The 3 sentences of a smart woman are tight-lipped, and a confused woman will say it whenever she meets someone
A truly intelligent woman often knows how to shut up and be silent at the right time.
Especially for the following 3 sentences, they would rather rot in their stomachs than say it when they meet people.
There is a saying in "Aphorism Lianbi": "Sit quietly and often think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others." ”
A wise woman who will never take the initiative to talk about other people's gossip.
If you always put other people's gossip on your lips, you will be caught up in the whirlpool of right and wrong unconsciously.
My colleague Ah Wen always likes to put other people's gossip on his lips.
No matter what the occasion or how long they have known each other, as long as the big guy has nothing to talk about, she will run out and say that this person is long, and that person is short, and even takes other people's privacy as her own talking point.
At first, the big guy only thinks she is enthusiastic and cheerful, and he will never be cold with her.
After a long time, someone found out that everyone in the back foot office knew what she was talking to her just now, and they began to avoid her intentionally or unintentionally.
The most embarrassing time was when there was a girl who broke up with her boyfriend because of her personality, but Ah Wen was a gossip girl behind her back, and she was a big deal.
The girl was aware of everyone's fingering, so she gave Ah Wen a bad look in public.
In fact, everyone has their own life, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.
Instead of being like a long-tongued woman who is always talking about others behind her back, you should turn your attention to yourself.
After all, those who often say right and wrong must be right and wrong.
If you are always pointing fingers at other people's lives, you will eventually be blamed on yourself.
And trust between people is also a piggy bank.
If you always keep your friend's privacy public, your friendship will be lost and ruined in the gossip again and again.
If you want to have a stable and quiet life, you must learn to keep your mouth shut and keep your mouth shut about other people's secrets.
If you want to have a long-term and comfortable relationship, you must learn to be a good tree hole and end up with the secrets of your friends.
A really smart woman not only does not gossip about others, but also makes herself a whirlpool of right and wrong; will not complain everywhere, making herself a sister-in-law of Xianglin who everyone hides.
After all, no one wants to waste their time in a pile of grievances.
For a while, my friend Xia Hua said that she didn't know why she sent out messages, but there was always no return.
Ask her what she sends to others?
She said that she always likes to talk to others about what she is angry with at work and what she has hurt in her relationship.
At the beginning, seeing her complaint, her friends came to comfort her for the first time.
But I don't know when it started, and it took a long time before someone sporadically perfunctory one or two sentences from her.
Later, basically no one replied to her messages.
She has been distressed for a long time, is her popularity so bad?
Actually, it's not that she has a bad interpersonal relationship.
It's that everyone's life is a piece of chicken feathers, and everyone needs to deal with the big and small things in life.
If a person always imposes his cloudy days on others, he will unknowingly disturb the good mood of others.
Don't be an "energy vampire" and don't always show your wounds to gain sympathy.
It's okay for someone to comfort you once, but no one is obligated to listen to you all the time.
The terrible thing is that in the repeated complaining, not only will you not get rid of the boredom, but you will also let yourself fall deeper and deeper.
After realizing her own problems, Xia Hua began to shift the topic to sharing the beauty of life.
Friends also began to respond, what is delicious, what is fun, what they are working on, and what they want to achieve.
After a period of time, she found that the original unhappiness gradually turned into happiness, and the original resentment gradually dissipated.
You see, a really smart woman will never talk about her grievances when she meets someone.
They will turn their grievances into motivation, and they will turn their complaints into energy for action.
The third thing that a smart woman doesn't talk about everywhere is her real family background.
After all, the Chinese have always paid attention to "wealth is not exposed".
Lufu, you will unknowingly incur jealousy; If you show poverty, you will unknowingly invite bullying.
Really powerful people know how to make a fortune in silence.
I still remember that some time ago, a blogger posted a photo with her husband on social **, and accompanied by an income certificate of "average monthly income of 82,500 yuan" issued by ** company, and asked everyone very advantageously whether this is considered joint property after marriage?
At the beginning, some netizens persuaded her to delete it, saying that it would affect her husband's future.
But she felt that netizens were jealous of her.
Unexpectedly, after showing off, she not only sent her husband directly to the hot search, but even sent her husband on the road to resignation.
The monthly income of 80,000 yuan is indeed an astronomical amount for ordinary wage earners;
But for the highly leveraged ** industry or the wealthy class, it may not be nothing.
It's just that such a move to show off his wealth directly put her husband's company and the entire industry on the cusp.
The boy's movements after leaving his job are unknown, but after such an operation, it is difficult to say that the relationship between the two is not affected.
I've seen such a sentence:
When you are better off than others, don't show off to the other party, because your edge will attract the other party's loss. ”
Perhaps, it is not only loss that is incurred, but also inexplicable malice and jealousy.
After all, not everyone in this world wants you to live better than him.
Too much ostentation may satisfy your vanity, but it can also lead you to unexpected disasters.
Not revealing your true family background is the best protection for yourself.
A truly smart person is more smooth, the more he is sharp, the more he gains, and the more he is low-key.
You know, the people who have the last laugh are generally unexpected.
Ernest Hemingway once said, "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us sixty years to learn to shut up." ”
It is true that people are emotional creatures and always want to show their inner thoughts through words.
But really smart people know what to say and what not to say.
You can blurt out words that praise people, and think twice about slandering people.
The words of good sunshine can be shared everywhere, and the words of resentment and gloom should not be said when you meet people.
If you are low-key, you can do as much as possible, and if you show off your wealth, you must keep your mouth shut.
Because you never know how lethal words can be, for yourself and for everyone.
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