Over the years, I have often heard some people complain: why I have studied hard for 10 years, my academic performance is better than many people, but after graduation, I have no good end in life. And those who don't have the same grades as me are better than me? In fact, this involves the problem of cognition, the problem of cognition of life.
The school has an exam syllabus that does not exceed this syllabus, and the school also has a special teacher to teach this knowledge. At the same time, in order to ensure the test results, the school usually conducts real test or simulation training. What's more, some parents even ask for tutors for their children and targeted guidance. Therefore, students do not need to worry about directional problems, cost problems, and failure problems in school. As long as the IQ is a normal person and willing to spend time studying, basically your grades can be improved. Of course, those who are admitted to Tsinghua University also need to bring some learning talent. (In fact, the school can't inspect and train people to make decisions independently, bear the consequences independently, have the courage to face uncertainty, the willpower in the face of difficulties, the persistence and communication skills in the face of others' disapproval, and the goal power of not giving up until the goal is achieved, etc.).
However, this is not the case in society, which does not have an examination syllabus, and society only has laws. Outside of the law, each has its own powers. Therefore, after graduation, many students begin to be confused and have no direction. Because I have been in school for more than ten years, I have never been concerned with the direction. At this time, the society's comprehensive ability test of people began to appear (including the strength of the fathers).
Some people find their direction quickly after graduation, because some people have already laid out their direction when they are in school. So after stepping into society, just continue to walk in this direction. This is the case for many people who start their own businesses in school.
Although some people have no direction after graduation, their parents can show him a direction, and he follows his parents' instructions to have a little foundation, which means that the fathers help their children find the direction through trial and error, so that their children can take fewer detours in life.
Some people are lucky, and they accidentally enter an industry that is an outlet, and they can be regarded as finding the direction by mistake, which we commonly call good luck. For example, in the early years, some people entered large companies such as Alibaba, Tencent, and Huawei as soon as they graduated, and they also mixed up a half-job in it, with a small share.
Most people have no direction, and no one gives him direction, and there is no luck to hit the right direction, which is more tragic at this time. Because all his efforts after graduation are: first to find the right direction. Before finding the right direction, all the effort is to find the direction, so it will not produce results that everyone can see, such as making money and the like. There are several types of this:
1. Some people are more pessimistic, seeing that society is so difficult, and the people around them have all kinds of kind words and persuasions. So I simply lay down, didn't look for directions, accepted my fate, and followed the crowd. This kind of person belongs to the majority, and is also commonly known as ordinary people. Know the "boundary" of your ability, do not seek to be rich and rich, but seek not to make big mistakes in life.
Second, some people are naturally more "stupid", never think so much, and don't have so many requirements, basically belong to people who are happy in the moment (really don't think about tomorrow's type, not pretend not to think about tomorrow's type). This kind of person generally has a high happiness index, and we commonly call it a foolish person.
3. Some people don't accept their fate, so they toss, try and make mistakes, and look for directions. There are several types of this:
1. If you are lucky, you can find the right direction after a few tosses and trial and error. Then all the hard work starts to show, and often quickly becomes the person who stands out among the classmates (many people like to say that you don't succeed because you don't work hard, which is often this type. Even if he is modest on the lips, he feels that he is very capable in his heart). Such people often have opinions, ideals, certain courage, intelligence, astuteness, and a particularly strong ability to seize opportunities.
2. Some people are more miserable, no matter how much they toss and try and make mistakes, they don't find the right direction, and then give up (the reason for giving up may be subjective or objective). And it costs a lot of sunk costs such as time, money, and emotions. Not only did they not make any money, but some people were in debt and became the worst among their classmates. There are not a few such people, but such a person also deserves respect, at least he didn't accept his fate, and tossed a few times. Of course, the depressed and depressed often belong to these people. Such people often have opinions, ideals, and a certain amount of courage, but they lack an opportunity (direction), of course, some are also due to lack of patience.
3. Some people are both sad and lucky. said that the sadness is because he has been tossing for many years and has spent a lot of time, money, and emotional trial and error to find direction. Even the people around him are disappointed in him, he has not yet earned decent money, and he is even in debt. He said that he was lucky because he finally found the right direction after many years of tossing. This kind of person is commonly known as a late bloomer. This kind of person can often produce a leader-level figure because he has too deep a deep understanding of society and industry. Of course, this kind of person's goal, willpower, resistance to pressure, courage, learning ability, inductive ability, and communication ability must be absolutely superior.
Therefore, life needs a correct direction (in line with the time, place, and direction of people), and all efforts are useless in the eyes of others until they find the right direction. Only after finding the right direction in life will efforts be like an accelerator, and the rewards of hard work will roll in. That's why we often talk about fortune, time to move and so on. This is also what I told you before, there are 3 levels of effort:
The first level: pretending to work hard, the purpose of hard work is not to produce results, but just to show parents, friends, colleagues, leaders or yourself.
The second level: strive to find the right direction, the purpose of efforts is to find the right direction. So until you find the right direction, all the efforts in this will not produce results that everyone can see. On the contrary, the harder you work, the more money, time, and emotions are consumed. In case it doesn't work out in the end, it will become a negative teaching material for others.
The third level: with efforts in the right direction, this kind of effort is the happiest. Because all your efforts will be rewarded for all to see. Li Jiaqi has dissed before, everyone doesn't work hard. In fact, he belongs to this type, he has found the right direction (in line with the times and his own strengths), as long as he spends time live broadcasting, there will be money spent in vain.
In this life, it is long and short. It is precisely because of this that we should cherish the opportunity (direction), look for the opportunity (direction), and grasp the opportunity (direction).
Have a great weekend everyone!