Wen l Zi Mojun.
In interpersonal interactions, contradictions and conflicts are like dust in the air, which is unavoidable. However, in conflicts, those who shout and lose their temper are often not the ultimate winners. True maturity and stability are reflected in whether we can remain calm in the face of contradictions and deal with them with a peaceful mind. In this issue, we will ** how to cultivate a mature mindset and resolve conflicts calmly. It is recommended that you like the collection and review it at any time.
First, the first step we need to learn is to accept different opinions.
This is not only a matter of tolerance of character, but also a manifestation of inner ability. In social interactions, everyone has their own opinions and positions, which is objective. Mature people will understand that the first step in critical thinking is to accept and allow different opinions to exist. In the face of a point of view different from our own, we should not immediately get angry and refute it, but should calm down and analyze objectively, and such a steady attitude can help us better deal with contradictions.
Second, try to understand and reassure the other person.
Mr. Lu Xun once said, "The joys and sorrows between people are not the same".。When we deal with conflicts, we should learn to put ourselves in the other side's shoes. For example, in the case of temporary parking on the side of the road, the parker may only need a few minutes of their time, and the passer-by feels that it is affecting their traffic. Here, understanding the other side's position and understanding each other's difficulties is the key to mitigating conflicts. A mature person will ignore the emotional impact of the other person, first figure out the truth of the matter, and then think about how to deal with it.
In this process, it is very necessary to adopt a compassionate attitude towards the other party. Because those who are angry are often unhappy in their hearts. If your mind is higher than the other person's, you will be able to control the situation and calm the other person's emotions. Specifically, you can make the other person feel understood by repeating what they are saying; Use the techniques of partial acknowledgment and possibility acknowledgment to affirm the other person's feelings, so that you can reassure the other person without losing your position.
Third, it is to express one's own views.
The purpose of communication is to solve problems, not to argue. If the other party's opinion is reasonable, we can directly agree; If there is a disagreement, a compromise solution should be sought. The world is not black and white, there are many gray areas, and finding a third solution by taking a step back on both sides is a sign of maturity in dealing with contradictions. Of course, if the other party is completely unreasonable, then seeking the intervention of a third party, such as the mediation of an authority or legal means, is also an option.
In general, in order to remain calm and calm in the midst of contradictions, we need to do the above three steps.
First, dissenting opinions are allowed to exist without immediate rebuttal; Second, try to understand and soothe the other person's emotions and treat the other person with a compassionate attitude; Finally, express your opinion and seek a compromise solution.
Only by doing these three steps can we maintain maturity and stability in the midst of contradictions and effectively resolve conflicts.
I hope the content of this issue can be helpful to you, let us learn together, make progress together, and become a more mature and stable person. In the days to come, may we remain calm in the face of contradictions and conflicts, and solve them with wisdom and open-mindedness. If you have any thoughts or questions, please leave a message in the comment area.
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