From childhood to adulthood, related to us, such as body, family, work, money, interpersonal relationships, etc., their existence and changes can especially affect their hearts, in short, everything is best to go according to my wishes, otherwise it will extend all kinds of complaints and troubles.
For example, when we get along with our families, each has their own habits and ideas, and no one can change anyone, and we will mistakenly think that it is because of others that we are troubled. Everyone has a different way of being, but because of my own standards and settings, I feel that this is not good, there is a problem, I am right, and then troubles arise. As everyone knows, people are just living according to their own consciousness and rhythm, but you have added a lot of stories to it, asking for troubles there, even if you meet someone who is not on the right path, you can stay away, you can't stay away, just focus on your own life, others love to do something, go their own way, and don't consume your precious energy outward.
It's like looking at a thorny plant and you think I don't like it, and pretty flowers, you say I like it. In fact, the so-called good, bad and meaning are just given to it by you. And they just exist in different states, not good or bad.
Sometimes when others praise them, they really think it's the same thing? Begin to flutter. If others say no, they will be upset and feel bad. In fact, no matter what others say, it can't represent the real you, it can only represent a personal perspective of him, and only because you have added all kinds of imagination in your heart, you will dance with it. The same thing, some people think it's very important, and some people think it's just a big thing, it's all their own thoughts playing tricks, and they play a play with themselves.
People in love project their beautiful imagination of the other half, or the missing part of themselves, onto each other, and then the more they look at it, the more pleasing it is, and the more they look at it, the more they like it. But after you really get along, you may start to complain, why do you have so many shortcomings, it's not what I want, and even evolve into an enemy. In fact, that person has always been like this, but in your mind, you gave the other party all kinds of imaginations and stories, so you will be disappointed and dissatisfied.
So everybody, in fact, is playing with their own thoughts, thinking about this, thinking about that, this is good, that is not good, I think, I think. Then start writing the screenwriting in your head. Or imagine yourself as perfect, no one is inferior to yourself, or you regard yourself as a victim, as if everyone is sorry for yourself, fighting against imaginary enemies, and experiencing it immersively.
It's not easy to look at everything truthfully, it's not just that the mind can know, it's not the so-called chicken soup for the soul, it's just that I'm experiencing hardship, being repeatedly entangled in some thoughts, tortured to death and life, I've had enough of it, and I've just begun to have some realizations, and it's normal if I can't do it, everything is karma.