy and unhappy will write in her heart and share with each other.

From time to time, I would put two candies in the envelope and draw a small flower in the place where I signed it.

On the other side, Sun Weixi, even if he often works late at night, he will still reply to Song Chunli seriously.

Except for **, Sun Weixi is not interested in anything, but now he is so interested in a girl he has never met, and his friends are shocked.

When the students saw the teacher's smile every day, they jokingly asked him, "Teacher, are you in love?" ”

I think so! ”

When answering, Sun Weixi's mind was all about Song Chunli.

Through the exchange of letters, he felt more and more that the other party was the person who could be with him for a lifetime.

After clarifying his inner thoughts, he really wanted to meet Song Chunli as soon as possible.

However, due to the beginning of the semester, there are several graduate students who need him to take him, and he has never been able to find the opportunity to ask for leave.

Sun Weixi, who missed the appointment again, expressed his apologies in the letter.

Maybe if it were other girls, she would definitely be angry if she was released many times, but in Song Chunli's eyes, this just shows that the other party is a very responsible person.

Not only did Sun Weixi want to see her, but she also wanted to see him.

A month later, at the door of ** college, Song Chunli wore a newly bought pale pink dress, the sun shining on her delicate face, unconsciously exuding charm.

In order to surprise the other party, he didn't mention in the letter that he had asked for leave and decided to go to him.

On the way there, she fantasized about the scene of nowhere to meet Sun Weixi, which was very romantic.

But the reality is very skinny, shattering all the good.

After entering the ** school, Song Chunli realized that she didn't know the other party's office at all, and the huge school had no clue at all.

I had no choice but to squat at the gate.

Maybe it's a secret arrangement.

When she waited to no avail, she was thinking about whether to ask a classmate about it, when a man pushing a bicycle against the light appeared directly opposite.

Although he couldn't see his face clearly, the other party's temperament was very prominent, and there seemed to be a voice telling Song Chunli, "It's him."

So, she tentatively called out the three words Sun Weixi, and the man stopped.

At this moment, they both recognized each other.

Although Song Chunli took off her makeup a little at this time, and the other party was just wearing a simple shirt, she still felt very romantic.

From acquaintance to meeting, the two are like idol dramas, bizarre and reasonable.

After meeting, they were not embarrassed, Sun Weixi took her around the school for a while, and even went to his office.

On the desk in the office, there is also a half-written letter paper.

Seeing this scene, Song Chunli joked: ".You're a desertion during working hours! The two looked at each other and smiled.

With the person you like, I always feel that time flies quickly, and when Song Chunli was about to leave, Sun Weixi, who has always been reserved, took her hand and said, ".Would you like to be my girlfriend?

She gave each other a hug and expressed her best thoughts with actions.

In this way, the two confirmed their relationship.

For a long time afterward, they could only communicate by letter, but the emotion was more intense.

After a year of dating, Song Chunli brought Sun Weixi home, knowing that her boyfriend was not good at communicating, she planned to be a peacemaker in front of her parents.

didn't think about it, but her boyfriend changed his normality, not only talking the truth, but even rushing to cook.

Seeing this scene, she quietly crawled into her boyfriend's ear and said: ".How much do you want to marry me? After speaking, there was a smile on his lips.

Sun Weixi's sincere Song family parents can feel it and are very satisfied with him as a son-in-law.

In the same year, the two became husband and wife.

In the eyes of outsiders, they are a natural pair, and they have become the envy of each other's colleagues.

But they didn't expect that soon after they got married, the two encountered difficulties.

Since the two work places are not together, they still can't see each other often after marriage.

In this regard, Sun Weixi first proposed to apply to the school for a transfer and go to work in his wife's city.

But Song Chunli knew how much her husband loved her school and students, and she was moved, but she still chose to leave the dance company by herself.

After leaving her job, she worked as a housewife for a while, which may be a last resort for her, but it is a happy thing for her to be able to cook a hot meal for her husband.

