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[When emotions become the "** burden" in our lives].
Have you ever noticed that on a quiet night, when the world is immersed in sleep, you toss and turn, and your heart is full of inexplicable anxiety?
When you are facing the pressure of work, family responsibilities, or complicated interpersonal relationships, is there a moment when you feel as if you are standing on the edge of a cliff?
Or maybe in the midst of a gathering of friends, you suddenly feel an indescribable loneliness and estrangement, but you don't know how to express it, let alone ask for help?
Let's start with the story of a visitor.
Ms. L (not her real name) came to my consultation room with her doubts and troubles.
After a late-night overtime, she drove home alone, it was pitch black outside the car window, but her heart seemed to be a mess.
Overtime, family chores, children's education issues, ......It's all snowballing.
Suddenly, a strong wave of emotion welled up in her heart, and she stopped the car and burst into tears.
At that moment, Ms. L felt helpless and lost like never before.
She began to wonder what all this effort was for.
Why did she feel so lonely and miserable?
Ms. L's story may also be a portrayal of many people around you and me.
Emotional disorders, which we may inadvertently encounter in our daily life, often hit our hearts hard at our most casual moments.
Many people are confused and powerless about this and don't know how to face it, let alone how to solve it.
In this article, we will explore the world of mood disorders together, trying to understand those seemingly untouchable inner troubles.
Starting from Ms. L's case, we will delve into the manifestations of ** mood disorders, find the root cause of these distress, and provide some possible solutions.
Let's go into the hearts that are burdened by emotions and try to untie the knots that have been tangled for a long time.
[The root of emotional disorders: **Secrets hidden deep in the heart].
In an in-depth conversation with Ms. L, we began to explore the deeper causes of her mood swings.
Mood disorders do not occur overnight, they are the result of a complex interweaving of past experiences, inner beliefs, and the real environment.
Let's break it down one by one.
First, going back to Ms. L's childhood, we find the seeds of mood disorders.
Growing up in a family that valued grades and social status, Ms. L was instilled with the belief of "being the best" from an early age.
Whenever she fails to live up to the high standards set by her parents, she feels a strong sense of loss and fear of not being accepted.
This early experience has deeply planted in her subconscious the belief that her own worth depends on the recognition and achievements of the outside world.
Over time, this inner belief translates into a constant inner pressure.
The repeated promotions at work did not bring the expected satisfaction, but made Ms. L feel more anxious and depressed.
She began to question whether she was really fit for this path and whether it was possible to find true happiness.
This sense of professional uncertainty exacerbated her mood swings.
In terms of family life, Ms. L strives to play the role of a good wife and mother and strives to maintain family harmony.
However, the inevitable contradictions and conflicts in life made her feel great frustration.
She often reflects in the dead of night on whether she really did her best.
This pursuit of perfection and the fear of failure has become another important cause of emotional disorders.
The pressure in the social circle should not be underestimated.
In her interactions with friends and colleagues, Ms. L often feels that she is not good enough and fears being excluded or misunderstood.
Whenever she tries to express her true feelings, she worries that it will damage her relationships.
This kind of internal and external situation made her feel more and more anxious and uncomfortable in social situations.
Ms. L's mood disorder is not untraceable.
It is the result of a combination of insecurities planted in childhood experiences, over-reliance on external recognition, uncertainty about career development, pressure on family roles, and self-doubt in social settings.
Every pressure, every uneasiness, was like a heavy stone that weighed on her heart, making it difficult for her to breathe and to be free to show her true self.
Through Ms. L's case, we see that the root cause of mood disorders is much more than superficial mood swings.
It is a psychological burden accumulated over the years, a deep-seated fear and insecurity, and a constant questioning of self-worth.
These deep-seated problems require us to carefully explore, patiently understand, and on this basis, find solutions.
[Misunderstanding: Three Common Wrong Ways to Cope with Emotional Disorders].
In the journey of exploring mood disorders, we often find ourselves or others unconsciously adopting methods that seem to cope with emotional distress but actually exacerbate the problem.
Ms. L's story reveals three common ways to cope with mistakes, as well as the risks and consequences they can bring.
