Yuan Yajing is 45 years old, a university teacher, and has a basic salary of 8,300 per month.
Her husband Qian Ping is 48 years old, and she is a teacher in the same school, with a basic salary of 9,500 per month.
Yajing was writing the experiment plan, the alarm went off, and after looking at the time, she stood up and stretched, and went out to pick up her son.
When she arrived at the school gate, the students had already lined up to come out according to their classes, and she looked around to look for her son.
Before she could see clearly, her son Qilin had already rushed over, took her hand, and said: Mom, you don't actually have to pick me up, I'll just go to you, I can find this way with my eyes closed.
Yajing touched her son's head, took her hand and walked to school, and said: Hehe, okay, my mother won't pick you up next semester, you go directly to the office to find your mother after school.
Qi Lin was a little unhappy, pouting slightly, he felt that he was an adult, and his mother still came to pick him up every day, not believing him at all.
Ya Jing shook her head and said: Qilin, you are still young, although the road is not far, you have to cross the road, there are many people here, and my mother is afraid that you will be taken away.
Qi Lin kicked the pebbles under his feet, drooped his head a little unhappily, and said sullenly: Mom, I am 8 years old, I will not be lost, let alone taken away, Mom, you have to believe me.
Yajing saw her son like this, and she couldn't bear to be disappointed, and said: Okay, then tomorrow your mother won't come to pick you up, wait for you in the office, don't play outside after school, come directly to your mother, okay?
Qilin nodded happily and said, "Okay, I listen to my mother, come to my mother directly after school, and then go to play after finishing my homework."
When the two returned to the office, she poured her son a glass of water and asked him to do his homework on the desk by the window while she went about her work.
Yajing glanced at her son, thinking that it would take 15 minutes from the entrance of the elementary school to her office, and it should be no problem for her son to come back alone, but she still couldn't help but worry, maybe it would be like this for mothers.
sighed, she still decided to believe her son, after all, she had already agreed, she couldn't easily regret it, and there was another reason, that is, she didn't want to make the leader unhappy.
When it was time to get off work, the son packed his schoolbag and the two went home.
When she arrived at the parking lot, she waited for more than ten minutes, but Qian Ping hadn't come out yet, so she could only call ** and say: Haven't you gotten off work yet? My son and I waited for a while.
Qian Ping said: Oh, I still have something to do, you can go home by yourself first, don't wait for me.
Ya Jing was a little depressed and said: Then why didn't you say it earlier, at least you should have a **.
Qian Ping: Isn't there something wrong with me? Do you think everyone is like you and can leave work on time?
She was a little angry, hung up **, and went out to take a taxi home.
She smiled and said, "Lin Lin, what do you want to eat at night?" Or are we both eating out?
Qi Lin smiled and said, "Mom, I want to eat the vegetarian dumplings you wrapped, let's cook one more plate and fry them tomorrow morning."
I bought vegetables at the door, went home and started chopping stuffing and making dumplings, and after Qilin finished his homework, he sat alone and watched a documentary.
When the two were eating, Qilin said: Mom, there is a parent-teacher conference on Friday afternoon, don't forget.
Yajing said: I have a class that day, let your dad go.
Qilin ate a dumpling and said, "Mom, my father has never come to pick me up, nor has he come to school, so he will definitely not be able to find my classroom."
Yajing: It's okay, you can take him with you then, okay?
After Qian Ping went home, Yajing asked him to go to a parent-teacher conference on Friday afternoon, afraid that he would forget, and set an agenda reminder on his phone.
On Friday afternoon, she was in class, **kept moving**, she glanced at it with some impatience, it was Lin Lin's homeroom teacher.
After she apologized to her classmates, she went to the door to pick up **, and Teacher Zhu said solemnly: Qian Qiping's mother, why didn't your family come to the parent-teacher conference? Didn't ask for leave either? I heard that you are all teachers, don't you know how to respect people?
