I'm Lao Yu, fifty-five years old. During the Spring Festival last year, my daughter-in-law left angrily after arguing with me because I did not agree to buy a house for my three-year-old grandson. Since then, half a year has passed in a hurry, and I have never seen my grandson again, and my longing is like a tide.
My wife persuaded her many times, saying that the money would eventually be inherited by her grandchildren, so why be too persistent. However, I have concerns that today's concessions will lead to more demands tomorrow. He has been working diligently in the fields all his life, and once upon a time, in order to seize the benefits of the harvest season, he ignored the hidden diseases of his wife's body. When I had my free time, I was already in the advanced stage of breast cancer. After the operation, she made her wish and urged her son to get married, lest she would not be able to witness it.
At that time, my daughter-in-law and son had only known each other for half a year, and I knew that I was demanding, but in order to fulfill my wife's wish, I could only discuss with my son. The daughter-in-law is understanding and agrees happily. In order to reassure my daughter-in-law, I poured out my pocket, made a down payment on the county house, and gave a bride price of 120,000 yuan, and promised that I would be responsible for the soft decoration. In this way, the two got together quickly, and the wife was also discharged from the hospital, but chemotherapy needed to be continued.
In less than two months, her daughter-in-law was pregnant, and after she became pregnant in October, she gave birth to Lin'er. I am overjoyed, I feel that the sky treats me well, breeds a bumper harvest, and adds a new child to my family. After the birth of my grandson, my wife insisted on taking care of him, and I knew that he wanted to prove that he was still capable of housework and raising his grandchildren. So, my wife and daughter-in-law lived in the same county, and I stayed alone in the countryside and continued to breed. In order to alleviate the burden on my wife, I send fresh vegetables to the county every two days and provide assistance as much as possible.
However, the wife occasionally complained, saying that her daughter-in-law was lazy at home, and housework and grandchildren depended on her and her son. I think that since my daughter-in-law has married into my family, it is a gift in the snow, and a little laziness is not enough to worry about. When the grandchildren enter the kindergarten, everything will be better. Time flies, and my grandson is not yet three years old, so I insist on sending him to the kindergarten, and my wife has to be free.
At this time, there was a boom in the circle of daughters-in-law's circle of friends, and it was said that many friends had already bought houses in Wuhan. At the beginning, I didn't take this to heart, because my son and daughter-in-law all worked in the county seat, and their lives were still comfortable. With my frequent subsidies, the two of them travel from time to time, and the financial pressure is not great. In my opinion, my daughter-in-law's life is quite comfortable.
However, my daughter-in-law repeatedly mentioned that her friend had bought a house, until I said, "You will not go to Wuhan for development in the future, so what's the use of buying a house?" "I regret it, obviously my daughter-in-law is waiting for this. She then continued: "Although we don't need it, for the sake of our grandchildren, the house price will rise day by day in the future, and buying a house is saving for it." At this point, the purchase of a house in Wuhan was officially put on the agenda. The daughter-in-law's intention is that I will make a down payment, and the two of them will repay the mortgage together.
At this time, I regretted that I had not done it at the beginning, and in order to let my daughter-in-law enter the door with peace of mind, I actually told all the family background. Once the down payment is made, I will have very little savings left. I hesitated and asked my son, "Can you two afford the mortgage?" In this way, there is a double pressure. "My son is silent, and I know that he has been controlled by his daughter-in-law since he got married, and he has little say in the family.
As far as I know, the bride price, dowry and share of the money they received when they got married were actually purchased in full. The car is flashy and only used when you return to your hometown, and it costs a lot of insurance and maintenance every year. Although I felt that this was useless, I did not say much. The daughter-in-law travels twice a year, and the cost of each time is about 10,000 yuan. The car and tourism are combined, and the annual expenditure is nearly 40,000 yuan. The son's monthly salary is 6,000, the daughter-in-law is 3,050, and the county mortgage is 2,08.
I worked hard to settle this account with my daughter-in-law, but she swore that she would have her own way after buying a house. Seeing that the dispute was about to start, I could only put the matter aside for the time being, saying that it would take time to think about it. When my wife asked me what I really thought, I frankly admitted three concerns: first, my wife's illness needs to continue, and I need to keep money in case of emergency; The risk of the breeding industry is unpredictable, and it is difficult to turn over if the capital is broken; I really can't believe that my son and daughter-in-law can suddenly be frugal and run the house, and the mortgage may become a burden on me at that time; The four buy houses without living, and the rise and fall of housing prices are unpredictable, and this kind of investment is not something that small people like us can afford.
Although my wife thinks that I am reasonable, she is also worried that my son will be angry because of this, and he will be caught in the middle. On Chinese New Year's Eve, my wife and I were busy between the kitchen and the dining table. The daughter-in-law praised the deliciousness of the dishes with a smile on her face in front of the whole family. However, the worries in my heart were as hard to dissipate as a haze. I know that this family is facing unprecedented challenges and trials.