It is said that first love is the most memorable love, and this is no exception for me, because my breakup with my first love was forced.
When I enlisted in the army and left, my parents ran directly to someone's house to ask to cut off contact with me after learning that I was in love, and then my first love got married and had children, and I hated my parents very much.
Fifty years later, my first love and I met again at a class reunion, and I was thrilled to learn that her wife had passed away, and I began to pursue her fiercely, and I started a new life, which can be said to be truly my own.
I was born in the city, my parents were factory workers, and the living conditions of my family were not bad, so I never felt hungry when I was a child.
My parents were very fond of me, and the only thing they were strict with me was studying, and they instilled in me the idea that I must be admitted to university since I was a child.
Because at that time, after graduating from university, I was assigned a job, and I was basically a cadre, and my parents didn't want me to become a worker like them, even though the treatment and salary of workers at that time were very good, they still felt that the public institution would be better.
That's eating the national meal, and it's a very long face to say it.
In 1966, the college entrance examination was cancelled, and my dream of going to college was completely shattered, and my parents felt very sorry for this, but they still provided me with the help of finishing high school.
When I graduated from high school in 1974, my parents were worried about my job, and they didn't want me to be trapped in the world at a young age, so when the conscription team came, my parents decided to let me sign up.
At that time, the city soldiers were in charge of distribution, and my learning ability was not bad, my parents meant that they wanted me to be admitted to a military school, and no matter how bad it was, I could still be a cadre.
In this way, under the expectations of my parents, I wore a big red flower, got on a stuffy tanker, and went to a new life.
After a day and a night, we finally reached our destination, and then we were transported to the recruit company by the Open Hood Liberation Banner, and my military career began.
After I joined the army, I was bent on thinking about my parents' last entrustment to me, to do my best in everything in the army, to demand myself with the highest standards, just to achieve the best results.
At that time, the city soldiers who came with me said that I was stupid, "Why are you working so hard, anyway, we will be assigned work in the back, so it is better to sit down and rest for a while." ”
I smiled and didn't speak, I tried not only because I wanted to improve, but also because I wanted to make my own quality excellent and worthy of the military uniform on my body.
At that time, among the soldiers of the same year, the idea of promoting cadres in rural areas was particularly strong, and when I became a soldier, the rural soldiers were no longer allocated, so they wanted to take the road of promoting cadres to change their fate.
Because the willingness of the urban soldiers to be promoted is not strong, the competitiveness of the rural soldiers has dropped a lot, and as long as the rural soldiers who perform well and have graduated from high school with high school education in the future, almost all of them have been promoted.
After the end of my recruit company, I was faced with the next company, because I wrote a good hand, and because of the excellent results of the recruit company, the chief directly asked me to go over.
It just so happened that the clerk around the chief was going to change jobs, and I successfully sat in the position of clerk, and everyone who came over knew that the position of clerk was still easier to do a little bit than that, and I originally thought that the days would go on like this, but I didn't expect that one thing after my parents' intervention completely disrupted my life.
When I was on the paperwork, I had more free time than the recruit company, and I would write letters to my girlfriend from time to time.
We fell in love in high school, and we knew at the time that early love was not good and would affect our studies, but falling in love not only did not affect our studies, but made us work harder, because we agreed to go to the same university.
Who would have thought that fate would play tricks on people, the college entrance examination was canceled, I enlisted in the army, she became a substitute teacher, and the substitute teacher in that era was sixteen yuan a month, and the salary was okay.
She has been waiting for me at home since I became a soldier, and she has been happy for me since I became a clerk, and my parents know about my girlfriend's existence, but they don't seem to like her very much, because her background is not very good.
My girlfriend was born in the countryside and had two younger brothers at home, and she also came to the station to see me off when I enlisted in the army, and I introduced her to my parents, who were obviously not very happy when they saw her dress.
Later, I wrote to me many times to ask about her situation, and asked me to break up as soon as possible, everything is mainly based on work, I know that my parents are like this because they think that once I am promoted, the identity gap between me and my girlfriend is even greater.
My parents' thinking is still a bit old-fashioned, I think it's good to be the right person, I feel that my girlfriend's family is a little unworthy of my family, and families in the city rarely marry a daughter from a rural family.
Every time I write to my parents, I will ask if I have broken up, and I always answer vaguely in the past, my girlfriend is my first love, how can I let go so easily, and people have been waiting for me for many years, at that time, I couldn't get over it in my conscience.
