Qian Zhongshu said that marriage is like a besieged city, people outside the city squeeze their heads to enter the city, and people in the city rack their brains to come up with it.
In this world, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Every family has some stumbles to a greater or lesser extent.
If the husband and wife have the same three views and can tolerate each other, they can live a peaceful and stable life. I really can't, so I can only go my separate ways.
And some couples have a much better relationship after they divorce. You can communicate calmly, even if you remarry, you can get together to chat and talk about the mountains. This kind of mentality is extremely enviable!
Recently, a man in Jiangsu revealed that his wife and ex-wife were drinking and chatting, and they were happy. But he became air, no one cared about him, and he laughed at himself crazily: "I'm so redundant!" ”
The man said that his wife called his ex-wife to his house for dinner. In order to entertain his ex-wife well, he prepared a table of meals, ordered a few takeouts, and bought a case of beer.
After the ex-wife arrived, she sat down next to the man's current position very freely. In fact, his ex-wife is very beautiful, with a heroic spirit, and she looks like a more sassy person.
And the current one seems to be very free-spirited, and there is no hostility towards his ex-wife at all, but he hits it off at first sight and talks about everything. Between the staggered discussions, the chat was very high.
The man's face was full of red light, looking at the joy of his predecessor and current one, and his heart was infinitely emotional. The two said they were going to the mall, and he wanted to say a few words. But unexpectedly, his ex-wife slapped his hand: "It's just you who have a lot to do!" Don't interject, I didn't see that we were chatting! ”
The man's wife stared straight at her ex-wife without any objections. Then he looked at his husband with a wicked smile and gave him a step down: "Come on!" Let's have a drink! ”
The man held up his beer, barely making a fuss. Then he became air again, and could only stare dryly, watching the two of them drink merrily, and he became a companion for chores.
It is reported that the man and his ex-wife broke up peacefully, because they have been friendly because they have taken care of their children. After he remarried, he didn't know what method he used, but he actually made the current one accept his predecessor and the relationship became very close.
A family gathers together from time to time to eat and chat, and the former and current have become good girlfriends, making fun of him at every turn, saying bad things about him, and each one is happier than the other.
Sometimes the two of them go shopping hand in hand, eating and drinking, and they are happy. The man became a small attendant and was only responsible for carrying things.
What's even more hateful is that the ex-wife and wife have to rest together, and the man can only sleep in the guest room. Manly and corrupt, a child, a current wife, he can't afford to offend either of them! It can only be offered together!
Later, it sparked a fierce controversy. Some people ridiculed the man as an emotional master, who seemed to have no status, but in fact, he not only took control of his ex-wife, but also his current wife.
Those who can get their ex-wife and current wife together at the same table and drink calmly are all cattle! ”
In fact, for many divorced people, the meeting between the ex and the current is like a rival in love, and it is almost incompatible. There are really a few people who live together in harmony like a man's two wives.
I have to say that the man is very emotionally intelligent, and these two women are extraordinary, they can tolerate things that others can't tolerate, but they have gained a sincere feeling.
A deep reading: Divorce is not a break, but a new beginning. If two people are not suitable to be husband and wife, you might as well let go of the knot and become friends again.
The marriage is gone, but the relationship is still there. There is no need to hold on to the original grievances and hatreds, and have a hateful mentality. Even for the sake of children, we must coexist peacefully and communicate with each other, which is the way to live in the world.
No one can leave anyone, and no one must hate anyone. After the divorce, two people meet and fall in love, which is not a relative but a relative, and it is also a different kind of happiness.
At the same time, this example also tells us to cherish our family more. The run-in after marriage is like pulling a big saw, you can make the family happier and more harmonious.
Life is short, it is not easy to meet, do it and cherish it!