Bai Yang said
"Those who live in marriage live with their eyes half-open and half-closed. ”
In this world, there are no perfect men and women. If you keep your eyes open, or use the mirror for too long, maybe even God can't escape your eyes.
Marriage is like your garden, if you don't take care of it, it will be overgrown.
Only by taking care of it can we reap happiness.
In marriage, a truly intelligent woman would never do these four things.
1. Don't turn over the other party's old accounts
When husband and wife get along, they must learn to turn the page, so that it is easier to achieve happiness.
Indeed, the most taboo between husband and wife is to keep turning over old accounts, counting each other's past, but ruining the happiness in front of them.
If a woman can't find her husband's goodness in her eyes, she has been entangled in her husband's past, no matter when, as long as she is angry, she will start to keep turning over old accounts.
No matter how good the relationship is, it can't stand such a toss, and no matter how good the day is, it can't stand looking back constantly.
What can you do if you flip it?
Can you change the past? You're just making yourself sadder, making yourself angrier.
Feelings, the best state is to talk about things, and if there are contradictions, solve the contradictions, instead of investigating the rights and wrongs of the past, and not dwell on the good and bad in the past.
Only in this way can we go far.
2. Do not be attached to transform each other
In the emotional world, people will always be full of illusions about the other half, and unconsciously, try to make the other person their ideal appearance.
The couple had divorced, and when the wife left, the man asked his wife to take away a lamp, and the woman said, "I don't like it, I never liked it because it's ugly." ”
The man was shocked and couldn't help but ask: "It's just a table lamp, how can you scold it like that?" ”
The woman replied calmly: "You have a fantasy wife in your heart." What she should do, what she should like, what she should say, you have it all set.
You've been relentlessly transforming me, why?
Don't you know that I'm not the one you think I'm thinking about? ”
If husband and wife have been obsessed with transforming each other, what they will get in the end will only be nothing.
It doesn't take too much love to get married, it just needs two people not to hate it
There are no people in this world who are made in heaven, just two people who like each other, and they are slowly changing for each other.
There are so many gold and jade good relationships in the world, and the so-called love and affection are just mutual tolerances and cherishes from the heart.
Mutual acceptance, mutual respect and understanding are the most comfortable relationships between husband and wife.
3. Don't expect too much
The most comfortable relationship between people is the one without expectations.
Of course, between husband and wife, there will always be an element of expectation, looking forward to two people being able to last a long time, and looking forward to going to the end together.
However, if you impose your own ideas on the other party, or even if you can't do this idea yourself, is it difficult for some strong people?
You can't be emotionally stable yourself, but asking your partner to play an emotionally stable tree hole to nourish your emotions is inherently unrealistic.
If you expect too much from him, you will be disappointed, even if the other person has done better than ever, but you can't be satisfied.
Even the most intimate person is unlikely to behave in your way all the time.
When you ask for this overestimated expectation, your pain and troubles will follow.
In this world, there is no such thing as "should", and you should not deliberately force it in marriage.
Fourth, do not make unnecessary comparisons
Zheng Xinyao said:
"Half of the tiredness of life comes from survival, and more than half comes from comparison. ”
The result of comparison will always not be as you like, because you always compare what you don't have with what others have, and the end result will only be that you are unhappy.
Life is like a person drinking water, cold and warm self-knowing, instead of looking up to the happiness of others, it is better to keep the joy you have.
A really smart woman will not measure her feelings by other people's marriages, because she knows very well that happiness is lived by herself, not by comparison.
In married life, everyone needs to give, but everyone can get something.
May you and I live a simple and happy life, and may you and I be accompanied by a beloved who is a white head.
Emotional marriage