On March 3, at the premiere of "Chasing the Moon", veteran actor He Saifei affectionately expounded his profound understanding and perception of his acting career. This sentence may be just a conventional response for others, but for He Saifei himself, it embodies her sincere experience and unique insights in her 42 years of artistic life.
Since his debut, He Saifei has created a series of classic characters that are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people with his profound artistic skills and unique charm, which are deeply loved by the audience. She has not only won many awards in many authoritative film and television awards such as the Hundred Flowers Award, the Golden Rooster Award, and the Magnolia Award, but also won the title of national first-class actor early for her outstanding Yue Opera singing skills.
However, even with such a brilliant career, He Saifei's family life was not all smooth sailing. With her husband Yang Nan hand in hand through ten spring and autumn, they have always adhered to the concept of Dink, in the face of pressure from her mother-in-law and the society, He Saifei sticks to herself, no matter how her mother-in-law pleads, and even the tearful persuasion of relatives at home, she has never wavered.
The turning point occurred in 1998, when the 35-year-old He Saifei broke the original concept and gave birth to the crystallization of their love under the touch of a certain force. So, what kind of words are so magical that can make He Saifei make such a big decision? After 26 years of ups and downs, what is the living situation of He Saifei's family now?
Looking back on the past, the mother-in-law's desire for He Saifei and his wife to have a child as soon as possible has never stopped. Whenever she caught a glimpse of He Saifei's smooth abdomen, her mother-in-law would inevitably sigh again and again. In 1988, He Saifei and Yang Nan tied the knot, and the two made a beautiful vow to hold the hand of their son and spend their lives together. The mother-in-law was full of joy at the wedding scene and proudly showed everyone her beautiful daughter-in-law, recognized as the "first beauty" in the Yue Opera industry.
However, as time passed, the mother-in-law's initial praise and joy for her daughter-in-law gradually faded due to the firm Dink concept of He Saifei and his wife. Although He Saifei went all out to take over the film, all the income from her hard work was taken care of by her husband Yang Nan, and she was also considerate of the housework inside and outside, and she loved her mother-in-law even more, often giving gold and silver jewelry as a gift of filial piety, and accompanied her mother-in-law to go shopping whenever she had the opportunity, and the relationship between the two was as close as sisters.
However, the mother-in-law is still most concerned about He Saifei's failure to have children. She pleaded with Yang Nan many times to persuade He Saifei, hoping to hold her grandson as soon as possible.
Knowing He Saifei's resolute attitude, the mother-in-law tried to exert indirect influence through her son, but Yang Nan politely rejected his mother's proposal on the grounds of He Saifei's busy work and the Dink concept agreed before marriage. Although her mother-in-law offered to help take care of her grandchildren so as not to affect the work of He Saifei and his wife, Yang Nan did not accept it immediately, and only perfunctory with "another look".
The mother-in-law had no choice but to find He Saifei in person to communicate, but she did not expect that this conversation would trigger a major change in the couple's relationship. In 1994, He Saifei and Yang Nan's marriage had entered its sixth year, and with the understanding and support of her husband, He Saifei was able to devote herself to her acting career and constantly temper her acting skills.
In this year, He Saifei was fortunate to cooperate with the well-known director Chen Kaige to participate in the filming of the movie "Fengyue", and gave a wonderful performance in it. She accurately grasps the role and shapes the character image vividly and three-dimensionally. This film is not only an important milestone in He Saifei's acting career, but also further consolidates her status as the "No. 1 beauty" in the Yue Opera industry, and also wins her praise as a "powerful actor".
When she saw the overwhelming high praise of her acting skills on the Internet, He Saifei's inner excitement was beyond words, and she looked forward to sharing this glory with her husband.
In between the tense shooting, she hurried home and eagerly shared the joy with Yang Nan: "Have you seen everyone's praise for my acting skills on the Internet? The first thing He Saifei did when she stepped into the house with anticipation was to convey the highlight of her career to her husband, expecting that her family would celebrate her achievements together......