She was a little dumbfounded, and hurriedly said: Teacher Zhu, I'm sorry, his father went to the parent-teacher conference, didn't you recognize it?
Teacher Zhu: Hehe, I don't know him, and I don't know Qian Qiping either? He's right next to him, ask yourself.
Pingping cried and said, "Mom, Dad didn't come to the parent-teacher conference, and only my parents in our class didn't come."
Before he could finish speaking, he was already sobbing, feeling particularly ashamed.
Ya Jing held her forehead and coaxed him to say: Lin Lin, don't cry, give ** to the teacher, I will tell the teacher.
She said apologetically: Teacher Zhu, I'm sorry, I'm in class, I can't rush over, I'll go to you after class, okay?
Teacher Zhu said coldly: Okay, but don't do it next time, the child is yours, and the parent-teacher conference is also for the good of the child.
Ya Jing was angry, but she had a big class today, and there were more than 100 students waiting for her, so she couldn't waste their time.
She returned to the classroom and continued her lesson, concentrating as much as she could on the lecture until it was time for the end of the lesson, when she walked away with her book in hand.
On the way to her son's school, she called Qian Ping **, but no one answered.
When he saw his son, he stood alone at the door of the teacher's office, and when he saw her tears falling, he turned his head a little angrily.
She squatted in front of her son and said, "I'm sorry, Lin Lin, your father has something to do temporarily, and I forgot to hold a parent-teacher conference today, you are waiting for your mother here, and I will go to find Teacher Zhu."
After knocking on the door and entering, she hurriedly said: Teacher Zhu, I'm really sorry, Lin Lin's father has something to do temporarily, and I have a class again, so I didn't come to the parent-teacher conference, I'm really sorry.
Teacher Zhu glanced at her and said, "You may not understand, children are very sensitive and have strong self-esteem, and your attitude is very harmful to children."
Yajing kept apologizing, and the teacher reprimanded her for a while, but she didn't say anything, and asked her to take the child back.
When I got home, Qian Ping was lying on the sofa and asked strangely when I saw them: Why did you come back so early? What happened?
Yuan Yajing stared at him and said, "What are you doing in the afternoon?" Why don't you pick up**? Have you forgotten that you are going to your son's school for a parent-teacher conference in the afternoon?
Qian Ping was stunned for a moment and said: Oh, my old classmate came here to participate in the exchange meeting, ate together at noon, drank some wine, and came back to sleep.
Yajing calmed herself down, but she still said angrily: Qian Ping, Lin Lin held a parent-teacher conference this afternoon, I reminded you last night, and you also set a reminder on your phone, didn't you see it?
He rubbed his brows and said, "Hey, I still remember at noon, but we haven't seen each other for so many years, and we finally met together, so I drank a few glasses happily, but I forgot about it when I drank too much."
Ya Jing said with some anger: Aren't they leaving tonight, won't you drink again at night? In your heart, your son's business doesn't matter at all, does it?
Qian Ping was irritated by what she said, and couldn't help but say: Yuan Yajing, we said that we would dink, but you were unexpectedly pregnant, you must give birth to the child, I never thought about having a child, it was you who broke the agreement, I have tried my best, don't be satisfied.
Ya Jing's face was pale, and she said sneeringly: Qian Ping, Lin Lin is 8 years old, how can you say such a thing? He is our Son, and since he was born to us, we are responsible for him.
Ya Jing glanced at her son's room, the door was closed, and she breathed a sigh of relief.
Qian Ping suddenly said solemnly: Yajing, I really don't like children, I've been patient all these years, but you are asking more and more, I don't want to live this kind of life, let's divorce.
Ya Jing looked at him in shock, Qian Ping's face was a little puffy, there were shallow wrinkles at the corners of his eyes, and there was a resolute expression in his eyes.
She calmed herself down, covered her chest with her hands, there was a stuffy pain, and she said with some difficulty: Qian Ping, you said you want a divorce?
Qian Ping nodded, when he said the word divorce, he felt a burst of joy in his heart, he didn't want to live this kind of life, he really wanted to divorce and live alone in the future.
