You buy a car and find out that you have a car, and that's it; When you buy a house, it's not uncommon to find that everyone has a house; You become the boss and find that the employees are better than the boss.
We are accustomed to understanding happiness as 'having', having a car, a house, money, and power.
In fact, true happiness should be 'nothing', worry-free, worry-free, disease-free, and disaster-free.
Yes, most of it is for others to see, and no, it is really your own.
We often feel this way:
When I didn't live in a villa, I felt that the villa was a fairy;
When you are so poor that you jingle down, you think that money is everything;
When I was thousands of miles away from home, I realized that reunion was the most precious;
Lying in a hospital bed, you can understand that health is better than **.
Lao Li in the village said that having money in his pocket is happiness;
When you're sick, health is the most important thing.
When you're struggling to make ends meet, money is the most important thing.
When you're sad and sad, happiness is the most important thing.
What's the most important, you say?
Actually, I think that the most important thing is to live. The second is to live in health, happiness, and comfort.
And if you want to live like this, you can't do without health, money, career, and love. If you manage these four aspects well, you can live a good life.
Have you ever wondered how old you can live? In your old age, do you travel everywhere every day, eat and drink, be surrounded by children and grandchildren, relatives and friends, or do you have all kinds of physical problems, all kinds of forbiddenness, life is depressed, and you are lonely?
Whether you age healthy or sick depends on what you do with your body.
Eating well, sleeping well, exercising moderately, and exercising reasonably every day can make our bodies better.
Whatever the reason, you must always remember that health is the capital of the revolution, and without health, everything is gone.
Shi Tiesheng wrote this passage:
When I was able-bodied, I often complained about the bad environment around me, and when I was paralyzed, I missed the days when I could walk and run. A few years later, I developed bedsores and remembered the first two years of sitting comfortably in a wheelchair; Later, I got uremia and missed the bedsores I had at the beginning; After another few years, I had to go on dialysis, I had very little time to be awake, and I missed the time when I was uremia. Alexandre Dumas said the same thing, saying that life is not about happiness or misfortune, but only about the comparison of two different circumstances.
Always remember to live in the moment.
My friend has been in Meituan 996 for four years, and every day he sleeps in the middle of the night, loses a lot of hair, and is sick.
I've been a product manager for two years, and I've been haunted by countless things every day, always three or four things at the same time. After I have accomplished countless things, I even feel that the meaning of life has not increased.
The meaning of life that we have been instilled in since childhood is one sentence: to be a useful person to society.
If it is useful, life is meaningful. If it's useless, there's no point. It's a forcibly defined meaning, and I'm skeptical of that value right now.
My friends and I worked hard to satisfy our values of being a "useful person", but this fell into a paradox:
In addition to birth, old age, sickness and death, other things are optional, such as endless work, the more you do, the longer you work, the more you feel that the value of "useful" itself is "useless", and the meaning of life becomes more and more nihilistic.
The outlook on life education we receive from childhood is deeply bound to society, but it is seriously out of touch with the full development of the individual. I became a brick and a brick for the development of society, and society did not give me the corresponding meaning to support me.
This is the reason why more and more people are unable to find the meaning of life, and how difficult it is to find meaning in an industrial society, where everyone is just a part of the development of society.
In the primitive and agrarian societies of the past, we wanted to fill our stomachs and have no time to take care of the meaning of life. Now, we are facing a new era, where material abundance has just begun, and we are facing serious inequality in distribution.
In this way, those who have the right to speak tell us that doing a good job as a part of a society is the meaning of life, and the real purpose is to let those with vested interests reap the benefits.
The true meaning of life is a question that even the great philosophers find difficult to answer, and my advice is:
If you can't find a huge meaning in life, then let yourself live happily, at least let yourself have the idea of wanting to live, it's good to be able to read and exercise, if you can't do it, play games and watch dramas, it's okay, have a happy life, when you're old, it's much better than a hard life and can't find meaning.
When you put down tasks such as buying a house, getting married, and having children, you will find that life is actually very simple.
It turned out that the phone was fine.
It turned out that it was okay to sleep until noon.
It turns out that it's okay if you're lazy and don't want to go to work.
It turns out that it's okay not to laugh at people you hate.
It turns out that it's okay to lie flat.
It turns out that except for my parents, I only love myself, and it's okay.
It turned out to be ......Life is completely your own.
But when you take having a car and a house for granted and pursue it, you are self-enslavement.
So now, although my life has passed in the course of time, I have never been so full of power as I am now, like a steel beast that has been silent for a long time, waiting for the moment when it will work again, the gears are already turning, everything is in time.
I don't dare to say what great things I can achieve in this life, my character determines the height I can achieve in this life, but I want to live my life the way I like, and that's enough.
Recently, I have become more and more aware of such a passage:
If one day, you stop looking for love, just love; You no longer aspire to succeed, just do it; You no longer pursue empty growth, but you begin to cultivate your temperament; Everything in your life really begins. ”
And. When you understand that you only live once, your life is yours. ”
There is a sentence in "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty".
The reason why I wrote Xu Xiake is to tell you: The so-called hegemony of thousands of years, eternal and eternal, compared with one thing, is actually nothing.
It's about living your life the way you love.
Throughout the Ming Dynasty, whether it was Zhu Yuanzhang, Zhu Di, Zhu Youzhen, or Zhang Juzheng, Wang Mingyang, etc., these people were coerced by the times to move forward, they may be politically, or ideologically, occupy the peak, and do everything, but they are really happy in a long life?
At least, Xu Xiake is happy.
Of course, maybe everyone has their own fun, maybe Zhu Yuanzhang, Zhu Di, Zhang Juzheng's fun lies in achieving great things, and Xu Xiake's fun lies in placing his affection on the landscape.
There is no standard answer to our life, and living it the way we like is success.
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