Words can bring pleasure as well as pain. Parents' praise can make children happy all day long, and long-term scolding by parents may also become a shadow for children for a lifetime.
As Jimmy said: a child would rather be stabbed by a cactus than hear the cynicism of an adult.
What children are most afraid of is not bad grades, but that parents can't see their own efforts.
When children grow up, the happiest and most worrying things are related to their parents.
In addition to beating and scolding children, doing these things also hurts children.
Quarrel in front of your childIn life, when husband and wife quarrel, they will inevitably speak unscrupulously, and even fists and kicks each other, and some parents will take out anger on their children.
Regardless of the reason, arguing in front of a child is a very hurtful act for a child.
Lei Lei's parents quarreled at two or three days due to emotional discord, and the family was already crowded in a small house, and the children couldn't study at all when they quarreled.
Lei Lei's mother will often scold her children, it is because of you that I have not divorced.
The child's heart is simple and fragile, and when he watches his parents quarrel, his heart is always full of fear and self-blame.
In the long run, they will always worry about their parents' quarrels, and their hearts will become more and more insecure, which is very detrimental to his future life development.
It is the responsibility of parents to create a warm family for their children, and there are many difficulties in life, but since you are a parent, you must try your best to give your children love and warmth.
Throw a tantrum casuallyThe child does not care if it is not a device, the child is disobedient, and the parents lose their temper with the child, which can indeed play a deterrent role. But often educating children in the form of tantrums often backfires.
When children face their parents' irritable temper for a long time, they will become timid, and they will suffer from gains and losses.
Parents and children face each other every night, and children hope to get affirmation and encouragement from their parents, rather than mercilessly ridiculing and comparing wildly.
Some parents like to lose their temper with their children at the dinner table, and talk about their children's studies during meals, and the family can't eat properly.
Some parents like to criticize their children in crowded places, hoping that their children will have a long memory, but it deeply hurts their children's self-esteem.
There are also parents who like to blame their children before going to bed, even if they don't sleep, they have to teach their children a lesson.
Parents love deeply and are responsible, but they are always tempered.
The most important thing in family education is the emotions of parents, parents are negative, it is difficult for children to be sunny, parents are irritable, and it is difficult for children to be confident.
Parents know how to speak well in order for children to be obedient, and parents can see a brand new child if they change their education methods appropriately.
Partiality towards childrenNetizen "Zongzi" said: My mother is very partial to my younger brother, although I have excellent grades, the director is obedient at home, and I do all kinds of housework, but the delicious and fun will always be my brother's.
My parents didn't seem to see my efforts, until I grew up and went to school in a province thousands of miles away from home, and my parents also said that I didn't need to send them if I was a big girl.
The younger brother filled in the university in the province, and his parents went to send him to school together.
I am just like Su Mingyu in "It's All Good" and Fang Bijin in "An Family", I suspect that I am not suicidal.
In life, there are still many parents who have a patriarchal concept, or favor one child over another.
Every child wants to be loved by their parents, but reality always hits them hard.
Parents ignore their demands, and their efforts can make children feel unworthy of love. They can only bear the trauma of their hearts and carry the weight forward.
Despite being tempered by reality to turn himself into a superman, the inner scar can never be repaired.
Every child is an angel who has fallen into the mortal world, and being a parent is responsible for each child without favoritism.
Take care of everything for your child
"You study, I will do the housework, and I have washed your clothes for you";Parents want their children to suffer less and arrange everything for their children, but they will invisibly "kidnap" their children's minds and deprive them of their independence.You can go to work directly in xx company after graduation, we have already arranged it";
You must study science, and it is not good to get a job when you study liberal arts, do you hear? ”
If the child is accustomed to the care of his parents and has never done housework, it will be difficult for him to take care of himself when he or she is boarding or going out into society.
When children become adults, they blame their parents, "If it wasn't for you, would I have been like this?" ”
Many parents are stunned, I was also for your good, I worked hard for you to study, how did you become like this.
As parents, they all hope that their children can become dragons and phoenixes.
But in the end, children often do not grow up to be what their parents expect, and do not become an excellent person, which is worth thinking about by parents.
Parents love their children, everyone knows, but if they "kidnap" their children in the name of love, they will raise children with low self-esteem or lack of gratitude.
Educating children is a long practice, parents should be more patient and use more snacks, for the sake of children, we work together.