During this break, Song Chunli has been thinking about her future development path.

After thinking about it, she decided to develop in the film and television industry like her classmate Tang Guoqiang and others.

But she had never been in contact with filming before this, and she didn't understand the filming process, and thought that she could go home after the day, just like rehearsing a play.

However, the filming time of a drama is short for a few months, or a year or two for a long time, and her time at home is still getting less and less.

Seeing that his wife often couldn't extricate herself for a long time because she was too deep in the play, Sun Weixi persuaded her".If it doesn't work, I won't shoot it."

Song Chunli is a person who has a beginning and an end, and she decided to do it herself, wouldn't it be very cowardly to give up if she didn't make some achievements.

No matter how hard she looks, she has to persevere.

In 1979, Song Chunli participated in the film and television drama "The Heart of Suffering".

Although she is only a supporting role, her outstanding performance made the leaders of Bayi Factory pay attention to her and think that she is a malleable talent.

The following year, she became an actor in Bayi Factory and starred in the film "The Romance of Blacksmith Zhang" and other dramas.

At this time, after in-depth contact with film and television dramas, she not only fell in love with movies, but also respected everyone involved in filming.

She is hardworking and conscientious in filming, and her acting skills have improved rapidly, and she has been unanimously recognized by her predecessors and the audience.

Soon, Song Chunli ushered in the first heroine.

All the luck in life is a surprise after hard work.

That night, the two went to the restaurant to celebrate and told their parents the good news.

In addition to being happy, parents still can't leave their children in three sentences.

In the eyes of the older generation, it is necessary to have children as soon as possible, if you miss the time, you will not be able to want it in the future.

Although Sun Weixi also wants to have children, his wife is now on the rise in her career, and he is afraid that the pregnancy in October will affect the other party's career, so he has not mentioned it.

thisSong Chunli was 28 years old at the time, and in the era when medical treatment was not yet developed, her life was even in danger in the later years.

didn't listen to the old man's words and suffered a loss in front of him, Song Chunli felt that what her parents said was very reasonable, and promised them to prepare for pregnancy and have a baby immediately after filming this drama.

However, it was too late.

The filming time of the drama "The Spy" was in winter, and there was a scene in which Song Chunli was running in the snow, but because the ground was too slippery, she fell and suddenly had a lot of stomach pain.

Under the doctor's examination, she learned that she was two months pregnant.

When she heard that she was going to be a mother, she was excited, but when she thought about it, what should she do with the scene she is filming?

If you want to have a child, it means giving up the opportunity to be the heroine, even if you insist on acting, the physical changes before and after will not take the play at all.

But this is her first child, and she is eager to become a mother.

Unable to make up her mind, she told her husband about it.

After knowing that his wife hesitated, Sun Weixi also looked embarrassed, in his eyes, his wife has always been a very decisive and assertive person, presumably she must be suffering in her heart at this time.

At this time, no one is more important than his wife in his heart, so in order not to let his wife be entangled anymore, he took the initiative to say: "Choose a career".

Hearing this, Song Chunli subconsciously breathed a sigh of relief, she was expecting her husband to say that she would have children, but she was unwilling to give up her career.

However, because the shooting scene was in the countryside, Sun Weixi proposed that he must undergo surgery in a hospital in Beijing for the sake of his wife's health.

Although she was already mentally prepared, when she learned that the child did not, Song Chunli still cried.

Looking at his wife's grief and affection, Sun Weixi's heart was as painful as being stabbed by a knife, and he was comforted".We're going to have kids."

At this time, Song Chunli also firmly believed in her heart that there would be children in the future.

In order to delay the filming progress, Song Chunli had no time to recover at all, and hurried to the set after only a few days of rest.

The icy and snowy environment and high and light work often caused her to have some minor problems in her body, and even suffered from headaches.

After the finale, Song Chunli did not take any work, and she was at home to prepare for pregnancy.

