A friend once said to me that you are not ......Hot. I was anxious on the spot and blurted out, "How can I care about this mess?" The friend stopped talking thoughtfully. Later I realized how he could have such thoughts, and if he thought I had such thoughts, it actually had a negative impact on me. I ventured to speculate that someone must have said something in front of everyone on a certain occasion, and he said this because some of my actions at that time probably upset him, so I told everyone what he was thinking, and everyone ate his way. I suddenly felt that the level of some people's complaints was really first-class, and they were able to say goodbye to others and pick themselves clean. I once read such a passage: "The low-level ** is a fake: I am Qin Shi Huang, give me money; The intermediate ** is open-mouthed, and I will be good to you for the rest of my life; Advanced** is a half-truth: a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, but the actual monthly income is more than 10,000 yuan. The highest ** is to tell you the whole truth, but through the methods of taking words out of context, secretly changing concepts, avoiding the important and trivial, etc., to guide the truth he wants. "In everyone's opinion, he is not complaining, but saying something interesting, but it has caused some people to speculate that people who don't know the truth eat him, there may be several reasons, one is that the person being said is not present and directly loses the opportunity to refute, the second is that he is old and has a certain right to speak, and the third is a relatively relaxed occasion, which covers up the purpose of his complaint, and he finally achieved the effect of complaining.
Schnabel once said in "My Life and **"It is harder to maintain a reputation than to achieve it." "When you encounter a situation that threatens your reputation, you must refute it, pierce the veil of truth, and use verbal violence if necessary. Because not everyone has the ability to see through the truth, many more victims are suffering from the darkness before the truth comes. There is a situation where the living environment of the little people is limited, and if the people around you are subjected to similar language transmissions and deduce values that are not good for you, everything you do will be affected, because the people around you think that you are such a person. Negative remarks and reviews accumulate in a pen and one day may appear in front of you with an unexpectedly bad result.
There are always similarities in a melon on a vine, since we all know the effect of the complaint, how can we not know the way to complain. The basic role of language is to transmit information, how to say it to achieve the goal, Sister Feng caught the door: when the facts are favorable to you, emphasize the facts, emphasize the things that are beneficial to you. There is a section in the Dream of Red Mansions, on Wang Xifeng's birthday, Jia Lian and Bao's second wife were in the same room, and they were discovered by Sister Feng. And said that "on his birthday, her husband conspired with other women to poison herself, and when she was discovered, she was angry and wanted to cut people", which immediately filled up the sympathy points, and also gave them a reasonable explanation for the conflict. However, after all, the ancestor is a human being, and he can still see that things are not all as Sister Feng said, so he will persuade Sister Feng to be generous later.
Sister Feng is actually the victim in this matter, after all, Jia Lian is really true, and Sister Feng sued this for a reason. In life, if there is something, there will be injury. When my own interests were damaged and it was necessary to sue him, I thought of Yang Jiang saying in "Bathing", "I talk about these disgraceful things in order to distinguish right from wrong." What's wrong, it's not right, it's bad. What is right is what should be good. No matter if I suffer a loss, as long as I am not wrong, my heart will be comfortable. "Language has the magic of exporting values, but every time you speak it, you should have a public heart that is always introspective.
In life, the big people have the prestige of the big people, and the little people have the reputation of the little people, but unfortunately not every little person has a Jia Mu who knows right from wrong in the environment.