When people reach their old age, they feel very happy when they have children and grandchildren, and several generations are in the same house.
As a parent, I definitely hope that my children will get married as soon as possible and hold their grandchildren as soon as possible.
However, young people nowadays seem to be reluctant to have children, and even marriage is superfluous.
From some young people, I saw such a few questions.
For one, for many young people, money and work come first. If you lose your job because of getting married and starting a family, it's too hard to accept.
Second, "the building is the biggest threshold". Extending from this sentence, housing prices, bride price, education expenses, etc., make people not hopeful about marriage, even if they find a partner, they don't easily talk about having children.
Third, "Not to mention childbirth, I don't even have a low desire to survive." "Many people don't want to work hard all their lives, and they have long had the idea of lying down. On the other hand, counting on the age of thirty or forty, you rely on wealth to settle the rest of your life and retire early.
When young people are reluctant to get married and start a family, parents who are getting older are anxious. In the blind date market, the elderly replace their children to submit resumes and communicate with each other's families; In normal times, the elderly will mobilize relatives and friends to find suitable partners.
As a human being, it is better to look at the issue of "family continuity" from another angle, and life will suddenly become clearer, and it is also the vision of family development.
When "everyone is equal", the family will flourish.
In ancient times, incense was mostly "to give birth to a son and inherit the family business". Even very poor parents will stubbornly believe that with a son, there is still hope in the future.
What is uncomfortable is that some erroneous and outdated ideas still exist in the minds of some parents.
In the TV series "It's All Good", Su Mingyu was not favored by his parents from childhood to adulthood. She had to choose to struggle alone, and from the bottom of her heart, refused to be with her family.
It wasn't until after Su's mother passed away that Su Daqiang entered a time of lingering breath, and Su Mingyu's attitude towards his family really changed.
Because Su Daqiang has always loved Su Mingyu, but he has no "right to speak and decide" at home. Once, he tried to love Su Mingyu, but he didn't succeed, and he was very guilty.
If Su Mingyu had been cared for by her parents since she was a child, would the relationship between the two generations be very different? Is it possible for a daughter to support the pillar of the family?
We can not only say the truth that "everyone is equal", but also do it. People in the new era should know to "take the essence and remove the dross", instead of reading from the book.As long as there are children in the family, it will continue to be prosperous.
In addition, we can also take a nephew or niece, and adopt a child as the heir to the family. You can even take the initiative to help poor children in society as a member of a big family.
At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Zhou Ying, a businesswoman in Shaanxi, married more than ten days before her husband passed away, she adopted a nephew, and the family was continued.
The old man Bai Fangli, who made money by pedaling a tricycle, supported more than 300 children to study, and since then he has been firmly remembered by people and embodies the "spiritual immortality".
Compared with "no successor", what is even more terrible is the "cognitive misunderstanding".
As a parent, don't talk about "older leftover women and leftover men" as "family failure". The proportion of people who have never been married in their lives is not high.
Don't take "no son" as a regret. In this case, it is "asking for hardship".
Don't listen to some netizens, alarmist. Think that in this society, more and more families, there are no "descendants". We must be ourselves and establish our own "world view, outlook on life, and family outlook".
If the family is not virtuous, it can lead the family to failure.
When we complain that "it is difficult to make money, and there is no love without money", we should think about it, is the family morality wrong?
As a post-70s generation, I went through the process of starting from scratch. Therefore, the house and car have to rely on themselves.
But today's young people are "fighting dad" at every turn. In addition, many parents are willing to prepare "cars, houses, and bride prices" for their children.
If parents are unable to prepare "conditions for marriage", then children can rightly refuse to marry. This is clearly "moral turpitude". In other words, the family style is distorted."Helping is love, not helping is duty", parents and children and grandchildren get along, and also follow this principle.
In addition to the family style affecting young people's concept of marriage and childbearing, it is also necessary to guard against "the overall immorality of the family".
In ancient times, there were several punishments, called "Zhulian Nine Clans, Full Door Copying". It can be seen that once a family without morality is abandoned by the times, it will cut off the "future" at one time.
Kong Rong during the Three Kingdoms, on an errand in the Wei State, because he opposed Cao Cao's filial piety, his words were too upright, and he caused a big disaster. He hoped to save his children, but was unsuccessful. His son said"The nest has been knocked over, how can there still be intact eggs?" ”
Qin Hui in the Song Dynasty was morally corrupt, causing his descendants to dare not say that "Qin Hui is an ancestor" for a long time. In the seventeenth year of Qianlong, a person named Qin Dashi was admitted to the top prize, and when he faced the saint, he did not admit that he was related to Qin Hui.
Families with high moral qualities are not worried about problems such as "the disappearance of the family and the absence of children and grandchildren".
Home and everything is prosperous", the family is united, and there will be money and houses. And a loving family, children and grandchildren do not have to worry about having no object, and they are favored wherever they go.
The elderly are moral, and the children are getting happier and happier; Children are moral, self-made, and show their demeanor.
We need to remember a saying: "Filial piety comes first." ”
When people are old, instead of desperately worrying about the problem that their children have no partner and no grandchildren, it is better to establish a moral image and lead their children to start a business and get rich. Believe that God helps those who have attained the Tao.
The high-level transmission of happiness is the continuation of morality, culture, upbringing, social responsibility and wealth, and it is not just as simple as a few more people.
The world is big and growing rapidly every day, but without morality, it will lose its direction.
If the family is virtuous, build a nest to attract the phoenix: the house, the car, love, and the ideal will follow one after another.