It's not complicated to get a man, just pinch the three weaknesses of men!
In the relationship between the sexes, understanding men is not a simple matter, they are hidden under a hard shell and can sometimes seem difficult to fathom.
However, every man has his own weaknesses, and as long as you pinch on these key points, you can understand and approach them more deeply.
Respect rather than try to change
Men crave respect in intimate relationships, and when they feel respected and accepted, they feel more secure and relaxed.
Men put a lot of time and effort into their work, and they associate their success and value with their career achievements. Therefore, when we respect their work, we also respect their efforts, dedication and success.
In the TV series "He Came from the Fire" that just ended, Nan Chu and Lin Luxiao, one is a female star and the other is a firefighter, and their lives are difficult to synchronize.
The identity of Lin Luxiao as a firefighter is destined to bear heavier responsibilities on his shoulders, and many times he has no time to take care of his personal feelings, and the sacrifices of his colleagues around him also make him understand more clearly that becoming a firefighter is to be ready to sacrifice at any time.
It is precisely because of this that even if he has a good impression of Nan Chu, he does not dare to show his heart, it is Nan Chu's firm rush again and again that makes Lin Luxiao open his heart.
In the face of the danger of Lin Luxiao's profession, even if she cared about her boyfriend's safety, she never thought of letting her boyfriend change jobs, because she knew that firefighters were her boyfriend's ideals, and she respected and respected them.
She turned her worries into a sentence of safe return, there was really no chance to meet, Nan Chu rented a room opposite the fire station, so that Lin Luxiao could see someone turning on the lights for him no matter how late he was on the mission.
And Nan Chu's respect and intentions have not been disappointed, when her career encounters difficulties, Lin Luxiao can also be patient and encouraging, he said:"My life is for the country, and my heart is yours. ”
When two people who are not related to each other work together, appreciate and value each other's uniqueness, and enjoy the joy of being brewed by differences.
This kind of relationship is the most charming and interesting blend in the world.
Caring rather than indifferent relatively
The human heart is an independent city, but the inner world still needs temperature to illuminate every dark corner.
Stereotypes often tell us that men should be strong and responsible, they are the pillars of the family, the support of society, and they should shoulder the burden of life and have a chest of steel.
However, men are also made of flesh and blood, they also have emotional needs, and there will be times when they are vulnerable, and under their solid shell, there is also a heart that longs for love and needs to be soothed.
Many times, we expect them to be resilient and unyielding, and we ask them to know how to protect others, but we ignore that they can also be hurt.
There's no one in this world who doesn't need a bright comfort, and neither do men.
They need someone to understand their grief, share their joy, listen to their heart, and accompany them through every bump in life.
They need someone to hold their hand and whisper softly to them in their lives, "I know, I understand, I am." ”
Men should be allowed to shed tears, allowed to show vulnerability, not always invulnerable when facing the world, and not always have to face the storms of life with a tenacious face, because they also have the softness of their hearts, as well as fear and confusion.
Behind their burdens, if women can find their tiredness, their helplessness, their loneliness, and use women's unique tenderness and kindness to hold up a warm sky for them, then it is easy for them to open their hearts to you.
That care can be a simple smile, a loving hug, or a firm look silently behind them.
Encourage rather than belittle
Psychologist John Gottman said:"Contempt in any form can poison the relationship because it expresses human disgust. ”
The most taboo thing in the relationship is to be each other's "bad critics".
It is said that men are the pillars of a family, but not everyone can achieve glamorous success and give their families a rich life, sometimes they have worked hard, but they can only make ends meet.
Sometimes, their careers will also encounter turmoil, they support silently under pressure, without complaining, at this time, what they need more is warm encouragement, rather than merciless belittling.
Debasement will only hurt their self-esteem and make them even more unable to extricate themselves under pressure.
However, encouragement can ignite the hope in their hearts, so that they can still maintain their tenacity and faith in the face of difficult adversity and continue to move forward.
Some people say that men are responsible and responsible.
Yes, they stand on the cusp of the storm and bear the ups and downs, and it is their responsibility that makes them go on firmly.
But sometimes we forget that they are also flesh and blood, they are also fragile shells, they are also emotional creatures, and deep down they are the same desire for understanding and encouragement.
What they need is encouragement rather than belittlement, and what they need is affirmation rather than rebuke.
So, as he struggles to support, let's use warm words to say to the man next to him:"You've done a great job, keep it up! ”
You will find that this little encouragement will illuminate their world like sunshine and give them more strength to fight in the torrent of life.
Write at the end:
Every man has his own beauty and majesty, his own intriguing and ineffable, to conquer them, by no means by the cold wind, but the warm spring breeze.
Understanding and meeting their unique needs is what makes your relationship last and deeper.