1.Emotional repression: Escaping rather than confronting
In a number of consultation conversations, Ms. L revealedShe is used to "hiding" her emotions.
Whether it's a challenge at work or a conflict in her family life, she always chooses to remain silent and suppress her feelings, thinking that this will avoid problems.
However,Long-term emotional repression does not make the problem disappear, but it is like a volcano slowly accumulating in the heart, which may erupt at any time.
The risk of this practice is that it can lead to an exacerbation of mood disorders and even trigger physical ailments such as chronic fatigue, insomnia, etc.
2.Excessive self-blame: the harsh judge of the heart
Ms. L also has a clear tendency to blame herself first when anything goes wrong.
From failing to meet her parents' expectations, to every small mistake at work, to the confusion of her children's education, she always habitually blames herself for everything.
This excessive self-blame mentality has caused her to fall into a cycle of negative emotions that she cannot extricate herself from, and in the long run, it will not only damage her sense of self-worth, but also may lead to more serious psychological problems such as depression.
3.Reliance on unhealthy ways of relieving: Finding a temporary "cure".
In the face of the accumulation of emotional stress, Ms. L has tried some ways to "relieve" her emotions, such as shopping and overeating.
While these methods may seem to bring some psychological comfort in the short term, they do not address the underlying problem.
Conversely, this practice of relying on unhealthy ways of relieving may form dependency and eventually turn into new life disorders, such as financial stress, health problems, etc.
Through Ms. L's case, we can see that the wrong way of coping not only does not effectively solve the problem of emotional disorders, but can make the situation worse.
Emotional depression, excessive self-blame, and dependence on unhealthy ways of relieving are common misconceptions when dealing with emotional distress.
They act as a mirror of our blind spots and challenges in managing our emotions.
Being aware of these myths is the first step in our quest for healthier coping strategies.
Finding Yourself in Trouble: The Road to Emotional Liberation
In an in-depth conversation with Ms. L, we explored the underlying causes behind her mood disorder.
Through meticulous **,Ms. L began to realize that many of her coping styles were actually based on some deep-seated beliefs.
These beliefs, such as "I must be perfect in everything" and "I am only worth if I am recognized by others", have long shaped her self-perception and become a significant source of her emotional disorders.
During our session, I asked a question:
"If your current efforts and achievements are not to seek external recognition, but to meet the real needs of your heart, do you think it will make any difference? ”
This question seemed to open a window for Ms. L to start re-examining her inner depths.
Together, we worked out Ms. L's definition of success and tried to relate it to inner fulfillment and happiness.
I guided her to reminisce about the moments in the past when she was truly fulfilled and happy, and which were often not related to external recognition, but to the realization of personal worth, time spent with loved ones, or personal hobbies.
Further, we learned about the stress and anxiety that Ms. L felt when facing workplace challenges and family responsibilities.
Through reflection, Ms. L came to realize that part of the reason she was feeling so stressed was that she was trying to take on responsibilities beyond her ability and neglected her own physical and mental needs.
I asked her:"What signals does your body and emotions give you under such stress? Are these signals reminding you of the need to rebalance your life and your heart's needs? ”
Through such conversations, Ms. L began to re-evaluate her lifestyle and values.
She realized that in order to truly get out of her emotional blockage, she needed to start listening to her inner voice, identifying and expressing her needs, rather than constantly striving for external recognition and perfect performance.
In addition, we discussed Ms. L's experiences in relationships, especially the barriers she encountered in expressing her emotions and needs.
By analyzing these situations, Ms. L found that she used to suppress her emotions because she was worried that expressing her true self would lead to rejection or misunderstanding.
I led her to think:
"What do you think about expressing your true self in an intimate relationship, while risky, it can also be an opportunity to build a deeper connection and understanding? ”
After many conversations, Ms. L began to realize that by confronting her emotions rather than running away from them, and by courageously expressing her needs and emotions, she could gradually find inner peace and affirmation of self-worth.
This process is challenging, but it is also a necessary path to personal growth and emotional relief.
