Most parents are working hard to make their children better off than they are, to achieve upward improvement. For this reason, many people are willing to invest huge sums of money in the education of their children, while at the same time saving themselves money and cutting down on material desires.
If someone tells these parents that their children's future life may not be as good as their own, I am afraid that many people's educational ideas will be challenged and difficult to accept.
In fact, in real life, this is the case. If a family encounters such a problem, it must be tried to avoid.
1.Parents are too capable.
In real life, if one of the members of a family is too capable and extraordinary, then it is likely that the children in the family will not be able to have more room for development. Why? Because people who are too capable tend to do most of the things in the house, and they don't look down on what others do. Under this pressure, family members, whether spouses or children, can appear "incompetent".
For example, some people in some families have excellent earning power, while other family members can live comfortably without having to work. As a result, the children will live in a fairly affluent environment, and they will lack the motivation to do so. Others will often criticize and yell at their children, causing them to become timid and afraid to do things, which leads to a lack of ability and courage.
In real life, family members and children should be given some opportunities to handle affairs independently, and not to act too aggressively, otherwise family members and children will become incompetent unconsciously.
2.The material conditions provided by the family are too superior.
In real life, many people work hard because if they don't work hard, they won't have anything to eat. However, some families provide material conditions that are so superior that their children do not have to work hard.
This situation dooms the children to lack the spirit of struggle. For example, I have seen relatives whose families are very privileged and own many shops and many properties. As a result, their children are already having a good time in primary school, and they don't pay attention to learning at all. No matter how you educate and arrange the curriculum, it will not work.
Regardless of family conditions, do not indulge your children too much. If you offer too much, your children will only become more demanding, and they will become good at pleasure and unmotivated to work hard.
3.There is a problem with the way education is conducted.
In real life, there are families who devote their resources to the best and do not spoil their children, but the children are still lacking in income, and the reason may be that there is a problem with the way they are educated.
For example, some families provide their children with curricula and learning resources, but their children continue to perform poorly, perhaps because of a lack of initiative or faulty learning methods. Sometimes, although the children are serious about their classes, they are not motivated in their hearts, resulting in unsatisfactory academic performance. Those who have excellent grades are usually self-driven and gifted people, and it is not enough to simply provide learning resources.
In short, if parents truly love their children, they need to adjust their education methods in time. In many cases, what parents think is the right way to educate is actually not working well, and adjustments need to be made. The situation could get worse if this adjustment is lacking.