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KidsStubborn and untamed, the essence is a stubborn personality, he has an idea in his heart, and sometimes he goes against the will of his parents.
When a child exhibits stubborn, rebellious behavior, parentsThe use of authority should be avoidedInstead of coming up with a little "way" to teach the child.
First, the cause.
Influenced by the personality and emotions of parents, the influence of the environment on people is great.
Sometimes, the reason why children have a strong personality is alsoIt has to do with parents
Most of these parents are also stubborn, and they like to do things according to their own ideas, and their children's personalities will change more or less after being influenced by their parents.
In our "Happy Family 5-Day Training Camp" course, we talked about the methods of emotional management.
The famous British psychologist Alver has a sentence that goes straight to the tip of the hearts of all parents:Little by little, the influence of parents on children will seep into the child's blood and be embedded in the child's soul.
2. Respect children and communicate equally.
Educating children is also a science, you have to take your time, you can't be impatient.
When communicating with children,Lay down your stature and adopt equality and respectattitude, often able to achieve better results.
When your child insists on jumping on the couch at someone else's house and refuses to stop, parents can try to offer their child another option, such as inviting him to play in the neighborhood playground or allowing him to jump on the couch later.
Not only does this avoid yelling at your child in public, but it also makes your child feel cared for and respected by their parents, making them more receptive to advice.
When negotiating with their children, parents should try to avoid using a commanding tone, instead:to understand and supportOn the basis of this, we will work together to find the best solution to the problem.
This type of communication not only helps to establish a good parent-child relationship, but also cultivates children's independent thinking skills and cooperative spirit.
3. Let children have ideas and ideas.
Cole's family all draw for a living, and Cole also hopes that he can make painting his lifelong career like his family.
But Cole was not assertive, and Cole finished drawing a picture.
Dad looked at it, pouted and said, "Oh, it's so stiff." Cole revised it according to his father's advice.In this way, Cole's time was spent revising paintings, and he eventually failed to become a painter.After reading it, my mother said, "My dear, no one likes to look at things that are erratic. Cole took his mother's advice again.
But the brother said, "God, what is this?" Is it a piece of wood? Cole hurriedly changed it according to his brother's advice, but his sister said, "Oh my God, this is a piece of paper stained with dye." ”
He wanted to please everyone, but he didn't want to be himself, and he lost his opinion.
As the child grows up, he will come into contact with many strangers and unfamiliar things, which are all tests for him.
When children encounter new things, they will have their own ideas and do not want their parents to intervene, so they will "do it" with their parents.
Parents should not demand their children with their own behavior and values, let alone blindly deny their children's practices, and do not deny them because they feel that their children's practices are naïve and immature.
A person without an opinion is like a bird without wings, unable to fly freely.
4. Be friends with your child.
(1) Know yourself and your opponent
It's not easy to be good friends with your own children.
We have to understand the psychology of children of different ages, and carefully observe and listen to what children say and do now.
Do the so-called know yourself and know your opponent,Cater to your child's habitsEngage with them.
It should be noted that the voice of the conversation with them should be kept soft.
Too much noise intimidates them, which hinders communication with them.
(2) Become an idol in the hearts of children
When your abilities become omnipotent in the eyes of your children, you become an idol in the eyes of your children.
You need to be able to answer any questions your children ask. Whether the answer is correct or not, it must make sense to them.
Able to do things that children can't
Once your friend has become an idol in their minds, they will gladly accept whatever you say. I don't judge whether it's right or wrong.
The reason why children can listen to their teachers is because in their eyes,A teacher is an all-powerful person, an idol for them.
So as long as the teacher says it, they will think it is right.
5. Write at the end.
Parents and children don't get along overnight.
It does not mean that being with the child all day long can cultivate a harmonious parent-child relationship, nor is it that it takes a huge amount of mental and financial resources to train the child to become a graduate of a prestigious university, and the child will be grateful and grateful for the hard work of his parents.Educating children is indeed a long and arduous process.
This process requires parents to take on the responsibilities of parenthood and to grasp the boundaries of their relationship with their children.
Parents need to constantly learn and grow to adapt to their children's changing needs.
Have you ever struggled with your child's stubbornness, stubbornness, or rebellion?Every penny you put in will be rewarded handsomely.Do you want to build a more harmonious and intimate relationship with your child?
Are you bothered by not being able to control your emotions?
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