Have you ever been utterly disappointed in someone?What does it feel like?
There is an answer on the Internet, which is very profound: "The real disappointment is not deletion, not blocking, but silence and indifference." You no longer care about his dynamics, no longer reply to his messages, no longer moved by his joys and sorrows, no longer feel any emotions for his presence. ”
In life, we often encounter situations that disappoint us. For example, you have given a lot for a person, but you have not received his gratitude and reward;You trust a man and are hurt by his lies and betrayals;You are infinitely tolerant of a person, but you are tormented by his unreasonableness and difficulty. At these times, your heart will be consumed, your thoughts will be cut off, and your silence will become an ultimatum.
There is a ** book called "The Silence of the Wife", which tells a story of disappointment in marriage. The wife found out that her husband was cheating, but instead of choosing a divorce, she coped with life with silence and a mask. She doesn't talk to her husband anymore, she doesn't talk to her husband anymore, she doesn't share anything with her husband anymore. Her silence is a punishment for her husband and a protection for herself. She didn't really have the will to communicate and solve problems because she was already disappointed in her husband. She knows that the feelings between people are not for no reason, but after disappointment again and again.
What kind of process is it to give up a person?It is from liking to relief, from enthusiasm to coldness, from expectation to not looking back. When your heart is sad for a long time, your person will also change. You no longer confide, no longer seek comfort, no more enthusiasm and expectation. You just want to be alone and quiet, you don't want to be disturbed anymore, you don't want to be hurt anymore. Your eyes, your tone, your attitude, all reveal an air of indifference. You don't care anymore, who he is, where he is, what he does, what he says.
The love story of Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng is a classic example. They used to love each other, but eventually broke up. Zhang Ailing said: "Loving someone may only be a momentary thing, but leaving someone is a long-term accumulation of hurt and pain." She said her disappointment with Hu Lancheng began when he stopped writing to her. She said that her letting go of Hu Lancheng began when she stopped reading his letters. She said that her departure from Hu Lancheng began when she stopped responding to his letters. She said that her rejection of Hu Lancheng began when she no longer kept his letter. She said that her forgetfulness of Hu Lancheng began when she no longer thought about his letter.
Is the change of heart and person a matter of one day?No. But in the midst of hurt and betrayal again and again, the heart is cold, and it doesn't matter. A person's silence does not mean weakness, but real disappointment. He has nothing left to move your heart, and nothing to make your heart ache. You have nothing left to move him, and nothing to regret him. Between you, there is nothing to make each other nostalgic, and there is nothing to redeem each other.
In life, don't hurt a person who loves you, don't perfunctory a sincere heart, only with intentions will it last forever. May the rest of your life be stronger day by day, more sober day by day, cherished, and cherished. Since then, in the years, silently moving forward, silent and joyful.