Cancer is really scary, and if you have never had a cancer patient around you, you must be very lucky. There are 10 people around me who have had cancer, and 6 of them have left forever.
Let me tell you their stories, and I found that many of the people around me who have cancer have something in common. The first time I heard about leukemia was when I was thirteen years old, and it took the life of my childhood friend, who was only thirteen when she died.
When I was a child, I lived in a small mountain village, and at that time, men who couldn't marry wives would buy women from Sichuan and Guizhou as wives. My partner's mom bought it from there. About when she was six or seven years old her mother ran away, and her good days were over.
She also has an older brother who is a year older than her and a grandfather who is seriously patriarchal. His grandfather didn't let her brother work, but let her wash potatoes in cold water in the winter. At that time, the village fed its own pigs, and she washed the potatoes with cold water every day, and probably boiled them after washing!
I remember accompanying her to sweep the fallen leaves and sweep them up to make a fire. We had to sweep three or four bags a day, and that bag was about the same height as us. Her grandfather may not be in good health, otherwise why let her sweep the fallen leaves for fuel, my family has never burned fallen leaves, and fallen leaves are definitely not good fuel.
I heard my mother say that she went to play with me, and her hands were full of chilblains and big cuts, and her little hands were also black. My mom always washed her and wrapped her up in hand cream.
When I was nine years old, we moved to better schooling. After a few years, I heard my dad say that she was sick, and it was leukemia, a disease that could not be cured. I heard my mom tell my dad: Xiaomeizi is so pitiful, her grandfather who finally bullied her died, and she has grown up and can take care of herself. As a result, she was taken away by her grandfather.
Xiaomeizi is my partner's nickname. Her grandfather was not only patriarchal, but also had a very short temper and often scolded her. After her mother left, her father didn't care about her and her brother, and his grandfather took care of them.
She should have had a hard time in those years, and it was not her turn to eat some delicious food at home, so she would have leukemia! When he was sick, his father didn't have much money, and probably didn't smash the pot and sell iron to save her, and she left not long after she got sick. I think the most critical thing about her disease is that she can't eat good things and is caused by anemia. No one in her family has ever had the disease, and there is no genetic factor.
She suffered from the same disease and was killed by my eldest brother (my aunt's eldest son). My eldest brother was about 40 years old when he left, and I remember that my eldest brother had always been very thin, a little unhealthy and thin, and his face was very white. The wife he married had a strong personality and physique, and they lived a very frugal life.
Our town is adjacent to their village, so some of the land in my aunt's village belongs to the people of our town. My family has land in their village, and when my mother went to their village to hoe the land, she saw my aunt and brother eating boiled noodles with only a little salt and lard, and no other seasonings. Or in the busy farming season, can such a meal provide enough nutrients for the body?
When my aunt and sister-in-law were 40 years old, they suddenly became pregnant with their third child. There are two girls on it, and maybe they want a son! When his aunt and sister-in-law were pregnant with their third child, the eldest girls in his family were all in high school. The eldest aunt and sister-in-law are elderly mothers, and their bodies are naturally delicate, and all the farm work falls on the eldest aunt alone.
My aunt was reluctant to eat because of the heavy farm work, and her nutrition couldn't keep up, so she was diagnosed with leukemia soon after. The child was born, and it was indeed a boy, but the eldest aunt died within a few months.
Before leaving, the third aunt said that there is a medicine that can make the eldest aunt live longer and relieve his pain, but it is not cheap. The third aunt wanted to use it, but the eldest aunt said that their orphans and widows would live in the future, and they didn't want to spend money on the eldest aunt in vain.
The eldest aunt and brother have always been very frugal, and the eldest aunt and sister-in-law have money in their hands. Soon after my eldest brother died, my eldest aunt and sister-in-law remarried, and the precious son who took my eldest brother's life also changed his surname. So be nice to your body anyway. My partner and my aunt suffered from leukemia because of chronic malnutrition.