However, as soon as He Saifeifu stepped into the house, a strange oppressive atmosphere came to her face, which shocked her heart. When her mother-in-law saw her return, she asked straight to the point: "Saifei, now that you have a successful career, when do you plan to consider having children?" The mother-in-law knew in her heart that her son Yang Nan's position on this issue completely depended on He Saifei's attitude. However, how can the Dink agreement, which was originally written into the marriage contract, be changed lightly?
I have clearly said that I do not plan to have children, and Yang Nan also holds the same view. He Saifei's eyes turned to her husband, expecting him to stand up for her decision. However, Yang Nan chose to remain silent and avoided the answer to this question.
This sudden silence made He Saifei feel as if he had been betrayed: "At the beginning, you obviously chose to marry you because you agreed with Dink, but now you don't say what you mean?" Seeing this, the mother-in-law took the opportunity to press forward step by step, intending to force He Saifei to give in and agree to give birth. Facing the united front of his in-laws, He Saifei suddenly felt isolated and helpless, as if he was under the fence.
Recalling that at the beginning of their marriage, they were poor and white, and Yang Nan didn't even have the funds to buy a new house, so in desperation, they could only live under the same roof as their mother-in-law. On weekdays, the urging and pressure of her mother-in-law always lingers in her ears, but with the support of her husband as a strong backing, He Saifei has always insisted on adhering to the Dink concept, no matter how the outside world urges, she is calm. However, her husband's silence at the moment made He Saifei indignant and exploded emotionally.
After not receiving a timely response from her husband, He Saifei left the table angrily, declaring that he would not compromise on childbearing even in the face of divorce. "I won't give birth to a divorce! Leaving this sentence, she resolutely returned to the crew and devoted herself to her work, trying to forget the troubles at home. Unexpectedly, Yang Nan followed her to the crew, and the two had a fierce dispute in the lounge. He Saifei was in a fierce mood and even mentioned divorce many times.
Faced with He Saifei's almost resolute attitude, Yang Nan was in a hurry, and even knelt down to ask for forgiveness, which made He Saifei's heart quite shocked. After all, she was reluctant to let her beloved husband be so humble, so she stepped forward to help her up, and once again emphasized that she would stick to Dink's agreement, and Yang Nan also nodded in agreement.
However, four years later, one winter, a dramatic scene occurred. When attending a relative's full moon banquet, He Saifei felt the doubts and incomprehension of his relatives and friends about Dink's life. In that moment, she realized that there was a deep chasm between herself and mainstream values.
When she accidentally found her husband gently holding his newborn in the master room, that scene touched her deeply. Her husband's loving eyes for the child and the words "I respect her wishes, the child is far less important than Saifei", made her understand that Yang Nan did not dislike the child, but chose to give up for the sake of respect and accommodation.
That night, when He Saifei returned home, he mustered up the courage to ask her husband if he really wanted children. In the face of Yang Nan's care and respect as always, she frankly expressed her desire to become a mother. After going deeper**, they finally decided to break the original Dink convention and put the birth of a new life on the agenda.
In 1998, 35-year-old He Saifei gave birth to a son, although the outside world talked about her advanced age and childbirth, she saw that her husband and the whole family were immersed in the joy of welcoming a new life, and she firmly believed that all the efforts were worth it.
Today, the 61-year-old He Saifei is still active in the film and television industry, and on March 8, the movie "Chasing the Moon" starring her will be grandly released. At the premiere, Yang Nan attended with his 26-year-old son, who has grown up, and sent heartfelt congratulations to He Saifei. Looking back, He Saifei's life can be called a complete one, with a successful career and a harmonious family, which has won widespread praise from people.
In summary, from a staunch Dinkist to a mother who readily accepts a new life, He Saifei shows his innocent and straightforward side. Her dedication to love and family is the key to her happy life.