It's not difficult to get someone you like to like, it's not difficult to get into a man's inner world and win his affection, just make good use of the Barnum effect.
What is the "Barnum Effect"? Put simply, people tend to empathize with vague and general descriptions, believing that what is described is actually speaking about themselves.
For example, you look a little cold, but as long as you get acquainted with you, you are a super enthusiastic person! ”
You're pretty strong on the outside, but I feel like you're super gentle and romantic on the inside. ”
You look so strong, but I know you're actually soft on the inside. ”
You don't like to be tied down, but you really want to be free and pursue your dreams. ”
Do these descriptions touch the depths of your heart?
Most people's first reaction when they see it is usually the following:
Oh my God, that's accurate, it's just talking about me. ”
It's me, yes. ”
This phenomenon is somewhat similar to horoscope analysis and blood group personality analysis, both because people have an innate psychological need to be understood and recognized.
To get to the bottom of a man's heart and to know what he really thinks, we can do it in the way described above. This vague and universal description will make him feel understood and recognized, and thus more attached to you.
Understand this truth, and you will have an advantage in the process of having an affair with the opposite sex.
First: create the illusion of a "soul mate".
You have to convince the other person that you understand him well.
The best entry point for finding a person is "I understand you, I understand you, I see your heart hidden under the skin".
For example, he shared a piece of content with obvious emotions on his Moments, which provided you with an opportunity to talk to him.
In conversations, you can set the mood according to his mood.
You can encourage him when he is frustrated when he is struggling.
You can praise him when he is happy that he has achieved something;
When he feels sad or depressed, you can understand him and empathize with him.
This method works well for both men and women, as the best place to start a conversation is to be able to empathize with the other person and meet emotional needs.
Second: strengthen communication and guide the other party to "rely on you".
How?
No matter what kind of personality or type of boy a girl faces, as long as she says this passage: "When I first met you, I thought you were a self-motivated and kind person; But you always think about others, but you often sacrifice yourself. ”
No matter how sensible the boy is, in any situation, it will resonate immediately.
He will most likely respond, "How do you know me?" I always thought that no one could understand me, so you can. ”
This is the Barnum Effect in action.
The above paragraph applies to about 90% of the people.
When communicating with boys, the mode of "praise - draw closer - guide him to share" is mainly adopted;
What is the goal?
Let the other person subconsciously think:
You are the only person who knows me best, and only when I talk to you will I pour out my heart, and no one else can replace you. "At this point, you're basically successful.
Third: focus on the energy of psychological suggestion.
What is psychological suggestion?
A person with low self-esteem is praised and encouraged by you every day; Over time, he will become confident.
In intimacy, praise means "to guide."
Praise the other person in whatever direction you want to become;
Praise is a positive psychological suggestion that awakens the other person's internal drive.
When you are ambiguous with the opposite sex, you have to make him feel:
Only by being with you will his value be recognized and magnified.
And all of this comes from the power of praise.