You don't have to worry about your child's studies, you don't have to check his homework, you don't have to think about whether he is out of school, although he hasn't done all these years, but he doesn't want to hear it.
He raised his head and said solemnly: Yajing, let's get a divorce, my salary will give you half every month, what do you think?
Ya Jing sat stupidly, not knowing what she was thinking.
Qian Ping stood up and said: Yajing, we will go through the formalities tomorrow, and I will transfer 4500 to you after the salary, and this house will also be left to you and the child, and I will move to that small house to live.
The more Qian Ping talked, the happier he became, he would eat whenever he wanted in the future, play games when he wanted to play games at night, watch movies when he wanted to, and no longer have to worry about noisy and disturbing children, which is really great.
Ya Jing saw that he was overjoyed and couldn't wait, her heart was cold, she smiled bitterly, and said: Okay, you go and write the agreement, I agree to the divorce.
After saying this, she got up and went to the room to see her son, who was quietly doing his homework, and when he saw her, he smiled at her and said, "Mom, what do you eat at night?" I am hungry.
She walked up to him, hugged him gently, and said: Is it good to cook instant noodles tonight, my mother is a little tired and doesn't want to move.
Lin Lin took her hand and said, "Okay, Mom, then I'll cook it, I'll cook instant noodles."
Ya Jing saw that her son was so sensible, and she was in a much better mood, and said: Okay, then you use a small electric pot to cook, beat two more eggs, wash a few small spinach and put it in.
Lin Lin went to the kitchen excitedly, she went back to the house to change into her home clothes, and sat on the bay window in a daze.
In winter, it always gets dark early, and the lights illuminate the cold streets.
Qian Ping walked in and said: Yajing, this house is for you, the small set belongs to me, the car has been owned by me for several years, the money earned back then, there is still 1 million, I will give you 600,000, I will take 400,000, and I will give you 4,500 monthly child support in the future.
Ya Jing looked at him and said: Qian Ping, the child is 8 years old, and the most difficult period of time has passed, do you still want to divorce?
Qian Ping, you are 48 years old, you really don't want to have a child, even if you go to a nursing home when you are old, do you have someone who often visits?
Qian Ping shook his head and said: No need, wait until you are old to talk about old things, do you know how tiring it is to raise a child? I have to worry about his studies, provide for him to go to college, buy him a house, marry a daughter-in-law, there are too many things, I don't have the energy and patience, Yajing, I still want to live a clean life alone.
She suddenly said: Qian Ping, then what if you regret it when you are old, and you want to let your son support his old age? Don't you think it's unfair to your child?
Qian Ping looked out the window and said: You don't have to worry, I won't regret it, besides, if I give him child support, he should give me a pension, right?
Yajing: Qian Ping, the child has no feelings for you, even if you ask him to provide for the elderly, but how to provide for you at that time depends on his mind, don't you say?
Qian Ping was a little impatient, frowned and said: Don't talk this nonsense, I just want to live how I want to live now, and talk about old things when I'm old, if you have no opinion, sign it quickly.
Yajing said: Qian Ping, Lin Lin is our son, let's give him 1 million, buy him a house, and save the rent for him, what do you say?
Seeing that he was unwilling, she persuaded again: Qian Ping, you just want to live a clean life, now you have a house and a car, and there is no place to use money, buying a house for Lin Lin can be regarded as an explanation for the child, even if he asks him to provide for you in the future, he will have the confidence, don't you say?
He was a little hesitant, this child was born to Yajing, he had endured it since she was pregnant, he thought that he would slowly accept the life of having a child, but now, he was still not happy.
sighed, no matter what, Lin Lin is his child, whether he wants to or not, he has the responsibility to raise him and give him a good life.
He said: Okay, do as you say, I'll ask someone to find a house tomorrow, this 1 million may not be enough, do you still have money in your hand?