A few years after my aunt left, my aunt was also diagnosed with cancer, which was pancreatic cancer. I remember very clearly: my aunt was not feeling well, so she didn't go to the hospital, but asked God to ask hexagrams all over the world to see the goddess. My mother said that my aunt herself was reluctant to eat well, but she spent money to buy delicious food for the goddess. My neighbor is a priest who has become a monk halfway, and my aunt often goes to her when she gets sick.
My aunt has been frugal all her life, and my parents usually don't ask my parents to go to her house for dinner when they go to their village to hoe. The eldest uncle is the eldest young master of the landlord's family, and he also has machismo. The aunt was busy in the field and went home at noon to cook, and after eating, the uncle had a lunch break, and the aunt also carried water to cook pig food.
The aunt gave birth to three sons, and in order for her three sons to marry a daughter-in-law, she was reluctant to eat or wear. The most generous time in her life was when her younger brothers and sisters went to see her before she died, and she asked her uncle to boil meat for her younger brothers and sisters. My mother also said that day that there was an urn of meat, and my uncle took the meat of the quick groove.
After my aunt left, my uncle went to my house to drink as soon as he rushed to the market, and cried when he was drunk. My mother didn't accept his affection, saying that my aunt suffered all the sins when she was alive, you have to feel sorry for her a little bit, help her do more work, even if she is sick and actively take her to ** She will not leave so early.
My aunt cried probably because he knew how good my aunt was because he had suffered himself, and when my aunt was alive, he couldn't even cook, and he came to the town to catch the market and make lunch for him before leaving.
A few years after my aunt left, I heard that my second aunt was also sick and had lung cancer. The second aunt is the kind of person who doesn't talk much, loves to sulk, and is not kind to anyone. When I was a child, my second aunt taught me to call him a ghost.
My family used to be poor, and he looked down on my parents. The second aunt is very hardworking and loves to smoke, and he has to smoke several cigarettes before going to bed at night, and he also smokes several cigarettes when he gets up at four or five o'clock in the morning to feed the cattle, and he also smokes when he rests.
His cancer was most likely due to sulking and smoking. In fact, most of the people around me who have cancer do not express their emotions and like to muffle their negative emotions.
The second aunt's cancer coincided with the demolition that year, and the demolition money was given to several million. So life was saved. He was in his fifties when he was diagnosed with cancer, and he had been living with cancer for more than 10 years, and last year he went to Beijing for surgery. Now the body is well maintained.
Less than a year after my second aunt's illness, she told me to pay attention to breast health, and she was diagnosed with thoracic lobular hyperplasia. At that time, I didn't know what breast lobular hyperplasia was, and about half a year later, it was rumored that my hometown had suffered from breast cancer. I've been playing with her since I was nine years old, but she didn't tell me when she got sick. All I know about her is a neighborhood rumor.
I've known Fa Xiao since I moved when I was nine years old. I like to play with her, and it probably has something to do with her father. Her father was a pleasant man and I was very welcome every time I went. Fa Xiao's mother hanged herself when she was eight years old, so she has a sensitive and withdrawn personality. Maybe because of her mother's suicide, she doesn't come out to play on Sundays, and I always go to her house to play with her.
At that time, people did not know why the mother of the young man committed suicide. The two sons are in college, the eldest son is married, and the second son is also very promising when he is admitted to the military school. Fa Xiao is well-behaved and sensible, Uncle Li (Fa Xiao's father) gets along well with the neighbors, and he should not be a bad husband.
From my current point of view, the only deficiency of Uncle Li's family should be that Uncle Li does not have his own house and has been living in a unit dormitory. But it's not a big deal! Fa Xiao's mother is supposed to have depression, but it may not have been called that more than 30 years ago.
Fa Xiao's personality doesn't know if it's affected by her mother's death or genetic factors, and it's really sensitive. We never dared to play with her in front of her mother, especially during the Chinese New Year. If she broke the taboo, she left us and went home.
So for so many years, she has been willing to say what she is willing to say, I listen, I don't dare to ask what she doesn't want to say, I'm afraid that I will make her angry if I accidentally do it. So she didn't tell me when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, and I didn't ask. Some classmates came to me for verification, and I said I didn't know, but the town still spread the word.