[Finding Inner Balance: How Can We Reconcile with Our Emotions?] 】
As we explore Ms. L's story together, we witness a journey to find inner balance and emotional reconciliation.
Emotional disorders are not only a cry of the heart, but also a window to reveal to us deep needs and unsolved mysteries.
In this process, we continue to discover that solving emotional disorders is not just about fighting and overcoming, but about understanding and accepting the depths of our hearts.
At the end of this journey of exploration,I would like to invite you to think about a few questions that may provide you with new perspectives and starting points for reflection:
How do you define your success and happiness?
Is this definition based on the true desires of the heart, or on the expectations and standards of the outside world?
What kind of coping do you typically take when facing emotional challenges?
Did these methods really help you solve the problem, or were they just a temporary escape?
Think back to a time when you sincerely expressed your emotions or needs that made you feel truly liberated or liberated?
What did that moment mean to you?
Hopefully, these thoughts will give you some inspiration, and perhaps deep down in your mind, you already have the answer.
I invite you to share your views and experiences in the comments section, and let's build a community of support and understanding together.
Each person's story is unique, but in these stories, we always find resonance and strength.
The journey of emotional disorders is a challenging but possible one.
On this path, we learn not only to face our emotions, but more importantly to understand and accept our inner world.
Just as Ms. L has gradually moved towards inner reconciliation and balance, everyone can also find their own way to reconcile with their inner self and move towards a healthier and more balanced life.
During your journey, remember that you are not alone.
No matter what stage of your journey you are in, there are people who are willing to listen, understand, and walk with you.
I hope you can find your own answers and peace in the process.
[Surprise Easter Egg: 6 Perspectives to Help You Improve Your Self-Awareness].
The following questions are like a mirror to help you look at yourself, understand your true heart, and be aware of your behavior and thinking patterns in relationships.
You ready? Let's get started!
1.How do you typically cope with your emotions when faced with life's challenges? Multiple choices.
a.Choose to suppress your emotions and avoid facing problems.
b.Seek temporary comfort by shopping, eating, drinking, etc.
c.Share your feelings and worries with those close to you.
d.Trying to solve a problem on your own, but often feeling overwhelmed.
e.Deal with emotions in healthy ways like exercising, journaling, etc.
2.How do you see the success and value of an individual? Multiple choices.
a.It mainly depends on professional achievement and social status.
b.The main criteria are personal happiness and satisfaction.
c.Believe that it is necessary to be recognized and appreciated by others.
d.Defined by family harmony and intimacy.
e.Focus on the realization of personal interests and inner growth.
3.How do you react to the stress and uncertainty of the workplace? Multiple choices.
a.Feeling constant anxiety and fear, fear of failure.
b.Work hard and hope to be recognized through your grades.
c.Try to find new interests and career paths.
d.Discuss with a colleague or mentor for advice and help.
e.Improve your coping skills by learning new skills.
4.What do you usually do when faced with contradictions and conflicts in your family life? Multiple choices.
a.Try to avoid conflict and keep the surface harmonious.
b.Be open and honest about your feelings and needs.
c.Seek outside help, such as family and friends or professional counseling.
d.I feel frustrated inside, but I often choose to endure.
e.Try to find a mutually acceptable solution.
5.What are your main feelings in social interactions? Multiple choices.
a.Feeling anxious about being excluded or not understood.
b.Sociable but also needs personal space.
c.Finding it difficult and challenging to build deep relationships.
d.Enjoy social activities and get energy from them.
e.I often feel lonely and find it difficult to find a sense of belonging.
6.In the face of negative emotions in your heart, what do you think is an effective way to deal with them? Multiple choices.
a.Find professional psychological counseling and**.
b.Share with someone you trust, seek support and understanding.
c.Devote yourself to work or study and divert your attention.
d.Adjust your mindset through meditation, yoga, etc.
e.Immersed in negative emotions for a long time, it is difficult to extricate yourself.
Vote. Congratulations, you've completed another journey of self-discovery.
I hope that the perspective of these questions can help you to be more aware and understand yourself, and be more calm and determined on the road of life.
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