Ya Jing shook her head and said: Buy a small set, the small two bedrooms should be about the same, or buy a second-hand house, it can also be cheaper.
He rewrote the divorce agreement again, left the savings to Qilin to buy him a house, and the rest remained the same, and after Yajing signed it, he walked out.
Her son called her to eat, and she went to the kitchen to bring a bowl out, curly noodles, yellow eggs, and green spinach, which made people look very appetizing.
She touched her son's head and said: My family Lin Lin is awesome, my mother is so happy to have Lin Lin here.
After the meal, her son washed the dishes, she went to wash the clothes, Qian Ping walked in and said: Yajing, this card is the money saved that year, and I don't know how much interest there is, you can take it all and buy a house for Lin Lin as soon as possible.
She nodded, wiped her hands and took the card, thinking of finding someone to help inquire about the house, and going to the agent to have a look.
Without waiting for the divorce formalities, Qian Ping packed his things and moved out.
Lin Lin frowned at the time, pursed his lips tightly, and looked at Qian Ping a little stubbornly, and when he was about to touch his head, he avoided him.
Qian Ping sighed and said: Lin Lin, Dad has been in poor health recently and needs to be quiet, so move out for the time being, and you will follow your mother obediently.
When he was about to go out, he suddenly shouted: Dad, are you going to divorce your mother because you don't like me?
Ya Jing walked over and hugged her son's shoulders and said, "Lin Lin, it's really your father who is weak and can't sleep at night, and he needs to be very quiet to move out, and it has nothing to do with you."
Lin Lin suddenly cried and said; Mom, don't lie to me, I heard it, Dad said he didn't want children, woo woo ......
Yajing hugged him and said: Don't cry, don't cry, mom is here, mom will always be with you.
Qian Ping sighed, opened the door and walked out, Lin Lin watched with tears in his eyes as the door was closed.
Yajing comforted her son and said: Lin Lin, your father feels too tired at home, he wants to live a clean life, but he still loves you, we discussed buying you a house, renting it out, and saving the rent for you, and you can use it when you go to college.
Qilin wiped away his tears and said: Mom, anyway, Dad usually doesn't care about me, it's okay, I just need to have a mother.
He heard a few words from his parents that day, and he thought it might just be a quarrel, but he didn't expect his father to move out.
He looked up at his mother and said, "Mom, don't worry, I will study hard, I won't let you worry about it, and I will help you with housework at night."
Yajing shed tears and said: Okay, my family Lin Lin is really sensible, and my mother is so happy.
Yajing bought a second-hand house not far from the school, and the seller was in a hurry to use the money, and she felt that she was really lucky.
The primary school that my son attends is a key primary school, and the nearby house is easy to rent out, the house is only 85 square meters, but the house is very clean, with simple furniture, and can be rented out directly, which cost 1.15 million.
After Qian Ping found out, he said: Yajing, then let's go through the formalities, and call me if there is something in the future.
Seeing his insistence, Yajing was a little sad and said: Qian Ping, do we have to divorce? Lin Lin is so well-behaved and sensible, don't you really like him and don't want to live with us?
Qian Ping shook his head and said: Yajing, forget it, if you are divorced, sometimes you can make an appointment to eat together, but now if you continue to live like this, I don't want to take care of the children, you can't get used to it, there will be more and more contradictions, and in the end you will become enemies.
Yajing, divorce is the best for us now, so let's get together and disperse.
She smiled bitterly and said, "Okay, I'll go tomorrow morning, and I'll see you at the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau at 10 o'clock."
After Yajing and Qian Ping divorced, life didn't seem to be any different, she still sent her children to school, went to work, and went home with her children at night, she cooked, and her children did their homework ......
She couldn't help laughing, it turned out that after the divorce, she was relaxed, she didn't need to wash his clothes, she didn't need to call him to sleep, she didn't need to ask him to wash his hair, in fact, it was good.
When her son went to sleep, she took out a bottle of red wine and went back to the bedroom to drink it slowly.
