My old man spent 380,000 yuan on hospitalization, the eldest son paid 200,000 yuan, and the younger son paid 180,000 yuan. The medical reimbursement was 200,000 yuan, and I gave the 200,000 yuan to the second son, but the eldest son fell out with me after learning about it, and he didn't go home to see me and his father for two or three years.
This happened two or three years ago, when my old man was hospitalized and needed surgery. The cost of the operation plus the later ** cost will cost a total of 380,000, which is an astronomical amount for our ordinary family.
I have two sons, the eldest and the youngest. In order to treat the old man, the two of us discussed it and decided to let the eldest son pay 200,000 yuan, the younger son pay 180,000 yuan, and the remaining 200,000 yuan can be reimbursed. Although I was a little worried about whether my eldest son would be able to come up with so much money at once, he agreed, and I didn't say anything more.
The operation went well and the old man recovered well. And luckily, we were able to get 200,000 in medical reimbursement. Although this amount is a financial reward for the eldest son who bears part of the expenses, I think the 200,000 yuan is public money and should be used to develop social welfare. So I decided to give the 200,000 to my youngest son.
However, when my eldest son learned the news, he fell out with me. He said angrily that he had been working outside the home all these years and rarely came home to see me and his father, while I gave the money for medical reimbursement to my second son without taking into account his efforts at all.
Although I understand my eldest son's feelings, I also have my own difficulties in my heart. After all, this is public money, not my private money, and I can't just think about personal feelings and ignore the matter of principle. Moreover, I hope that through this behavior, my youngest son can feel the warmth and love of the family, after all, he has always been relatively passive.
The eldest son's absence has lasted for two or three years, and the old man and I are alone at home, feeling very lonely. Every time it was the Chinese New Year, I looked forward to him coming home to see us. But he always found all kinds of excuses to shirk, and in the end we had to spend it quietly alone.
I knew in my heart that my eldest son's indifference was not only because of this incident, but also because of some other reasons. Maybe it's the pressure of his work, or maybe it's his personal growth and change. But no matter what, I always feel that family is the most basic and important harbor, and family affection is irreplaceable.
Time flies, two or three years pass in a blink of an eye. Although the eldest son didn't take the initiative to come home to see me and the old man, we were not disappointed in him, but a little more worried. Maybe he's not there yet, maybe he needs more time to face his relationship with his family.