Fa was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 26, and she may have made some psychological and mental changes after the operation. During one chat, she told me that when I was a kid, she would be jealous if I did better than her on exams. This is something I never imagined, I have lived for almost forty years without jealousy of anything, let alone jealousy of good friends who are better than me.
I didn't meet my husband until I was twenty-seven years old, and my husband's conditions are really average. That will be small and still haven't found a marriage partner, which also makes her jealous. I can't understand this point, I'm not looking for a rich and handsome, what's there to be jealous of?
It's such a character, at the age of twenty-six, he made himself breast cancer! Now that more than ten years have passed, she should be fine except for not having children. Her second brother later became a civil servant in Beijing and placed her in a research institute. She is a college student, and they need at least a master's degree if they want to become a regular. She has never been willing to be a subordinate, which may also be the reason for her illness!
Do you understand this? People must learn to be self-consistent. Don't push yourself too hard, don't always compare yourself to others, and don't sulk all the time. There are emotions, there are dissatisfactions, and only when you say it can others understand.
After I met my husband, I learned about my mother-in-law. Among the 10 cancer patients, my heartache is the most my playmates, Xiaomeizi and my mother-in-law, both of whom are too young. My mother-in-law was only thirty-six years old when she died, and she died of gallbladder cancer.
Most cancers are dragged out, and my mother-in-law is. My husband said that my mother-in-law likes to smoke, but in fact, my mother-in-law had a problem with her gallbladder at that time. In the past, there was a saying in the village that smoking can cure stomach pain. So when my mother-in-law has an upset stomach, she smokes or eats pain relief tablets.
The mother-in-law also came up from Sichuan, and after the mother-in-law fell ill, her husband's grandmother came up from Sichuan to accompany her mother-in-law for a while. Unlike others, from my husband's statement, I deduced that my mother-in-law may have been sold to my father-in-law by her own mother, and my husband also said that it was possible.
After the mother-in-law gave birth to her husband, it became popular to rescue the abducted woman, and the public security bureau also came to the village to rescue the mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law couldn't let go of her husband and didn't leave. The death of her mother-in-law is directly related to her father-in-law. My father-in-law is short-tempered, suspicious, and abusive. Therefore, my mother-in-law should be unhappy from time to time when she is alive.
The mother-in-law is a typical rural woman, who does not know a few big characters, can't go far away, and has been diligent and thrifty all her life. No one in the village said that her mother-in-law was bad at all, so it can be seen that she swallowed all her grievances by herself. My husband's personality is like her, kind and gentle. In the words of my father-in-law's proposal: Huzi's personality is, and he can stay in the fire for three minutes.
My mother-in-law married from Sichuan to Shanxi, and she was not familiar with the place, and she quarreled with her father-in-law, and she didn't even have a person or place to talk to. I didn't go to the doctor when I had a stomachache, I endured and dragged it until the pain was so unbearable that I went to the hospital for examination, and the first examination was already an advanced stage of gallbladder cancer.
After the cancer was detected, my father-in-law remembered to pay attention to his mother-in-law's medical treatment. But my mother-in-law had surgery and left not long after. I don't know if it's because my mother-in-law's cancer is more malignant or because the medical level of more than ten years ago is not good. It was also in the late stage that the mother-in-law left in less than half a year after the operation, and the second aunt, the fourth concubine, and the husband and second father were all fine after the operation. The second aunt has been sick for 12 years now.
There are also four concubines who also dragged out the cancer, and the aunt's cancer was also dragged out, they actually had early symptoms, and they were dragged out without seeing minor diseases. The evil old society did not allow women to read and write, so it created a group of women who were not very literate, kind, unassertive, timid, and could not go out and did not know how to love themselves. It has also created a group of macho men who don't care about their wives.
After the fourth concubine suffered from stomach cancer, I told my mother, my mother was not surprised, she said that your fourth concubine has had stomach problems for many years, and she has always had stomach problems when you were a child. The fourth uncle is one of the best people in our town, and everyone says that the fourth uncle is a smart person, but he didn't know to take the fourth concubine to see a doctor until the fourth concubine was diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer.