This bottle of wine was brought back by Qian Ping, he likes to drink red wine, and his friends or customers like to give him wine.
After drinking a glass, it has a somewhat sour taste, and after so many years, she still can't taste the quality of red wine.
When she and Qian Ping got married, he said: Yajing, we don't want children in our lives, as long as the two of us accompany us until we are old, do you say okay?
She was a little surprised, he said: Yajing, when I was very young, I knew that my parents didn't like me, and my brother was unhappy, so he could cry or make trouble, but I didn't do anything, and I would be beaten for no reason.
Once, my mother broke two wooden sticks, and I almost didn't feel any pain in my body, and after being seen by my grandfather, he scolded my parents and took me back to my grandfather's house, and after that, I lived with my grandfather until I was admitted to university.
My grandfather didn't have any money, and I took out my own student loans, and I was busy earning living expenses at the beginning of school, and my parents never took care of me.
Then my grandfather died, and I never went back.
I never understood why my parents didn't like me, and my grandfather said that I didn't have a relationship with my parents.
Yajing, I don't want children in this life, if you agree, we will get married.
Yajing, I was not liked by my parents since I was a child, and I was not confident that I would love my own children, I didn't want to take risks, and I didn't want my children to suffer as much as I did.
She thought about it for several days, she was 30 years old at the time, and she had never found a suitable partner, and she really liked Qian Ping, and finally promised him that the two would not have children for the rest of their lives.
After they got married, they lived a very leisurely life, the two went hiking together on weekends, went to watch night movies at night, and often sat in front of the window and drank two glasses of ...... together
She was unexpectedly pregnant, and after Qian Ping found out, he said: Yajing, I'll accompany you to the hospital, it's been more than 2 months now, and you have to get rid of it quickly.
She was 37 years old at the time, looking at other people's soft babies, she was very envious, several colleagues had given birth to a second child, and she didn't have a child yet, so she had to have this child.
She held his hand and said: Husband, we are almost 40 years old, and after so many years of quiet and quiet life, we are also content, let's give birth to this child.
Husband, don't worry, I will take care of the children in the future, and I won't let you work hard.
Qian Ping frowned and said: Yajing, we said it before we got married, now we have a house, a car and a deposit, isn't it good to live happily every day?
Look at the teachers in the school, as long as they have children, not to mention that their figures have changed, they are also very old, and they are anxious about their children's learning all day long.
Yajing, listen to me, okay? We'll go to the hospital tomorrow morning.
Without waiting for her to say anything more, he went out directly, Yajing knew his attitude, and cried for a long time that night.
She didn't listen to him and insisted on giving birth to the child, Qian Ping was very angry, but in the end, under her soft grinding, she reluctantly agreed to her decision.
She said at the time: Husband, don't worry, I will take care of the child alone, and our life is still the same as before.
Thinking of this, Ya Jing took a drink and couldn't help but shake her head.
How can a child's life be the same, there is a lot of fun in life, watching the child grow up day by day, but there is also endless work, she actually did not do what she said, after a long time, she will call him to help her take the child to play, send the child to kindergarten, let him accompany the child to do homework ......
Ya Jing looked out the window and felt that Qian Ping was right, now that divorce is the best thing for them, otherwise they will definitely quarrel and have constant conflicts in the future.
Although he is divorced now, he is willing to pay child support and use his savings to buy a house for his children, which is already the best result.
Write at the end:Yuan Yajing is divorced, but she feels that this is their best result, since there is no way to work together and raise children together, divorce is the best stop loss.
She broke the agreement when she got married and chose to have a child, so letting him go is also a fulfillment for herself.
Shakyamuni said: The person you love the most in this life is the person who loved you the most in your previous life, all you come are debts, you have to pay them back, you have to pay them back, and if you leave, you have to pay them off.
I don't owe it in the past life, and I don't see it in this life. Origin, I see you in the crowd: At the end, I see you in the crowd.
If you were Yajing, would you choose to have a baby? Comments are welcome!