What I think is that after I am promoted, I will slowly do the ideological work of my parents, so that my parents can learn to accept, but what I never expected is that my parents are one step ahead of me.
Knowing my son Mo Ruo's mother, my parents knew that I was perfunctory to them, and without my knowledge, my parents inquired about the home of my first girlfriend, and took the gift to ask my first girlfriend to leave me, and what my mother said was a little unpleasant.
You see that now my son is about to be promoted, it is better for you to separate earlier, otherwise it will not be good to say later that you covet some things from my family, and you see that there is indeed a gap between the two of us, we don't know when the two of you talk, if you know, it will definitely directly kill the bud of your two falling in love in the cradle. ”
What my mother said in her house, my first girlfriend wrote to me word by word, and in the countryside, the man pointed at his nose and asked to break up, and their family was the first, and he couldn't raise his head in the village in the future, and he would be pointed at the backbone by the neighbors behind his back.
Not long after my mother came to the door, the letter from my first girlfriend came, it was a breakup letter, and then I knew what my parents had done, and my first girlfriend said, "My mother was angry, and asked us to break up quickly, I never thought that it was obviously something you and I wanted, and it was my fault in the end." ”
My girlfriend didn't make a single accusation in the letter, but I knew that she had been wronged, and I didn't know how to reply to her breakup letter, so I didn't reply to the letter, and we separated like this.
At the beginning of this fight, I also remembered that my parents could have handled this matter in a better way, why did they use such an extreme method.
And why are they so high-minded to accuse others, I began to work against my parents, they asked me to work hard, I didn't, and immediately sent a discharge report to the top.
My parents were very surprised when they saw me coming home from the army, thinking that I was crazy, and my mother was angry and cried because I didn't want such a good future for a girl.
I told my mother, "I have lived according to your plan and your requirements since I was a child, this time I want to live in my own way, when you come to the door and say that people are not worthy of me, the obedient son is gone, parents I want to tell you, there is no right door, as long as the two people are in love and love each other sincerely, there is no hurdle that cannot be passed, I also have the right to choose my own life, but as long as you respected my wishes at the beginning, it will not come to this point now." ”
Later, despite my parents' objections, I entered the factory as a worker, and I still couldn't let go of my first love.
After breaking up with me, my first love married a colleague at school, both of whom were teachers, and they had a relationship over time, and now they both have children.
I was too embarrassed to bother her anymore when I heard the news, so we completely cut off contact, and I didn't inquire about her anymore.
In 1983, when the crackdown began, the public security bureau was short of manpower, so it transferred people from various factories, and no one in my factory wanted to go, because at that time, the efficiency of the factories was good, and the wages and benefits of the workers were good, but on the contrary, the public institutions were relatively poor, so everyone found an excuse to refuse.
My parents were also strongly opposed to my past, but I didn't, I originally planned to go, as a veteran, as long as I need it, I will definitely go to work, plus my parents are opposed, I am even more determined to go, I didn't expect this decision to really make me do the right thing.
After arriving at the Public Security Bureau, my work attitude was recognized by my superiors, and I was not asked to go back after the crackdown, so I continued to work there until 1993, when the contract police officers could pass the examination to become a regular police officer, and I successfully changed my identity.
In the process of working as a contract policeman, I still did not escape the clutches of my parents, married a daughter-in-law who was the most perfect in their eyes, and soon had a child of my own, and my life was ordinary until I retired.
A few years after retirement, my daughter-in-law died of illness, and my son settled in other provinces, leaving me alone to enjoy my old age, and I was also happy.
I would get together with my old classmates and comrades-in-arms from time to time, come out to play, and my retirement time was okay, but what I never expected was that I met my first love again at a party.
Later, I learned that it was deliberately arranged by my old classmates, who knew about our business, and when they saw that we were both single, they wanted to make a match.
But we never took a stand, after the meeting, we got in touch and talked about our respective situations over the years, but there has been no further development, one is afraid that the children will not want to, and the other is that I am afraid that she still holds a grudge against my family because of the events of the year.
I didn't expect his daughter to call me ** just a while ago, uncle, I know about you and my mother, so you should boldly chase it, otherwise you two are like us as children, and it will be very uncomfortable to watch. ”
After talking to her daughter, I told my son what I thought, and who would have thought that my son would agree with it very much, and I immediately did not hesitate and took that step bravely.
During the Spring Festival, our relationship warmed up a lot, and after more than 40 years, the relationship was sewn up again, and the relationship was as beautiful as when I was 18 years old, and I often sighed that fate is really a wonderful thing.