That morning, in the kitchen of our house, my wife, Liu Qian, and I argued.
The reason is that every time I go back to my parents' house, she insists on riding a bicycle and does not let me drive.
As a man with an annual salary of 300,000, this makes me feel both embarrassed and puzzled.
Why can't we go by car? The bike was too slow and I had a fall last time! I grumbled, my voice full of displeasure.
Liu Qian insisted on her opinion: "In our small village, no one has ever seen any good cars, and driving back is too conspicuous." ”
There was firmness in her tone.
I felt angry and frustrated: "What does it matter? The money I make doesn't come from the wind.
Why can't we enjoy it? "My voice is getting louder and louder.
Liu Qian looked helpless: "You don't understand, what will the people in the village think of our ......."Before she could finish her sentence, I interrupted.
Do you think it's nice that every time I ride my bike back, I'm covered in mud? I asked, my face scornful.
Liu Qian was silent, she turned away, and seemed to be thinking about something.
And I stood there, full of doubts and dissatisfaction.
I don't understand why my wife always cares so much about the eyes of the people in the village, sacrificing our comfort and dignity.
After that argument, I sat in the living room and looked back on our marriage.
Since I married Liu Qian, I have often felt confused and frustrated.
Her hometown is a small, remote village with very poor conditions, and every time I go back, I always feel like I have gone back decades.
I still remember that time I rode my bike back.
The road was muddy, and I accidentally fell and was covered in mud.
I was very angry at the time and said to Liu Qian: "Look at the way I am now!" We have a car, so why do we have to suffer this sin? Liu Qian just comforted me at the time: "Don't be angry, everyone in the village is like this, it's not good that we are too conspicuous." ”
I feel unacceptable to this explanation: "Other people's wives want to show off, but you seem to be afraid that others will know that our family is in good condition." ”
Liu Qian looked a little helpless: "You don't understand the situation in the village, everyone knows that our family conditions are average, and suddenly showing it will only attract jealousy." ”
I felt powerless and full of contradictions.
As a man with an annual income of 300,000 yuan, I have a certain status and dignity outside, but in my wife's hometown, I feel like I have lost all my dignity.
The turning point in the story happened a few days ago.
That day, Liu Qian's second uncle suddenly came to our house with a chicken in his hand, looking very happy.
I thought he was here to visit the door, but I didn't expect him to come with the intention of borrowing money.
My son is getting married, and I want to borrow some money for a happy event. ”
The second uncle said a little embarrassedly, with anticipation in his voice.
I was reluctant to do this because I was always worried about whether I would borrow or not return.
But out of politeness, I still asked, "Second uncle, how much do you want to borrow?" The second uncle looked at me and said with some hesitation: "I want to borrow 80,000 yuan." ”
I was shocked, 80,000 is not a small amount for me.
I was about to say something, but Liu Qian spoke first: "Second uncle, the conditions of our family are actually not good, you see, we don't even have a car, and we go back by bicycle every time." ”
When the second uncle heard this, the expression on his face was a little embarrassed, as if he was reassessing our economic situation.
He was silent for a moment, then said, "Oh, I didn't know you were like this, so forget it." ”
After saying that, he left with the chicken with some embarrassment.
Looking at the back of the second uncle leaving, I was stunned.
I turned my head to look at Liu Qian, her expression was calm, but there was a deep thought in her eyes.
Why don't you tell him what we're really about? I asked.
Liu Qian looked at me and said in a calm tone: "Because I don't want the whole village to borrow money."
Although our conditions are good, they are not bottomless.
Riding a bicycle back is also to avoid unnecessary trouble. ”
I was silent for a moment, then sighed deeply.
It turns out that Liu Qian has always been thinking about our family and protecting our lives in her way.
My previous complaints and grievances seemed to become irrelevant at this moment.
That night, I sat on the couch in my living room, immersed in deep thought.
Liu Qian's words were like a beam of light, illuminating facts that I hadn't noticed before.
I began to understand that her past behavior was not vexatious, but out of protection for the family.
I walked up to Liu Qian and gently held her hand: "Wife, thank you."
I haven't been able to understand you before, and only today do I understand that everything you do is for our good. ”
Liu Qian looked up at me with a gentle glint in her eyes: "I know you may not be used to our lifestyle there.
But I really just want to protect our little family, and I don't want to cause us unnecessary trouble because of the show. ”
I nodded deeply, my heart filled with gratitude: "I finally understand now.
In the future, I will support you more and stop being angry about these little things. ”
Since then, I have never quarreled with Liu Qian about riding a bicycle back to my hometown.
On the contrary, I have learned to cherish our daily lives more and respect Liu Qian's choices and decisions.
I realized that sometimes the most important thing in life is not material luxury, but mutual understanding and support.
Our lives are simple, but they are full of love and warmth.
This experience taught me what family really means and how to be a better husband and a member of the family.