Ask yourself, what is a good day?
A good day should be: nothing in the heart and no disease in the body.
Sanmao said: "Love can only last if it is implemented in the real little things such as dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping." ”Love is like this, and so is life. It seems that the lofty ideal is dismantled, it is a book, an ambition, a family, a story, etc.;Very great achievements will eventually be drowned in the long river of history, as small as a speck of dust.
Life is short for decades, don't be bound by external objects, learn to see through, see far.
Seeing the little things is a kind of peace.
Writer Chen Guifang wrote about such an incident: she and her husband went shopping, and stopped by a yellow rose for a while. The gentleman is a man who is good at observing words and feelings, and he bought a handful of yellow roses every other day.
However, when she looked at the yellow roses, she suddenly felt that she was not beautiful enough, and wondered if her husband really loved her, or was he using roses to make her happy.
In hindsight, she came to a conclusion: there was no need for much. To live alone, it is not necessary to get a lot and hear a lot.
In life, we are accustomed to using words such as "chicken feathers, trivial, chickens flying and dogs jumping". It is not difficult to find that what makes a person annoyed endlessly is not a big thing, but that it is not pleasing to the eye and unhappy, no matter from which angle, it will add to the blockage.
And those who live calmly, they are doing subtraction, as the so-called, the road to simplicity and simplicity is a blessing.
"Caigen Tan" has a saying: "The snail horn is more female and male, and the world is bigger?."”The snail is small, and its tentacles are even smaller, but if you want to make a big fuss about the snail horn, it is undoubtedly in vain.
Therefore, we have to get used to "trivializing", as if it is the joy of life, which appears at one moment and disappears in the next.
Let's say someone scolds you, you just smile at him and walk away. If someone chases you and scolds, you don't respond, keep silent, and leave the other party with nothing to do.
Life is not easy, and if you still have to keep all the trivial things in your heart, it will be very heavy. A grain of sand and a grain of sand will also become the Sahara Desert. Preferably, when the first grain of sand appears, throw it away.
Seeing through big things is an open-mindedness.
What's the big deal?I'm afraid I can't say it clearly.
As the saying goes: "In this life, except for life and death, everything else is a small matter." "On the other hand, big events are things about life and death, and things that can affect a lifetime. Or it may be a matter of the survival of a group.
Professor Yu Yelu once talked about such an incident: an old American woman, when she was seriously ill, did not be pessimistic, but wrote a lot of poems.
She wrote: "Don't have pity on me now, never have mercy on me, I will never work again, never again." ”Yes, from another point of view, when a person is in a hundred years, he has actually achieved fame in life, and he will never suffer again in the future. The troubles of work disappeared completely.
We are accustomed to talking about marriage as a "lifelong event." But there are always people who don't give a damn about it.
Wen Yiduo has always wanted to fall in love freely, but his parents didn't agree, and he set a family affair early.
On the day of the wedding, there was a lot of gongs and drums outside, but Wen Yiduo was still in the study. When the bride arrived at the door, he was pulled out and the ceremony was held.
After getting married, Wen Yiduo encouraged his wife Gao Xiaozhen to study, and the family sent Gao Xiaozhen to Wuchang Women's Vocational School.
What is marriage?Marriage is about achieving each other, going both ways. If you just see love, romance, then marriage becomes the grave of love, not the beginning of life.
Any major event has its direction, not a final word. Therefore, we must learn to see through and make the turning point of our lives beautiful.
Starting a family, birth, old age, sickness and death, lifelong learning, filial piety to elders, and having children are all major events in lifeDedicating to society and defending the country is the most important of the great things. Everything is destined not to be let go, but it is necessary to follow the trend and not become a burden in life.
It is a pattern to look far away.
There is a well-known poem: "Thousands of miles of books are only for the wall, so why not let him be three feet?."The Great Wall is still there, and Qin Shi Huang is not seen. ”The two neighbors made a fuss because of the construction of the house and the repair of the fence. Later, they each stepped back and set the wall back, thus forming Six Feet Alley.
Noisy sounds, many years have passed, and it can even be said that a dynasty has passed. We finally realized that there was no point in making noise.
Why do we get into the?It's not that there's any point in this matter, it's that I can't let go of it in one breath, and I have to win.
People, look into the distance, don't always look at the present.
For example, people living in the countryside in the seventies and eighties of the last century had disputes with the villagers over a small vegetable plot and a pile of loessNow, everyone has moved to live in the city, and no one cares about the vegetable fields and loess. In retrospect, the original dispute was ridiculous.
But everything is broken because of the "momentary anger", as long as you calm down for a few minutes and think about what will happen in the future, you won't care.
Even hatred will disappear over time. Some enemies, their juniors, have even become husband and wife, haven't they?
Someone said: "A leaf blinds the eyes and sees Mount Tai." ”What makes us smaller is not the eyes, but a leaf in front of us. When you find out about this fact, you should move the leaf away, and if the leaf is fixed, then you move your body and distance yourself from the leaf.
When the leaves are gone, the mountains appear.
Writer Liu Zhenyun said: "When I think of many bad things in the past, I felt that things were quite big and couldn't stand it, but now I think about it, it's all nonsense." ”Life is often unsatisfactory, it seems that small things account for the majority, big things account for the minority, and broken things come out coldly.
When you reach a certain age, you have to do subtraction, step by step, and become a person who has "nothing in your heart".
May you and I have a sea in our hearts and a flower in front of us.