In our time, children face a major challenge – learning how to accept the fact that their parents may not really love them. It's not that our parents don't care about us, but the love they express is often different from what we understand. The love they give us is a love based on their own experiences and values, a love that they believe will ensure the stability of our lives and a promising future. However, this kind of love often lacks emotional depth and understanding because they are unable to give what they never had.
In my opinion, true love is inclusion and acceptance. It means understanding and accepting the other person's shortcomings and perceptions, even if they are different from your own. However, for many previous generations, this kind of inclusion and acceptance was difficult to achieve. They often fail to accept certain traits in their children because they are inconsistent with their own values. As a result, they believe that children need to be "well educated" and that they need to be changed to meet their expectations. This concept not only restricts the child's free development, but also makes the child feel deeply lonely and helpless in the process of growing up.
In addition, some mothers are even open in their malice towards their daughters. They openly criticize their daughters' appearance and behavior on social media, which discourages these young girls in their quest for self-identity. These girls needed the support and approval of their mothers, but they were treated the other way around. It hurts me a lot and reinforces my conviction that we need to change this.
I want to tell you to stop putting all your emotional sustenance on your parents. When they hurt you with words and tell you that you are useless or ugly, don't be gullible. Remember, you are unique, you have incomparable value and beauty, and you deserve to be respected and loved.
If your parents can't give you that, then please be your own supporter. Believe in your own strength and be brave enough to pursue your dreams and happiness. You have the ability to create your own life and realize your own value.
So, no matter what difficulties and challenges you encounter, please keep your faith and move forward. You are worthy of love, you are worthy of respect, and you are worthy of being cherished. Let's work together to become a better version of ourselves!