The four concubines were diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer in about 2018, and the doctor said that he would not live for half a year. Only one-third of the stomach was removed after surgery, and after recovering from surgery, only five dumplings can be eaten at a time.
Fortunately, the fourth uncle is rich, and after the operation, he hired the sister of the four concubines to serve the four concubines all year round, and the four concubines, who couldn't do anything, have been able to cook again for the past two years. The body looks good, the face is ruddy, and it looks like a normal person.
My mother is also the one who does not do anything. My mom had a stomach ache a long time ago, and after a year and a half of pain, she was fine, so no one paid attention to it. It wasn't until 13 years that my nephew was hospitalized for premature birth, and I stayed up late to take care of my nephew and began to have stomach aches again, and it was a continuous pain. I happened to be in the hospital, and I did a test that it was gallstones. There are not many stones, but the opening of the bile duct is blocked by a large stone.
When the results came back, I was worried and didn't know whether I should have surgery on her. At that time, I had just graduated and had no savings. Later, I learned that common bile duct stones, which are not well located, are at risk of turning into pancreatic cancer. When I saw the word pancreatic cancer, I was immediately scared because my aunt had been taken away by pancreatic cancer.
I saved more than 4,000 and quit my job when I was still more than a month before the Chinese New Year, ready to take my mother for surgery. At that time, the family sold more than 4,000 sheep, I was afraid that I would not have enough money so I took most of the family's money, my father was quite unhappy, I took him and had no money to play cards.
So women, if you marry a man who doesn't care about your health at all, remember to love yourself. If I hadn't resolutely taken my mom to surgery at that time, and counted on my dad and my brother, my mom wouldn't have been in pain enough to get up.
When I went to the hospital, my mother was scared and wanted to run, but I didn't let her run. In the two years after the operation, the vitality in her stomach was released, and she was always unenergetic, and I regretted blaming myself. Fortunately, she is in good health now, and she will not hurt to die if she eats eggs and greasy food.
My husband's second father, who was 19 years old, was also diagnosed with cancer, which was a cardia cancer. This is not often heard of, but it is the part that connects the esophagus and stomach of the human body. The exact reason for this is unclear, but his diet may not be too suitable for working on the site for a long time. That year, the second son divorced, and there was also a factor of anger. At that time, the doctor said that he was not optimistic, and now he is fine after the operation.
In the fall of the same year, the brother of a good friend of mine also got cancer. It was rectal cancer, he couldn't go to the toilet, so he pulled sheep feces and eggs to the hospital for examination. The first examination was also very late, and the situation was not optimistic at that time. He's my neighbor so I know he's a big drinker, he doesn't drink properly, and he likes to eat heavy and spicy food, and I don't know anything else. His daughter was 12 years old when he had cancer and 16 when she died.
Last year, a friend of mine died of cervical cancer at the age of about fifty-seven or eighteen. My parents generally don't shy away from gossiping about me, and I heard my mom say that the aunt was quite open to sexual relations when she was young. Her husband is also a romantic figure in his hometown, and he was handsome when he was young, so he ......
My aunt began to work outside in her forties, and after her illness, her husband told my mother that she had been out of order for a few years, and his husband estimated that he was ....... And she's a person who doesn't pay much attention to personal hygiene. She died soon after her illness, less than a year later!
After talking about the deeds of so many cancer patients, I think that the people around me who suffer from cancer have three things in common: first, long-term malnutrition; second, small heart, long-term emotional depression, unable to express emotions, dealing with contradictions; Third, I don't pay attention to minor illnesses, and I have been dragging it out, dragging it out and dragging it out of big problems.
Do you agree with these three factors? What are the causes of cancer in your life? In fact, as long as it is not a genetic factor, hereditary diseases. As long as most people pay attention to their diet, work and rest, and mood, they will not be associated with cancer. I wish you all good health, success, and peace.