But after a few months, there was no sign of pregnancy, which couldn't help but panic her.

In the face of her anxiety, her husband will always relieve the atmosphere: "There has to be a process".

If you can't get pregnant for a while, it's acceptable, but she hasn't been pregnant for a year, which makes Song Chunli very annoyed.

I couldn't help it, so she ran to the hospital alone for a check-up.

The results showed that the chances of pregnancy were relatively small.

No matter how she asked the doctor about the method, the other party shook his head and expressed helplessness.

On the way home, she was like a walking corpse, waiting for the traffic light, she could no longer suppress the sadness in her heart, and she muffled her pain.

Husband, I'm sorry for you

This night, the husband and wife had difficulty sleeping.

Song Chunli felt that it was all her own fault, for the sake of the so-called career and the so-called future, she harmed her children, harmed herself, and her husband could no longer be a father.

During that time, she washed her face with tears all day long, and she was never able to get out of her grief.

The husband naturally understands her feelings, but if she continues like this, the wife will fall ill sooner or later.

So, he deliberately found time to communicate with Song Chunli, he said: ".In my opinion, you are the best mother, and the film industry is your child, please cherish the child you have now."

This passage from her husband gave her a little comfort in her heart, she had lost consideration for one child and could not lose another.

Under the guidance of her husband, she gradually came out and returned to her normal life.

In 1992, Song Chunli won the Best Actress award and became a first-line actress.

Subsequently, she won the Best Supporting Actress award in pursuit of victory, and her career development became popular.

At this time, she was 41 years old.

As she grew older, she gradually reduced her work, and when she saw the neighbor's children or grandchildren, she always had regrets in her heart.

Due to the busyness of her parents, Song Chunli's nephew Song Chuyan can be said to have grown up in her family.

During the time when her nephew was fostered at home, she and her husband were very happy, taking care of everything from food, clothing, housing and transportation, just like their own children.

Once, she went to pick up her nephew from school and was recognized by the family as the other's mother.

The world of a child is very simple, and whoever is good to him, he likes.

Therefore, when he was picked up by his parents, he often clamored to go to his aunt's house.

It has always been Song Chunli's regret that she did not become a mother, and she has long regarded her nephew as her own son.

With getting along for a long time, Song Chuyan has long regarded his aunt as his mother.

Basically, Song Chuyan can be said to be Song Chunli's adopted son, and the couple gave him all their love.

Now, Song Chuyan has also become an excellent actor, the two have cooperated many times in the play, and Song Chunli is proud to have this son.

After her son grew up, Song Chunli adopted another daughter.

Before adopting, she called her friend Deng Jie and asked for some of the things that need to be paid attention to.

Deng Jie and Zhang Guoli have been married for many years without children of their own, so they adopted a child, she told Song Chunli: "Since I have a daughter, I feel that my life has a lot more color, and she brings me a lot of joy."

So, 61-year-old Song Chunli became her mother.

Although the youngest daughter is not biological, they also give her the best with everything they have.

And the child is also very competitive, not only has excellent academic performance, but also likes to sing, which makes Sun Weixi, a retired ** professor, very happy.

At any time, the house is always full of laughter.

2021 is the 40th anniversary of Song Chunli and Sun Weixi's marriage, and on the anniversary, there are not only gifts from her husband, but also cakes prepared by her daughter with her own pocket money to express her love for her parents.

Perhaps, this is the happiness of being a parent!

After more than 40 years in the industry, Song Chunli has achieved a clear conscience.

When she mentioned her lost child again, she looked excited, her eyes were full of tears, and she choked up several times.

But at the same time, she has a firmness, today's achievements, today's glory, is what she exchanged for her life.

In order to film, Song Chunli gave everything, although it caused lifelong regrets to the family, but also because of the role of the audience's love and respect.

May her life be smooth sailing for the rest of her life and have no regrets.